fell off the ban wagon...

zfitgal

Hi everyone, I've been going through a lot lately. I'm a single mother and my ex-husband has been out of my daughter's life for most of it. He recently came out of nowhere and wants to see her. He's very unstable and not well. So I have been fighting in court for the past few months. And I've had my UPS and I've had my downs but it's been very hard. And I have stayed on track I was able to smile everything was okay until yesterday. Yesterday I fell off the bandwagon. Usually when I indulge I'm excited for it I plan it and I'm okay with it yesterday I woke up not even wanting to get out of bed. I said forget this I'm totally going off track I'm not I took the day off completely but it wasn't a happy day was a negative day. Even the food I was eating there was no pleasure from it was just something else using to try to make me feel better. And I'm not that person that uses food in general at all to make me feel better. So yesterday was a bad day. Today I got up in the morning feeling stronger I hit it in the gym pretty strong. I'm feeling more in control and like I can handle what's to come. I just feel kind of down 4 using food yesterday. Because of course I'm up and wait from the Indulgence of the day, which I know by the end of the week we'll come off but it's just annoying. I know I'm human and things like this happen. I just wanted to get on here and vent. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this were they used food negatively I felt depressed about it the next day. Looking for some positive reinforcements here.

LyndaBSS

Life happens. I'll bet most of us have had a day like that.

You acknowledge what the circumstances were and that's a huge step. Just get back on your plan today. It will help keep you positive. ❤

texasredreb

Forgive yourself. Log it all. Move on.

NovusDies

zfitgal wrote: »

Hi everyone, I've been going through a lot lately. I'm a single mother and my ex-husband has been out of my daughter's life for most of it. He recently came out of nowhere and wants to see her. He's very unstable and not well. So I have been fighting in court for the past few months. And I've had my UPS and I've had my downs but it's been very hard. And I have stayed on track I was able to smile everything was okay until yesterday. Yesterday I fell off the bandwagon. Usually when I indulge I'm excited for it I plan it and I'm okay with it yesterday I woke up not even wanting to get out of bed. I said forget this I'm totally going off track I'm not I took the day off completely but it wasn't a happy day was a negative day. Even the food I was eating there was no pleasure from it was just something else using to try to make me feel better. And I'm not that person that uses food in general at all to make me feel better. So yesterday was a bad day. Today I got up in the morning feeling stronger I hit it in the gym pretty strong. I'm feeling more in control and like I can handle what's to come. I just feel kind of down 4 using food yesterday. Because of course I'm up and wait from the Indulgence of the day, which I know by the end of the week we'll come off but it's just annoying. I know I'm human and things like this happen. I just wanted to get on here and vent. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this were they used food negatively I felt depressed about it the next day. Looking for some positive reinforcements here.

I am assuming you have been in a calorie deficit trying to lose weight. If so I think an overfeed day can actually be a really good thing. Ideally you would enjoy the food but your personality is not one to medicate emotionally with food and that is a plus much more than a minus. If you have been in a calorie deficit though you could consider yesterday as medicating yourself physically with food. I am not sure how much stress the body is under being in a deficit but I would imagine it is some stress. Hormones are definitely affected which is why 10-14 day diet breaks are recommended. 1 day breaks are said to do very little to nothing in resetting hormones but you would have had a chance to store lots of glycogen for energy. When your energy is good you have a better chance of being in a more upbeat mood.

The other good news is that 1 day overfeeds typically result in so little weight gain it will probably not even show up on the scale. Water and waste weight will so your weight will likely be up slightly for awhile but it won't last.

You are going through a tough time. Be kind to yourself. You didn't really fall off of anything you took an inconsequential detour.

How as that for positive?

zfitgal

NovusDies wrote: »

zfitgal wrote: »

Hi everyone, I've been going through a lot lately. I'm a single mother and my ex-husband has been out of my daughter's life for most of it. He recently came out of nowhere and wants to see her. He's very unstable and not well. So I have been fighting in court for the past few months. And I've had my UPS and I've had my downs but it's been very hard. And I have stayed on track I was able to smile everything was okay until yesterday. Yesterday I fell off the bandwagon. Usually when I indulge I'm excited for it I plan it and I'm okay with it yesterday I woke up not even wanting to get out of bed. I said forget this I'm totally going off track I'm not I took the day off completely but it wasn't a happy day was a negative day. Even the food I was eating there was no pleasure from it was just something else using to try to make me feel better. And I'm not that person that uses food in general at all to make me feel better. So yesterday was a bad day. Today I got up in the morning feeling stronger I hit it in the gym pretty strong. I'm feeling more in control and like I can handle what's to come. I just feel kind of down 4 using food yesterday. Because of course I'm up and wait from the Indulgence of the day, which I know by the end of the week we'll come off but it's just annoying. I know I'm human and things like this happen. I just wanted to get on here and vent. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this were they used food negatively I felt depressed about it the next day. Looking for some positive reinforcements here.

