goal weight? 108-100?

CaliforniaBarbie

my goal weight is around 108-100 pounds (depending on what hubby lets me get away with) whats yours

SherryTeach

I'm trying to imagine a life where someone else told me how much I could weigh.

healthyloserxxx

Sherry...that was exactly my thought! Yesterday I heard a woman admire another woman's hairdo. Then she proudly said 'My husband won't let me cut my hair, if he would I would wear it like yours'??? I was astounded. Thought I had been rolled back to the 50's! Anyway...weigh what is best for you! PUHLEASE!

MercenaryNoetic26

Could she possibly mean he might not want her to weigh 99lbs?

I'm happy at 120, OP.

herblackwings39

Could she possibly mean he might not want her to weigh 99lbs?

I'm happy at 120, OP.

I'm hoping this as well. That his concern is that she become too thin and unhealthy. At the moment I'm aiming for 150-155 as an ultimate goal weight. It may change when I get closer though.

healthyloserxxx

Well, she's 19 and married...so that may explain.

PikaKnight

How tall are you?

ETA: I'm 5'1 and I'm more aiming for 18-20% body fat versus a scale # goal.

And is there a reason your husband is concerned about you being at or under a certain weight?

water_coloured

Mine is 105 lbs at 5'1.

gotchakatja

The age at which she gets married doesn't have anything to do with the dynamics of a healthy/unhealthy relationship. Unhealthy relationships can happen at any age, just like healthy relationships. Please don't use her age and marital status as something against her. That's not fair. View this objectively, not subjectively.

BHKLEIN

123-127. Getting pretty close! I'd look awful at 100-108. I'm slightly curvy and have a more althletic build so I look much better in the 120s. I don't think my hubby would like it if I got down any further than that. :happy:

CaliforniaBarbie

Could she possibly mean he might not want her to weigh 99lbs?

I'm happy at 120, OP.

thank you for being the first person to look at that comment objectively, he simply cares for my health, more then i seem to sometimes

CaliforniaBarbie

Well, she's 19 and married...so that may explain.

and what might this explain? that im 19 and in a healthy relationship with someone who loves and cares for me more then anyone else? that he cares about my health. it wouldnt matter if im 19 or 30, i have a great relationship and you have no right to judge it depending on what you think of my age.

SezxyStef

I am taller then you but I have my goals and yes my husband as well said "don't get too small" and I will respect his opinion and not get to the point where I am "too small" based on a frank discussion he and I had about where we both consider too small. We came to a good compromise...a 6pack instead of an 8 pack....

and I am not 19.

Doone33

I'm trying to imagine a life where someone else told me how much I could weigh.

LOL!! I couldn't help but chuckle.... But maybe she has eating or weight disorder and needs another to monitor her weight for her! JS!

corgicake

I'm translating this to mean there's a limit to how skinny she can get before he gets concerned for her health.

CaliforniaBarbie

How tall are you?

ETA: I'm 5'1 and I'm more aiming for 18-20% body fat versus a scale # goal.

And is there a reason your husband is concerned about you being at or under a certain weight?

im 5'3" and YES there is a reason he is concerned about my weight, thank you for asking before judging. im recovering from years of an eating disorder, and he is worried that i may slip up if i start to become too thin. when we had met originally i was actually much heavier then my goal weight 114-115, and i was there by extremely unhealthy means, my stomach was con-caved in you could count my ribs, and my hip bones were always bruised on account of the lack of fat that covered them. THIS time im much healthier, i have clean eating habits, and a full 180 lifestyle change. im almost the same weight i was when we met but look so different you would never believe it in pictures.

rms922

I'm happy at my current weight. I'd like to bring my BF% under ten though. Maybe increase my muscle index as well although I think those two things will happen congruently.

CaliforniaBarbie

The age at which she gets married doesn't have anything to do with the dynamics of a healthy/unhealthy relationship. Unhealthy relationships can happen at any age, just like healthy relationships. Please don't use her age and marital status as something against her. That's not fair. View this objectively, not subjectively.

Thank you for pointing this out

Doone33

I will pray for you! It saddens me when one is faced with an eating disorder... There are so many reasons people fight these demons that convince them to starve or even over eat...... I am glad your much healthier.. You should post the pics... I am interested in seeing them the difference between starving yourself and doing it the healthy way... and you may just help someone else!

CaliforniaBarbie

I'm trying to imagine a life where someone else told me how much I could weigh.

LOL!! I couldn't help but chuckle.... But maybe she has eating or weight disorder and needs another to monitor her weight for her! JS!

thank you Doone33 for considering there to be something else behind my comment

victoryaanne

Have to love how people automatically jump to the worse about your hubby. Then think that it is OK because you're only 19, what a world we are living in!

I am trying to get to about 130lbs, depending on how I feel when I get there, I might go a little lower.

SJVZEE

I'm trying to imagine a life where someone else told me how much I could weigh.

