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  • emmamcgarityemmamcgarity Member Posts: 1,483 Member Member Posts: 1,483 Member
    Our loved ones are the ones whose words hurt the most. Mine was used to me cooking and eating in ways that supported a heavier weight. None of us like change and I don’t think he understood that I no longer put priority on my former eating habits and now have new goals. He would buy me chocolate and not understand why I didn’t want it. He isn’t interested in changing his eating habits, so I’m not asking him to. I make sure I have the tools I need to stay successful. Sometimes I cook higher calorie meals that I would really enjoy for my family. But I know I can’t limit my portion sizes and opt for a frozen meal while my kids and husband enjoy the higher calorie meal. He often offers me food that doesn’t meet my goals. I’ve practiced saying “no thank you”. I don’t think he always understands, but after over a year he has grown to see that I mean it. So he doesn’t push food anymore. Is your husband afraid that your weight loss journey will impact him in some way? Or do you feel like he is just being mean?
  • SanriohippieSanriohippie Member Posts: 76 Member Member Posts: 76 Member
    Same height,but started at 305lbs down to 232 as of this morning.So IT CAN happen.

    I say practice talking yourself out of negative self talk.
    Practice mindful eating.Make time to comfortably enjoy and eat your meals.
    It takes me 20 min to feel full and I don’t realize that if I am eating while driving.

    Don’t negate any hard work or effort you are giving. IGNORE your husband.

    I say slowly stop eating high density caloric foods aka junk food.Replacing them with LOTS of fruits and veggies.

    Good luck and add me for support if you need or want it♥️
  • meganhirschi31886meganhirschi31886 Member Posts: 30 Member Member Posts: 30 Member
    Hey girl! Same height although I'm a bit bigger 235. I'm sorry to hear your hubby isn't so supportive! If you want add me as a friend cuz I need more support also. My hubby says he supports me but his junk food collection and resistance to healthy meals say otherwise.
  • meganhirschi31886meganhirschi31886 Member Posts: 30 Member Member Posts: 30 Member
    Hey girl! Same height although I'm a bit bigger 235. I'm sorry to hear your hubby isn't so supportive! If you want add me as a friend cuz I need more support also. My hubby says he supports me but his junk food collection and resistance to healthy meals say otherwise.

    I meant 245 sorry
  • ItsMeTyItsMeTy Member Posts: 11 Member Member Posts: 11 Member
    Thanks for all your help and support! I really appreciate it.
  • chantalnarcissechantalnarcisse Member Posts: 24 Member Member Posts: 24 Member
    You can do it I used to weigh 230lbs, got down to 120lb and I kept it off for years no one would ever know I was once obese. If I could do it anyone sure you can too. I’m only upto 160 at the moment because I had a baby a few months ago but my husband makes fat jokes at me too I just accept that I’m currently not at my ideal weight but I’m working on it even if sometimes I give in to cravings.
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
    Why is he making fun of your efforts? That is not what a loving husband does. Maybe he needs a punch in the face!
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
    Find something you love to do that is part of your exercise routine. I love swimming so I took up water aerobics. I really love it. Now that COVID19 is here, I can't go to my usual water aerobics class so I adjusted my routines...I walk my dogs Toodles twice a day. I am now doing Yoga and Kettlenetics (cardio w/ KBell). I like it. I started out super slow and I'm just working my way slowly to where I want to be...

    Also, as a survivor, I'd say that your husband needs to change his tune because its not teasing anymore its called ABUSE. (I wasted 5 yrs of my life with that. NEVER again)
  • chantalnarcissechantalnarcisse Member Posts: 24 Member Member Posts: 24 Member
    Find something you love to do that is part of your exercise routine. I love swimming so I took up water aerobics. I really love it. Now that COVID19 is here, I can't go to my usual water aerobics class so I adjusted my routines...I walk my dogs Toodles twice a day. I am now doing Yoga and Kettlenetics (cardio w/ KBell). I like it. I started out super slow and I'm just working my way slowly to where I want to be...

    Also, as a survivor, I'd say that your husband needs to change his tune because its not teasing anymore its called ABUSE. (I wasted 5 yrs of my life with that. NEVER again)

    I wouldn’t assume someone is abusive only from not having much hope for a diet or joking. Some people totally don’t think it’s possible to keep off weight off. Maybe he is just as concerned about her weight but doesn’t know how to show it. Not everyone knows how to be supportive and everyone wants different support anyway. I just don’t think we should be judging anyone so severely from our iPhones since we are playing that game maybe don’t encourage physical violence as retaliation against strangers because that says more about you.
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
    Yeah "Severely" I still think he needs a Punch In The Face!
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
    LOL Oh Please! Severely, You know Nothing about me giphy.gif

    Don't Troll Me.
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
    ItsMeTy wrote: »
    I’m 239 pounds. My goal is 199 pounds. I’m only 5’3 so this can’t be good for my frame. I need some support. My husband keeps making fun of my efforts. I know that I should ignore him but it still stings. :'( Any suggestions on how to start? Thanks in advance!

    Talk With Your Husband About Your Feelings.
  • Megan_smartiepants1970Megan_smartiepants1970 Member Posts: 11,680 Member Member Posts: 11,680 Member
    I started out at 269... I am now 244.2...You are welcome to add me .... and please ignore your hubby.... you do you ...you got this :)
    edited June 30
  • chantalnarcissechantalnarcisse Member Posts: 24 Member Member Posts: 24 Member
    LOL Oh Please! Severely, You know Nothing about me giphy.gif

    Don't Troll Me.
    Wow you sure showed me lol
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
    Oh I know
  • PogostickersPogostickers Member Posts: 170 Member Member Posts: 170 Member
  • Go_DeskerciseGo_Deskercise Member Posts: 1,231 Member Member Posts: 1,231 Member
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    edited June 30
  • chantalnarcissechantalnarcisse Member Posts: 24 Member Member Posts: 24 Member

    boo-hoo
    Lucky your not a man or this would be abuse huh
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