Birthday Cookies
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bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
No one is telling you to eat all of it, or any of it. They're telling you that if someone makes a kind gesture towards you on your birthday, accept it in the spirit it's given instead of whining about how unhealthy that person is. One cookie on your birthday will not reverse 600 days of work. Neither will people eating donuts around you. You should have learned by now to adjust your calories to include stuff anyway.
Also stop calling food garbage. Applying moral judgement to food is how people get eating disorders. Food is food. Garbage is what's in bins. Personally I love donuts and pizza, have dropped like 40 pounds anyway and don't appreciate being called a garbage eater.29 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
That's great that you've made progress. However, your post makes it sound like you were rude to well-meaning coworkers who were nice enough to do something for your birthday.6 -
bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
Congratulations!
No one is telling you to eat everything that comes in to the office. Just to graciously accept a cookie on your birthday, it’s not going to make you gain back weight, it may just make office relations a little more pleasant.
Good on you for resisting for almost 600 days. We all know that it isn’t easy.3 -
Just a thought. Next time it is your turn to bring something for a friends birthday, etc. bring a fun toy or cheap book. Dollar store items. I have taken my guys small soduko (spelling.) books. 6/$1.00 at everything’s a dollar, those little games where you try to get the bb in the little hole, etc. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em, but YOUR way!2
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bennettinfinity wrote: »I'm picking up on the zeal of the 'newly converted', so I'm guessing that you're relatively new to this weight-loss thing. There are couple of handy factoids that might help you see why your venting was unnecessary.
- Humans are social animals; food is a big part of that
- One cookie, burger, <insert evil food option here> is not going to derail your progress
Just be grateful that your co-workers chose to mark the occasion and move on with your life.
Went from 5"6 218lb to 153lb as of this morning. Been logging almost 600 days straight. I've had ups, downs, plateaus ect. Just saying if i ate the garbage brought into work every day.. no progress would be made
but this post was about cookies brought in FOR YOU on your BIRTHDAY. that's different than "eating snacks and *kitten* every day at the office". Then seemingly being ungrateful and rude about it.
Hell you could have thanked them, smiled, taken a cookie or two in your office and discreetely trashed them so they wouldn't know. i assume they didn't mean for your to eat all of them.
This.
It sounds like you were trying to teach them how to eat better based on your rules and example... virtue signalling. You could have taken a small bite told them how good it was and how much you appreciated it and then tossed the rest out.
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You could have just eaten a cookie.
Is that a wrap for you? This is your permanent lifestyle? No cookies or treats forever because they are "garbage"?
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So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
Wow. Not sure what to say other than if you were my coworker, that would be the last birthday we ever celebrated for you.15 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.11 -
So your venting coz YOU don't have self control.. and blaming your coworkers instead. ✔️25
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runnermom419 wrote: »So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
Wow. Not sure what to say other than if you were my coworker, that would be the last birthday we ever celebrated for you.
GOOD. Keep the treats away. lol10 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.
I'm glad that you didn't say the things to your coworkers that you're posting here.
It's really not your business what someone else eats. It only becomes your business if they ask your opinion on their eating. The people who are eating donuts might not have eaten breakfast, or they just want a donut; it doesn't matter either way to you.
You don't have to partake in all the office food. You don't have to partake in any of the office food. The way I personally approach office food is that if it looks "special" (i.e., homemade or hard to find), and I want it, then I budget calories for it. If I don't want it or it's something I can easily get anytime at a local store, then I go with, "no thanks, I'm not hungry."
But if folks bring you birthday cookies, I think the least you can do is thank them and take a cookie or two "for later." What you do with those cookies is your business. Throw them away, eat them, take them home if there's someone else you want to give them to.5 -
when I turned 30 I remember eating applesauce with strawberries in it. mmmmm5
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runnermom419 wrote: »So my Birthday was the other day and my office brought me in cookies. Really annoyed. Most know I have fitness goals and don't eat junk... i put the cookies in the breakroom for other ppl but people got offended. "whats a matter you didn't like them". Just venting.. im tired of office always finding excuses for cookies. cakes, donuts, candy and lately once a weeek they even bring in pizzas.
It's like nobody cares about health. These people don't need to be eating cookies all day so stop using my Birthday as an excuse to indulge in bad behavior and pressure others to eat them too.
Wow. Not sure what to say other than if you were my coworker, that would be the last birthday we ever celebrated for you.
GOOD. Keep the treats away. lol
Well, tell them just that then. "Please do not invite me to eat anything brought in by the group, I only eat what I brought. Because, goals."
