My roommate situation- am I really the problem?

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Glazed_and_Confused

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DonutEatThat wrote: »

I lived with a random roommate who ended up being an unmedicated paranoid schizophrenic. Waiting out my lease was the hardest thing ever (the complex wouldn't let me out of it without finding someone to sublease and the place was in disarray and no one was likely to take it over). Try to avoid contact as much as possible until you can get into the other duplex. If you and dog can stay out of the apartment more (hang out with friends/family) I would definitely suggest that.

I lives with someone with a similar condition. He also had a bit of a meth habit. He never hurt me. It was actually a fascinating experience. He believed that this Pochohantas book possessed the soul of his father. It was one of those kids books that had buttons and makes sounds. When he pressed the button he thought it was saying “help me”.A part of me misses that crazy sharehouse. I dunno what that says about me..

It says a lot that you were open and able to deal with it. It's not easy. I liked him a lot in the begining, his quirkiness was fun until it wasn't anymore.

it might be an age thing bc when i was 18-22 i lived in a house where we let anyone crash there and woke up all the time to just random bodies strewn about. i had conversations until early AM out on balcony with random people we invited off the street who were clearly kinda crazy af but i was like “omg u are so fascinating!! how long have u had your imaginary dog and what’s his name?!”

nowadays my bff comes into town and i’m like “youre gonna be in a hotel right? i don’t like seeing other people early in the morning”

Wow that's intense, glad to hear nothing bad happened. 💚 It's definitely an interesting experience, I always liked hearing my roomie's other perspectives and stories.

missjck2

Hopefully your lease is up soon if you have one. I'd move ASAP! I can understand you wanting an independent opinion but you shouldn't have to live in a hostile environment - no matter what the issues may be. Roommates are great price wise but not if its costing you mentally...

o0kody0o

If it were me, I’d try and find some place else as soon as possible. Your roommate seems to be going through some things and the fact that he told you he will “explode on you” (what a choice of words 🙈) is worrying. In a way, I can understand that he’d be a bit annoyed if you both agreed on things (shoes off etc) and you hadn’t been sticking to your agreement. However, the way he has handled the situation seems a bit immature (ignoring you, headphones on to avoid speaking, the outburst etc) You seem to be a very reasonable and understanding person but you shouldn’t be made to feel like you’re walking on eggshells in your own living space, that you pay for. Being in your situation would cause me a great deal of stress and I really couldn’t live like that. I wouldn’t bother trying to talk to him again (it sounds like that would probably suit him anyway). In the meantime, try and find a better place to stay. I know it’s easier said that done. I’d also be reluctant to leave my dog alone with the roommate, in case he “explodes”. If you don’t mind, keep us updated 😊

Best of luck to you and your dog 🐶 🤗

rheddmobile

I’m going to offer a slightly different take - I think you are mostly projecting due to your own fear of being disliked, and the situation is not that dire. Obviously it’s not you. He didn’t stop talking to you because of the dog, he stopped talking to you because he’s depressed and needs meds. That doesn’t mean he’s about to flip out and kill you in your sleep - very few depressed people do this - it just means he can’t function well at the moment, and you aren’t on his list of essential relationships to maintain.

Really, until you confronted him to ask why he wasn’t speaking, there was no problem. Solution? Don’t bug him again. Wait until the other apartment is furnished and move out, since it’s not a pleasant situation, but otherwise, stop stressing about it, because from where I sit, you stressing about his issues is the problem, as far as you’re concerned. You won’t die from living with someone who doesn’t much like you. Just ignore him and go on with your life.

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