Her husband might be her checks and balance to make sure she doesn't go overboard? I asked my husband to do this, since I tend to push things to the limit, and I wanted to make sure I was keeping a healthy perspective on my weight loss.

eta-read OPs other posts and that sounds like what's going on Good for her, for knowing her own limits and setting up healthy parameters!

CaliforniaBarbie

I'm translating this to mean there's a limit to how skinny she can get before he gets concerned for her health.

at least someone could translate it

CaliforniaBarbie

Have to love how people automatically jump to the worse about your hubby. Then think that it is OK because you're only 19, what a world we are living in!

I am trying to get to about 130lbs, depending on how I feel when I get there, I might go a little lower.

i know right they just jumped right on worse possible band wagon and stuck to it. and yes then its ok because sense im 19 i have to be in a horrid relationship

CaliforniaBarbie

I'm trying to imagine a life where someone else told me how much I could weigh.

Her husband might be her checks and balance to make sure she doesn't go overboard? I asked my husband to do this, since I tend to push things to the limit, and I wanted to make sure I was keeping a healthy perspective on my weight loss.

Yes that is basically what it is. he tells me everyday that it doesnt matter if i lose a little more weight, stay the same, or gain everything that ive lost back. he thinks i look great and always has but it me that isnt happy, he respects that i want to lose weight and is helping me to do it the healthy way although he knows i may take it too far so he is here to help me stay healthy

navyrigger46

My wife is 5'4" and her goal weight is 130-135. Personally I think she looks **** good at 140 but 130 is still healthy, and she still looks good there. If you're only an inch shorter I would think you would look like a rail under 110-115, but hey, different strokes right? As for me, I'm 5'11" and my goal weight after all is said and done is about 205, but I'll probably get to 190 or so before I start to bulk back up.

Rigger

miniversion

My goal weighr is 105, 102 would be fine too..

I wonder if when women tell that their husbands do not want them to do this or that, if that is a command or an expression of his feelings. Perhaps it's just the language. A womsn can say that their husband does not want her to, make it sound like a command when in actuality, it's the woman's choice to "not do it" because she wants to please her husband.

Mslmesq

Sherry...that was exactly my thought! Yesterday I heard a woman admire another woman's hairdo. Then she proudly said 'My husband won't let me cut my hair, if he would I would wear it like yours'??? I was astounded. Thought I had been rolled back to the 50's! Anyway...weigh what is best for you! PUHLEASE!

Lol. Just out of curiosity, are you currently married? And/or been divorced?

Raising my hand here as someone who does little things to keep my husband happy (including keeping my hair long) and attracted to me. Been in a loving, committed and still very spark filled relationship with him now for almost 17 years. Also, paid my way through grad school, have a doctorate, and own my own business. No 50's throwback here. Just a woman who loves her husband and is more than comfortable making little compromises in relationships.

Oh....and very grateful to have friends that wouldn't judge me for making a comment like that. :-/

To the op, good for you for changing your eating habits and being healthy. I'm a little over an inch shorter than you and am most comfortable myself around 100 (anywhere from 98-102 is good for me). I have never had an ED and have a healthy relationship with food and my body. First, good for you for being cognizant of your past and keeping it in mind with your eating and dieting decisions. Second, assuming you are also very small framed like me, I have heard the average is about 5 extra pounds per inch. You would be an inch and a half taller than me, so 108 sounds reasonable as a number on your lower end if you are doing a 'comfortable between this and that' kind of thing. Maybe 108-112?

Good luck to you.

CaliforniaBarbie

my goal weight is around 108-100 pounds (depending on what hubby lets me get away with) whats yours

Okay everyone im going to add to this and clear a few things up for everyone.... i said the above comment about my husband as a joke, however serious i may have been. Yes we have a disagreement with what i should and should not weigh. even though its not everyone's business to avoid any further bashing of my relationship ill tell you why we dont agree on this topic.

im 5'3" and there is a reason he is concerned about my weight. im recovering from years of an eating disorder, and he is worried that i may slip up if i start to become too thin. when we had met originally i was actually heavier then my current goal weight, i was about 114-115, and i was there by extremely unhealthy means, my stomach was con-caved in, you could count my ribs, and my hip bones were always bruised on account of the lack of fat that covered them.
THIS time im much healthier, i have clean eating habits, and a full 180 lifestyle change. im almost the same weight i was when we met but look so different you would never believe it in pictures.
My husband is here to keep me from going too far, and thats all i had ment by the above comment everyone is so concerned with.
and NO my relationship is not unhealthy it is actually extremely healthy filled with love, and care, and kindness. and just because im at a young age doesn't give you the right to judge something that you have no freaking clue about.

thank you to all the people that didnt assume the worst by my comment, and you actually cared to figure out if there was something else here, another reason that my comment would make more sense without assuming im in a horrid overly controlled relationship with someone who i have to ask if i can pee... i assure everyone who is "concerned" that is not the case.

toutmonpossible

I'm trying to imagine a life where someone else told me how much I could weigh.

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lorenzovonmatterhorn7549

175-180. I'm 183 right now.