See how many friends you make at work and how quickly you get alienated by doing that. Look up the word gratitude. You sound like a spoiled brat. Next year, bring in carrot sticks and hummus to celebrate your birthday if you can't make one cookie a year fit into your calorie goals.
I work with the most amazing baker. Seriously, her treats remind me of my grandma's baking. Due to distance, I only see my grandma a few times a year. Are her treats full fat and full of deliciousness? Heck ya! Do I make that treat fit into my calorie goals? Heck ya! Do I thank her profusely even if I decide not to have a treat? Heck ya!13 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.
Have you considered therapy? Extremes are not healthy.
Also, you may not have the poker face you think you do when it comes to your attitude about what they are eating. You need to let that go because keeping it under wrap is not as easy as most people think.14 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.
Second breakfast. It's what I eat after I've ran for over an hour, have a light breakfast, and still come to work starving.9 -
Hobbits eat a second breakfast so it can't be a bad thing.9
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I’m going to chime in in support of the OP. Amazed that so many suggest taking a cookie and then secretly chucking it. I don’t have that much deception in my nature and don’t want to have. Just glad I don’t work at an office.
The OP wasn’t rude and offered the cookies to others without making a huge point of it, then was hounded by rude people insisting he change his diet to suit them. That’s not appropriate nor is it well meaning. It’s not “just trying to be nice” to insist someone take something they don’t want.
How about this, instead of “oh don’t you like them? My poor widdle feelings are hurt” an actual well-meaning person would say, “Oh, I guess I wasn’t thinking about your diet, sorry about that.” And then the OP could say, “No reason you should have known, I appreciate the thought,” and everyone could go on with their lives.14 -
LOL of course i wasn't rude to any of their faces.. that's why I'm venting to you guys. I appreciate the gesture, I just don't understand office culture. Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.
Are you them? Are they you? Why are you so worried about what other people eat? Just because one cookie apparently leads to a night long binge for you doesn't mean it does for others. And, no, you didn't outright say it but that rant was a bit specific and rants don't come from nowhere.
Eat and enjoy your carrots and hummus and others can enjoy their cookies just as much.
Also...N=1 (thanks mfp for teaching me what that means) 120 lbs down whilst eating a hell of a lot of cookies.
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Like when people bring in donuts thats another 400 calories min on top of what they have for breakfast (yes im assuming ppl eat breakfast) .
And for me one cookie leads to a box of them which leads to "might as well get a pizza tonight already over on calories" which leads to a milkshake for desert followed by midnight taco bell.. than a chinese buffett to "I'll get back on track next week let me eat these burgers first".
So no one cookie is not a good idea. I'd rather have carrots and hummus. Same calories as a cookie with better use of caloric resources.
And this, my birthday friend, is in part why so many of use are reacting to what you're saying!
Because yes, you've spend 600 days to get here, which is excellent and shows that you CAN do things in a moderate/sane manner.
But at the same time it sounds *based on what you say above* that you've basically achieved this using a lot of white knuckling.
Here is the thing, though.
In order for you to maintain your loss over the next 5+ years, you will now have to spend another 2000 days doing... the same-o, same-o: managing your weight!
Way longer than you have done so to date.
And, frankly, having the mindset that one cookie or one donut will open up the floodgates and be your downfall is not going to make things easy for you.
I've only been at maintenance a bit more than half of the requisite 5 years; but, I can tell you that a turning point for me in making this feel sustainable was realizing that I can't have ALL of the stuff ALL of the time.
But I can most certainly have ANY of the stuff SOME of the time.
And that what you do MOST of the time is what determines your ability to succeed.
Best of luck.16 -
rheddmobile wrote: »I’m going to chime in in support of the OP. Amazed that so many suggest taking a cookie and then secretly chucking it. I don’t have that much deception in my nature and don’t want to have. Just glad I don’t work at an office.
The OP wasn’t rude and offered the cookies to others without making a huge point of it, then was hounded by rude people insisting he change his diet to suit them. That’s not appropriate nor is it well meaning. It’s not “just trying to be nice” to insist someone take something they don’t want.
How about this, instead of “oh don’t you like them? My poor widdle feelings are hurt” an actual well-meaning person would say, “Oh, I guess I wasn’t thinking about your diet, sorry about that.” And then the OP could say, “No reason you should have known, I appreciate the thought,” and everyone could go on with their lives.
I think it is very commendable that you are giving the OP the benefit of the doubt. I say that with no sarcasm. It is a good trait to have.
I don't really agree with you. If you ever see a person that is really uptight for a long period of time don't you ever just want to encourage them to relax and have a little fun? I think that is what his well-meaning co-workers were trying to accomplish.4
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