I am assuming you have been in a calorie deficit trying to lose weight. If so I think an overfeed day can actually be a really good thing. Ideally you would enjoy the food but your personality is not one to medicate emotionally with food and that is a plus much more than a minus. If you have been in a calorie deficit though you could consider yesterday as medicating yourself physically with food. I am not sure how much stress the body is under being in a deficit but I would imagine it is some stress. Hormones are definitely affected which is why 10-14 day diet breaks are recommended. 1 day breaks are said to do very little to nothing in resetting hormones but you would have had a chance to store lots of glycogen for energy. When your energy is good you have a better chance of being in a more upbeat mood.

The other good news is that 1 day overfeeds typically result in so little weight gain it will probably not even show up on the scale. Water and waste weight will so your weight will likely be up slightly for awhile but it won't last.

You are going through a tough time. Be kind to yourself. You didn't really fall off of anything you took an inconsequential detour.

How as that for positive?

Love it!! I've been at goal for a year or so. I eat in a slight caloric defecit because I'm really not hungry...But your right!! I just feel so thick and bloated today

zfitgal

and the last time I had a great day was 5 weeks ago. I usually need a treat day once a month

AnnPT77

Good news: There is no wagon, so you can't fall off it. You've simply returned to your healthy habits, which is all you need to do. The majority of our days determine the majority of our progress; the occasional off day is just a drop in the ocean. Getting back on track is the perfect response (and yay for really laying into that next workout: that's a great stress-buster, for most of us).

Guilt or other bad feelings burn no extra calories, and they feel icky, besides, so there's no point for anyone indulging them. For you, with many challenging and stressful things already happening in your life, that's doubly true.

If it were one of your dear friends telling you the story you're telling us, what would you say to them? I'll bet it wouldn't be "you should feel bad and guilty". So don't say that to yourself.

Many of us have felt like that from time to time (me, for sure), and the key is what you do next: The two main choices are go back to the behavior that will put you on track toward your higher goals, or give up trying (which latter is the only path to actual failure). You've made the affirmative choice: Go, you!

Past is past, unchangeable, not worth guilt. Forward!

Sending strength-waves in your direction. You can handle your challenges, and crush your goals! :flowerforyou:

jjpptt2

Yea, I'm kinda with ya. I don't typically weigh in if I know the reading will be artificially inflated and not representative of an actual weight gain. It's just easier on me mentally that way.

MelanieCN77

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Good news: There is no wagon, so you can't fall off it.

An aside. I only ever heard "the wagon" as to do with booze, but I guess it is used more widely for any habit or streak. However "bandwagon" is a whole other thing yes? As in, something everyone's doing so you jump on? I do love a good mixed metaphor.

psychod787

What wagon? Just keep going....

AnnPT77

MelanieCN77 wrote: »

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Good news: There is no wagon, so you can't fall off it.

An aside. I only ever heard "the wagon" as to do with booze, but I guess it is used more widely for any habit or streak. However "bandwagon" is a whole other thing yes? As in, something everyone's doing so you jump on? I do love a good mixed metaphor.

Bandwagon is the one relevant here. Or ban wagon, per the thread title (I know that was a typo, no worries). I just went with "wagon". Bandwagon is still a wagon, right?

(Per etymologyonline: "1849, American English, from band (n.2) + wagon, originally a large wagon used to carry the band in a circus procession; as these also figured in celebrations of successful political campaigns, being on the bandwagon came to represent "attaching oneself to anything that looks likely to succeed".

ETA: "On the wagon", per wiktionary, is "Originally on the water wagon or on the water cart, referring to carts used to hose down dusty roads . . . . The suggestion is that a person who is “on the wagon” is drinking water rather than alcoholic beverages."

So yeah, different wagon. ).

Apologies for the pedantic digression, OP.

brenn24179

i know quite a few young people going thru this, I went thru it when I was younger and now have a great husband so there is hope. The lady at the gym going thru all the stress of a divorce lost 160 lbs and has gained 50 back so dont let that happen to you! Just be cautious, get back on track, he is not worth it! You want to look good.

slbbw

RE we the same person? Just kidding, but yesterday was not my day either. Back to normal mode today. not overly restricting just back to steady eating according to plan. How you move forward from these stressful moments is what defines this new behavior you have worked so hard to build.

lgfrie

Depressing blow-out days happen during a diet, to everyone. You're already back at the gym, working it. You got to the fork in the road -- that crucial moment that occurs after a blow-out day -- and got back on the horse. So you've already succeeded; there is nothing to worry about here.

There's probably never been a person on a diet in all of history who didn't have the occasional seriously bad day in which they ate a lot of stuff they shouldn't have, and for all the wrong reasons. Right there, that's the fork in the road - some people get back on plan, many others throw in the towel. You already got back on plan. I'd put this one in the Positive column and chalk it up to normal diet behavior.