Children: Why are people having 4+??

WendyTerry420

That is an easy question to answer, there working the system. Have more get more money. Simple as that.

OMG! You get money for having a lot of kids? Dang it! We have 5 that we've been supporting ourselves all this time. Please tell me where I apply for this "free money".

Yeah, I missed the boat on that one too. Maybe because I only have two? I want my free money. :explode:

rich347

I think because some people love kids others do it as an insurance policy just in case one is a screw up...justsayin

aaronrlindemann

**** off.

that is all.

Agreed. Don't be a tool.

tworthen79

I have 4 kids. And I had them because we love children. We can afford them. And the number of kids people have is really none of your business. Just keep your nose in your own house.

MyaPapaya75

people who cant afford them (allowing the government to do so). bleh who knows why they keep going... immature, irresponsible, ..... and for those that can afford them CHEERS... I love kids..... have more!

zeebruhgirl

My gene pool is awesome, can't allow it to fade into obscurity.

THIS. Fact: The world needs more of me and my hubby.
We don't have kids yet but he hates odd numbers.
And I REALLY REALLY want a boy.
So I'll have 4 kids max, and pray one is a boy.

merechai

My point is understand why and not to criticize anyone.

greenmm25

Birth control failure, religion, love of children, etc. are all valid reasons why people have large families. I'm not surprised you don't really "get it" considering you don't have any children yourself and know just how much joy and happiness they can bring. Perhaps their parents are lonely or unhappy and want that unconditional love that a child (or many children) bring.

The bottom line though is that it's none of your business. Pay attention to what's happening in your own womb and forget about somebody else.

Thank you^ I have three babies and I would happily welcome another if he or she should come along after having miscarriages I see how precious, they are. My last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage but before I was thinking wow how am going to handle four all under the age of 6 but then I lost it and I felt awful. I want and take care of my children, so if I did have more why is it your business? I think the Duggars have gone a bit extreme but they love and care for their children, and Michelle is a better mother than most of them out there, but again they care for them with out assistance (even be for the show) so it is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS!!

Contrarian

If people want to participate in overpopulating the world, you cannot stop them. Don't worry about what others do. They're happy.

DrunkenFaeGirl

I have 1 brother. My parents are from a family of 4 and 9. None of their siblings chose to have more than 2. My husband has 6 siblings. We never planned on more than 2 and chose to stop (permanently) after 1. Being from a large family does not dictate that you want a large family. Many have seen how difficult it can be financially as well as how difficult it is to give that many children equal time and attention. Not to mention some people choose not to try intentionally o contribute to overpopulation.
The people I know who have a lot of children did it because they had 2 or 3 of the same gender and refused to stop until they had the opposite as well.

Some_Watery_Tart

That is an easy question to answer, there working the system. Have more get more money. Simple as that.

OMG! You get money for having a lot of kids? Dang it! We have 5 that we've been supporting ourselves all this time. Please tell me where I apply for this "free money".

Yeah, I missed the boat on that one too. Maybe because I only have two? I want my free money. :explode:

I know! And all these years I've worked to save for them to go to college?! Wasted. I could have just told them to get rich by having babies. I feel like such a failure as a parent. :sad: :sad: :sad:

Improvised

My point is understand why and not to criticize anyone.

I love children. Simple as that. They are everything to me.

greenmm25

My point is understand why and not to criticize anyone.

Sorry there are many people out there hating on big families, and I feel I have to defend the choice. If you want the why you might just need to have a baby to get it but mine is I truly love them more than my own life and I also believe they are blessings from God. It maybe hard for anyone else to understand but my husband and I get it.

whierd

My point is understand why and not to criticize anyone.

They enjoy sex and hate condoms. Not difficult to understand.

hypotrochoid

Some people want an army of minions and cloning can be *so* unreliable.

Tropical_Turtle

now my questions are - why do you care? And what gives you the right to pass judgement on them? How do you know if they are or are not meeting their kids needs financially? You do not know the situation of their life at all.

Keep an eye on your uterus and leave others alone.

aquiva33

The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.

Rage_Phish

Our world can not continue to support the amount of people that are being brought into it.

Having a large family simply because you want one, comes off as selfish to me.

I come from a large family and love it, but at the same time i don't plan on having one. 2 seems perfect to me (just enough to replace my partner and myself)

Jziller

My mom is one of eleven kids and I'm one of 4 kids. I love our big family!!! My husband I can't have children of our own and I'm so jealous of the large familes. They are so blessed with so much love. Why do you even care how may children people have?

mynameiscarrie

My point is understand why and not to criticize anyone.

