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Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
Oof. Rings too true for me right now. Feel like I’m overthinking everything 🤯4 -
Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
100% truth. Guy I am seeing now is very nice. Sweet and thoughtful. I'm totally freaking out that I will catch feels that then that damned shoe will drop and he will turn into the opposite of what he is now.
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Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
100% truth. Guy I am seeing now is very nice. Sweet and thoughtful. I'm totally freaking out that I will catch feels that then that damned shoe will drop and he will turn into the opposite of what he is now.
I think the potential is there when we progress through life together. It's whether or not you are willing to risk it. Not that you should live in fear of it and I hope that at some point the people involved in the relationship reach a point where it is not really a concern. Not complacency, but actual comfort that you mutually long to be with each other. (ugh, this is almost saccharine or corny, sorry for that.)2 -
Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
I felt this deep within my soul.Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
I'm totally freaking out that I will catch feels that then that damned shoe will drop and he will turn into the opposite of what he is now.
Bad experiences have me afraid to trust people. 🤷🏾♀️4 -
Cutemesoon wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
I'm totally freaking out that I will catch feels that then that damned shoe will drop and he will turn into the opposite of what he is now.
Bad experiences have me afraid to trust people. 🤷🏾♀️
I know what you mean there. Tbh, I don't actually know how to anymore. This is something my therapist and I are working on.3 -
Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
@mattig89ch
Sorry I didn’t see your question to me before.
But yes all of the above statements. I’ve been through numerous abusive relationships and the time I fought back after being pushed down a short flight of stairs I got arrested.
That on top of suffering from major depression makes it extremely hard for me to trust anyone. It’s been 11 months since the above incident and my next court date is next Friday when I have to face him in court.10 -
Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
@mattig89ch
Sorry I didn’t see your question to me before.
But yes all of the above statements. I’ve been through numerous abusive relationships and the time I fought back after being pushed down a short flight of stairs I got arrested.
That on top of suffering from major depression makes it extremely hard for me to trust anyone. It’s been 11 months since the above incident and my next court date is next Friday when I have to face him in court.
Hugs For you
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Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
mattig89ch
Sorry I didn’t see your question to me before.
But yes all of the above statements. I’ve been through numerous abusive relationships and the time I fought back after being pushed down a short flight of stairs I got arrested.
That on top of suffering from major depression makes it extremely hard for me to trust anyone. It’s been 11 months since the above incident and my next court date is next Friday when I have to face him in court.
I am so sorry. Big hugs. I have been there, but I never reported him or went to court because he begged me not to and now denies everything and says I am lying.
All the best for your court date. I hope you get justice.1 -
Good morning everyone! Hugs all around! The weekend is so close now! I hope you all have a great one planned 👍😁0
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Good morning singles.... Happy Friday!0
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Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
@mattig89ch
Sorry I didn’t see your question to me before.
But yes all of the above statements. I’ve been through numerous abusive relationships and the time I fought back after being pushed down a short flight of stairs I got arrested.
That on top of suffering from major depression makes it extremely hard for me to trust anyone. It’s been 11 months since the above incident and my next court date is next Friday when I have to face him in court.
Good for you for fighting back 💪🏼
So sorry you are having to go to court. That is extremely unfair and it shows how backwards our justice system can be sometimes and how big a coward a man that abuses a woman really is......
HUGS to you and I hope everything goes well 2 -
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Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
@mattig89ch
Sorry I didn’t see your question to me before.
But yes all of the above statements. I’ve been through numerous abusive relationships and the time I fought back after being pushed down a short flight of stairs I got arrested.
That on top of suffering from major depression makes it extremely hard for me to trust anyone. It’s been 11 months since the above incident and my next court date is next Friday when I have to face him in court.
If it was intentional, I hope you put him in traction! Good luck on your court date!
Anyone have any plans this weekend?1 -
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people are too serious about trust issues with outsiders, but I think everyone should be given a chance at friendship at least. If they fail even being a friend then you definitely know not to date. People just think about dating though, dating straight away. It's not smart.mattig89ch wrote: »Cutemesoon wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »mattig89ch wrote: »
Perhaps I can answer? After being hurt by scumbags it is difficult to trust that a guy is as nice as he seems to be and you keep expecting something to go wrong. Instead of just appreciating what you have for what it is. Trust issues
I'm totally freaking out that I will catch feels that then that damned shoe will drop and he will turn into the opposite of what he is now.
Bad experiences have me afraid to trust people. 🤷🏾♀️
I know what you mean there. Tbh, I don't actually know how to anymore. This is something my therapist and I are working on.
Maybe it's just me, but I think people want to be with someone they can call their "best friend". So it's kinda like dating and building a friendship all in one. You want to be yourself, and joke around and all that, which is what you do with friends. But there is also a more serious/intimate side which is what you do with someone you are dating. I don't tend to jump into things quickly, and I won't pursue a romantic relationship with someone, if I can't be myself, with all my quirks and weirdness. lol And I am one to lay all my faults and issues out on the table right away.
But I also think people got more serious about trust issues after they have been burned too many times. Yes you can heal from it.... but you still have the scars. The older I get, the harder it is to trust. It's a constant internal battle, but I still try.
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I made it y'all!
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Good morning singles! I get play wedding crasher today! Lol3
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Good morning everyone1
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Good morning singles hope your weekend has been great! Anyone do anything exciting? Any dates ?0
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Versicolour wrote: »
Well get some coffee in ya!1 -
Morning.
I missed out on an invitation to a weekend getaway so no date2 -
Had a date with 2 of my sisters and my niece who is in town from Seattle. We went to the fall festival Saturday.....if that counts as a date..lol!3
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Hi singles! Empty nest here - am loving myfitnesspal and a month into crossfit too. What's everyone up to?3
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yogidani77 wrote: »
I went on a date once... it's been enough years to barely remember it, but at least enough to remember that it happened.2 -
yogidani77 wrote: »
I know lol!0 -
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