Birthday Cookies
SeanD2407
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So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
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I think people were just trying to be nice especially since it was your Birthday. You could have had one cookie or even pretended to if you really didn't want to go off track. Also eating cookies does not mean people don't care about health. Why is this considered "bad behaviour?" I eat cookies and cakes often, just in moderation.
People around you are going to do their thing, no matter where you go. I remember back when I was in University I was constantly surrounded by people going out enjoying themselves, dancing, partying and there was lots of pressure to join them all the time. I definitely had my fun, but there was a time for fun and a time for hardcore studying (which was most of the time for me). You have to keep your eye on the prize and focus on your goals and don't worry about what other people around you are doing. But don't be afraid of a little fun once and a while.25 -
You don’t have to eat all the food that comes into the office. You have the power to say no. But if someone made me cookies for my birthday, I’d personally appreciate the gesture and eat at least one cookie. It’s really not surprising that someone got upset if they made you birthday cookies and you sound like you didn’t act appreciative.
It’s also not up to you to determine what other people “need” to be eating.20 -
So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
Happy birthday but wow....just wow...to the bolded part.23 -
I eat ice cream and pizza and cookies and manage to lose weight and stay relatively healthy.
a cookie will not kill you
a donut will not derail your weight loss journey
pizza is not the end of the world
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Do you own the office? Is your name on the letterhead? If not, you can't and shouldn't be dictating the foods allowed in the office.
I worked in an office with 31 men who had very hard labor jobs. They had egg, cheese and bacon breakfasts in the office and ordered extra large heart attack pizzas for lunch. Not a single one of them didn't work it off.
They would offer me food and I would just say "wow, thank you, that looks so good but I brought my lunch today". Every now and then I fit an egg sandwich or slice of pizza into my day.
Being grateful for small kindnesses goes a long way.24 -
I've been eating 1-2 cookies a day lately and I care about my health, But biscotti is damn delcious too.15
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Most people can handle a treat every once and awhile. People were likely trying to be nice. I either would've had a cookie or taken one to my desk and tossed it. I think what others eat is none of your business.8
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Have you seen what The Rock eats on his cheat days? 12 pancakes, 21 brownies and four pizzas. I don't think anyone in his life has accused him of not having fitness goals or caring about his health. People are allowed greasy food and good health.
You don't have to eat cookies if you don't like them, but back off the judgement a bit and show some gratitude and kindness to the people around you, because ignorance is not a good look on anybody regardless of weight.19 -
lol how did this turn into me venting about office snacks to me getting attacked17
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I think most people would expect you to relax on your birthday and it is a good day to eat your maintenance calories and have a little fun.
Unless you have a medical condition that requires that you limit carbs what is so wrong with a cookie?
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Only bad behavior is being selfish..
So the op turned to health "expert" and expect others to follow. How rude of them to have fun and enjoy once awhile.🙄
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Food coming into the office is a very common, and sometimes constant, thing. Lunches catered in and potlucks frequently. We even make big breakfasts a couple times per year, and grill steaks and burgers, several times. At Christmas time, it is constant treats and meals. Customers, vendors and coworkers showing appreciation, good will and holiday greetings.
I don’t even like cake, but my coworkers brought in specially made cupcakes for my birthday, and they were huge cupcakes. I ate 1/2 and saved the other half for the next day. I resented it a little bit ( cuz I really didn’t want it), but get that they did out of only good intentions.
It’s not fair to expect others to change eating habits, because we are trying to.12 -
Happy birthday!
It does sound as if you're putting too much pressure on yourself.
Here is the thing: I don't get upset if someone offers me anchovies or picked herring for breakfast. I just decline. And it really doesn't matter to me that everyone else enjoys them. I still decline. Couldn't matter less to me whether they eat them everyday, or once a week on Friday.
So believe in yourself.
You CAN be healthy and still eat the *occasional slice of pizza* or *a cookie* once in a while.11 -
lol how did this turn into me venting about office snacks to me getting attacked
Probably because you started the attack when you accused people who enjoy snacks of being unhealthy and not caring about health. Most of us enjoy snacks and care about our health. It's hard to empathize with that kind of judgement of others.
