When will people notice my weight loss

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mimimunchery
mimimunchery Posts: 69 Member
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I am totally losing weight for myself and my health. BUT a little recognition never hurts right...😊

So I am female, 41 years old and 5’8”. J currently weigh about 182 or 180 lbs. I’ve lost about 20 lbs since January and about 17 or 18 lbs since March when I started really working hard. My BMI has gone from nearly 31 to about 27.5 or 28. So out of the obese range and firmly in the middle of overweight. Clothes are fitting better and I think looking nicer.

BUT literally NOBODY has commented on my weight. Not my husband (who I haven’t told about my efforts - all he knows is that I’ve been doing strength training with a personal trainer). Not friends. No one.

Is it really not noticeable? I know I was quite chubby to start and I am still pretty chubby, but is there really no observable difference?

So I’m wondering - when do people start actually noticing weight loss? Especially taller women with 30-50 lbs to lose.

Thanks!
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,870 Member
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    This ^^

    And people didn't start (very cautiously ) asking until I was down about 30 lbs.
  • wannabeskinnycat
    wannabeskinnycat Posts: 205 Member
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    Could also be that they see you most days and they can’t notice the difference. What about people who haven’t seen you since January?

    Regardless of them noticing, you know and are proud of yourself. Maybe show them a pre January pic (in general conversation) and see if they notice. Even celebrate your 20lb loss and mention it to friends. Well done you :smile:
  • koalathebear
    koalathebear Posts: 236 Member
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    I feel your pain. I've lost 22kg and I've had wary comments from male colleagues along the lines of:

    "Have you cut your hair?"
    "Your face looks thinner - have you lost weight?"
    "You are looking healthier."

    I've worn really baggy clothes since I got heavy so to be honest, for me the weight loss might not have been quite so noticeable.

    I find it's the women who are more likely to comment on weight loss. Some very observant people noticed at the 8kg mark but I found that people didn't really seem to notice until I was around the 10-15kg mark. In any case, congratulations! You know what you've achieved :)
  • Panini911
    Panini911 Posts: 2,325 Member
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    most people are nervous to mention it until it's blatantly obvious.

    I got a ton of comments and questions a plenty after maybe 30lb (i'm 5'1) . some threaded cautiously first asking if i was ok/had been sick.
  • yuko0407
    yuko0407 Posts: 67 Member
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    Redordeadhead wrote: »
    However, I find that some people are just really cautious about commenting on someone's weight, even if they notice. I never really say to someone "oh, you've gained/lost weight" because I have no idea if it was intentional, if they're sensitive about it or if they even want my opinion.
    This.
    I would never dare to comment on someone's weight if not invited to, in one way or another.
    And... congratulations for your loss!
  • echmain3
    echmain3 Posts: 231 Member
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    Commenting on a person’s weight in today’s workplace is absolutely forbidden.

    Even if done so in a positive, congratulatory way.

    Such a comment can get you escorted to the door.

  • cheryldumais
    cheryldumais Posts: 1,907 Member
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    For me it was at about the 35 pounds down mark and the first comment was kind of humorous... She asked if I was losing weight on purpose, lol. I guess some people thought I might be sick. I have also since encountered people who think it's rude to comment on weight loss just like on weight gain so......... You may have to be patient.
  • Commander_Keen
    Commander_Keen Posts: 1,181 Member
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    You could try to wear more form fitting clothing?
  • SuzySunshine99
    SuzySunshine99 Posts: 2,984 Member
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    Most people are cautious about commenting on your weight, even in a positive way.

    For people who see you every day (husband, family, co-workers), it may actually take them longer to notice if the loss is relatively gradual.

    When I lost weight it was veryyyy slowly. The only people who commented were people who hadn't seen me in a while. Even for my husband, he didn't quite realize how much weight I had lost until he saw a photo of me from a year before and said "holy crap, you lost a lot of weight!"
  • Larissa_NY
    Larissa_NY Posts: 495 Member
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    "When will people notice?" is not the same question as "When will people start commenting on it?"

    Depending on where you lose weight from first, it could take them a short time to notice or a long time. As for when they'll start saying something about it - fortunately, more and more people are getting the message that it isn't okay to comment on other people's bodies.
  • VioletRojo
    VioletRojo Posts: 596 Member
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    Most people are taught that it's rude to comment on other peoples bodies. I wouldn't say anything to anyone who wasn't a very close friend.
  • BattyKnitter
    BattyKnitter Posts: 503 Member
    edited May 2019
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    I have only had 1 or 2 people comment at work who weren't close friends or family and aware that I was making some changes for my health. I'd honestly rather strangers/acquaintances not comment on my body, makes me feel awkward if someone is paying that much attention!

    Am I the only one who finds it really weird when people don't share with their partners that they have been making these changes? I share everything with hubby and he has been my biggest cheerleader through this process. With someone who sees you everyday though the change is very gradual so they might not notice!

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