You'll never get why. Why does anyone do anything? And how are a bunch of people on a forum supposed to explain to you why people have the amount of children they have?

I don't have kids either, and I only want a couple when my husband and I do start having kids, but asking other people what the point is in having over 4 children is ridiculous. If someone wants to have a Duggar family full of kids, it's not my business to ask them why they're having so many kids. It doesn't effect my life, so I don't really care as long as they're happy. You should do the same.

nitenichiryu

Which is exactly why I got snipped after two.

rosellasweet

Perhaps their parents are lonely or unhappy and want that unconditional love that a child (or many children) bring.

This is a terrifying reason to have children. Yes, let's bring more children into the world so I can have friends and they can be my emotional sponges.

Anyway, I say have as many as you want. I personally wish people would leave me alone because I have no children. My husband and I will do it when we do it. So quit condemning people for having too many or no children.

VorJoshigan

The earth will be saved by one of my descendants someday. I'm sure of it. Also, more=better.

melinda200208

I believe it is all in what you want. I dont have any kids right now but would love to have at least 3. After that, who knows...? I may want more, I may want to be done. I think it would be great to have a big family, do lots of family adventures, and make lots of memories for my children. I personally believe a lot of children are TOO spoiled and don't need EVERYTHING. Children do not have to be as expensive as a lot of people make it out to be. I think of how much fun it would be and when they grow up they have siblings, nieces, nephews, family gatherings......that is what life is about to me. Family.....I am in my point of life right now where I love getting together with my sister and brother and nieces and nephews. I guess if I only had one sibling (or none) life would be a little boring to be honest..... But, that is my opinion. Yes, I dont think you should have 5 children if you cannot provide for them. On the other hand, children dont need anything and everything.

highervibes

We can't afford many chldren, we also can't afford much meat. Eating our extra children solves both problems!

Fullsterkur_woman

If people want to participate in overpopulating the world, you cannot stop them. Don't worry about what others do. They're happy.

In general I agree with the "MYOB" principle, but there's a line between a manufacturing plant that is ethically earning a profit without destroying the environment and one that is dumping toxic waste, using up natural resources faster than they can be renewed, etc. I think there's a valid analogy at some point. My husband and I opting out of the gene pool can only offset so many people having ridiculous numbers of children. And there aren't enough of us "child-free" out there to make up for the torrent of tots.

And I'll mind my own business when they stop asking me to open my wallet to pay for essential services for this surfeit of scions.

Rage_Phish

I'm not married and I don't have children, but my boyfriend and I live in a very populated city where people feel the need to have 5, 6, 7+ kids. These families don't appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs. We are wondering WHY?! Why do people feel the need to procreate beyond 2 or 3 children? I can understand 2 for sure and even 3, 4 seems a little crazy to me, but any more - that's insane and seems so unnecessary!
Anyone who has reasons for having 4+ kids, please let me know why! And if anyone else has some opinions, I'd love to hear them!

If you don't like it then pick up your **** and move. I like how you judge people by their children. I can see why you don't have kids. It's because you can't keep your mouth shut long enough to get laid. Nuff said

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MRSHHJONES

There's nothing wrong with having several children. Children are ALWAYS a blessing from God. The problems you spoke of are related to the moral decline of our country and the breakdown of the family unit as this country turns it's back of God and Godly values. I don't believe that things will improve until people in our country acknowledge their sinful ways, repent, and put their faith in Jesus Christ as personal savior. Things could be so much better if we lived by God's laws, and not our own.

KatWood

Why do people without kids always question the choices of people who do? I have always wondered that.

Funny....I've actually never asked a person with children WHY they had them, or why so many or few....but you'd probably be surprised at how frequently virtual strangers will ask child-free people questions, or give us flak about our personal reproductive choices.

It definitely goes both ways. Personally, I think its everyone's own business...but I understand the OP's thought process here, because I see way too many situations where people are having children they can't provide or, and don't take care of where I live.

Everyone is entitled to their opinon.

I agree with this totally. I am about to have my first child and I can't tell you how many times in the past I was asked and judged about why we don't have kids. I am surprised how many people are jumping down the OP's throat. I think her question was valid. Getting by without kids can be tough, I can't imagine having that many extra mouths to feed. I think almost everyone agrees that having children brings joy but as adults we need to be responsible and ensure we have the means (financially, emotionally, etc) to take care of them before making the choice to bring another life into the world. That being said if you love children and can support a big family all the power to you.

Fullsterkur_woman