I do sometimes feel stressed by how many snacks are available at the office, but that's on me to deal with. There's no call for being cranky at others about my own decisions.
And honestly, I have enough bad feelings and self hate tied up in how I eat that I really don't need that kind of guilt from others. Everyone has their own crap to deal with.16 -
I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.13 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made18 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
but this post was about cookies brought in FOR YOU on your BIRTHDAY. that's different than "eating snacks and *kitten* every day at the office". Then seemingly being ungrateful and rude about it.
Hell you could have thanked them, smiled, taken a cookie or two in your office and discreetely trashed them so they wouldn't know. i assume they didn't mean for your to eat all of them.15 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
Congratulations on your results! Clearly you've figured out what works for you - which makes the venting a little more confusing to me.
But that's a 'me' problem.
Keep on keepin' on...2 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
No one is telling you to eat all of it, or any of it. They're telling you that if someone makes a kind gesture towards you on your birthday, accept it in the spirit it's given instead of whining about how unhealthy that person is. One cookie on your birthday will not reverse 600 days of work. Neither will people eating donuts around you. You should have learned by now to adjust your calories to include stuff anyway.
Also stop calling food garbage. Applying moral judgement to food is how people get eating disorders. Food is food. Garbage is what's in bins. Personally I love donuts and pizza, have dropped like 40 pounds anyway and don't appreciate being called a garbage eater.29 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
That's great that you've made progress. However, your post makes it sound like you were rude to well-meaning coworkers who were nice enough to do something for your birthday.6 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
Congratulations!
No one is telling you to eat everything that comes in to the office. Just to graciously accept a cookie on your birthday, it’s not going to make you gain back weight, it may just make office relations a little more pleasant.
Good on you for resisting for almost 600 days. We all know that it isn’t easy.3 -
Just a thought. Next time it is your turn to bring something for a friends birthday, etc. bring a fun toy or cheap book. Dollar store items. I have taken my guys small soduko (spelling.) books. 6/$1.00 at everything’s a dollar, those little games where you try to get the bb in the little hole, etc. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em, but YOUR way!2
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bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
but this post was about cookies brought in FOR YOU on your BIRTHDAY. that's different than "eating snacks and *kitten* every day at the office". Then seemingly being ungrateful and rude about it.
Hell you could have thanked them, smiled, taken a cookie or two in your office and discreetely trashed them so they wouldn't know. i assume they didn't mean for your to eat all of them.
This.
It sounds like you were trying to teach them how to eat better based on your rules and example... virtue signalling. You could have taken a small bite told them how good it was and how much you appreciated it and then tossed the rest out.
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You could have just eaten a cookie.
Is that a wrap for you? This is your permanent lifestyle? No cookies or treats forever because they are "garbage"?
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So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
Wow. Not sure what to say other than if you were my coworker, that would be the last birthday we ever celebrated for you.15 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.11 -
So your venting coz YOU don't have self control.. and blaming your coworkers instead. ✔️25
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runnermom419 wrote: »So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
Wow. Not sure what to say other than if you were my coworker, that would be the last birthday we ever celebrated for you.
GOOD. Keep the treats away. lol10 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.
I'm glad that you didn't say the things to your coworkers that you're posting here.
It's really not your business what someone else eats. It only becomes your business if they ask your opinion on their eating. The people who are eating donuts might not have eaten breakfast, or they just want a donut; it doesn't matter either way to you.
You don't have to partake in all the office food. You don't have to partake in any of the office food. The way I personally approach office food is that if it looks "special" (i.e., homemade or hard to find), and I want it, then I budget calories for it. If I don't want it or it's something I can easily get anytime at a local store, then I go with, "no thanks, I'm not hungry."
But if folks bring you birthday cookies, I think the least you can do is thank them and take a cookie or two "for later." What you do with those cookies is your business. Throw them away, eat them, take them home if there's someone else you want to give them to.5
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