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Help needed from Moms (or Dads!) of tween/teenage girls!

Will_Thrust_For_Candy

Hi All!

I am a mom to a wonderful 9 1/2 (going on 19!) year old daughter.

She has recently discovered that she has gotten armpit hair and is absolutely devastated!

Of course I have given her the pep talk.....that is completely normal and happens to all girls and blah blah blah but she is still so upset. She feels like everyone is staring at her if she puts her hand up or does anything where she has to raise her arms.

Obviously I can teach her to shave.....but I'm wondering if that is the best thing to do.

I am considering waxing or laser. But I'm worried that she is too young? Obviously waxing is not exactly pain free, but she has such a little amount! What I would give for my mom to have taken me to have my pits done when I was young.

Thoughts?

Thanks in advance!

Replies

Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt

IMHO, if she's old enough to get hairy pits, she's old enough to learn the 'glorious art' of pit shaving. It's far less traumatic than other hair removals, and they have to learn it eventually. My daughter developed young. Her hair started coming in at 9, and the rest of puberty (periods, boobs, zits, B.O., etc.) hit hard and fast after that. She took it as a slightly gross rite of passage, but took some kind of strange pride in having a reason to shave, too.

LassoOfTruth

As a female that developed EARLY (at 9), I suggest just letting her shave.

essence_in_focus

When my girls were that age and started growing hair, I taught them how to shave.

But when it came to eyebrows, I just told them to wax! Now that they're older they can choose how to deal with their hair. I think 9 is a little young for waxing armpits, but hey, it does last longer and when it grows in it grows in finer. Also, it doesn't hurt that bad. It's not that traumatic at all, at worst it feels like a band aid being ripped off of your skin. No biggy really.

In the end, she's your daughter, you can decide. Waxing is a lot more expensive than shaving and when they're that young waxing does take a bit more upkeep.

Will_Thrust_For_Candy

Thanks all!

Just for the record....I'm not against her shaving nor am I going to make her just "deal with it". Just wanted to see what others experiences have been :happy:

Mcgrawhaha

no, no, no... no waxing or lazer... every girl gets armpit hair, she will survive... I have 4 daughters, 8, 10, 12, and 15... they all came to terms with having to shave very quick. I wouldn't play into it and feed her "drama" about the armpit hair. keep it real, because this is just the beginning of all sorts of things, and tell her welcome to life, here is a razor!

sorry, im just really blunt with my daughters... and my son...

littlelaura

Buy her a copy of The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls (AmericanGirl Library) book 1 , there is a book 2 but I have not seen that one yet. I got this for my daughter when she was 8 or 9 and her body began changing, she enjoyed reading it, she would ask me questions, I suggest you read it first so you can know what is said in it, its a great book and helped so much in making her feel very normal and okay about her body.

Will_Thrust_For_Candy

Buy her a copy of The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls (AmericanGirl Library) book 1 , there is a book 2 but I have not seen that one yet. I got this for my daughter when she was 8 or 9 and her body began changing, she enjoyed reading it, she would ask me questions, I suggest you read it first so you can know what is said in it, its a great book and helped so much in making her feel very normal and okay about her body.

Thank you for suggesting this!

HairRemovalExpert

Has anybody else tried the book from http://www.hairfreebody.com?

It a natural alternative to shaving, waxing and all the other painful solutions to hair removal. I've used it and love it and intend to get my daughter using it in the coming months. I don't want her to use chemical rich creams, and I found shaving made my hair grow back stronger, so that's why I looked for an alternative.

Not only does it remove hair, but has significantly reduced hair regrowth too! They offered full refund when I bought, I assume they still do. Would love to hear if anybody else has tried or does try and what result you get, especially on DD.