What’s a red flag for you?

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  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,074 Member
    @happimess01 if someone says they don’t got atleast one red flag, they are the red flag 🤣 I’m ✨self aware✨

    True. I will be the first to say I have more red flags than a Chinese military parade but I am working on it lol
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”
  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,074 Member
    if they have been attacked by a therapy dog on more than one occasion
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    if they have been attacked by a therapy dog on more than one occasion

    True story
  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,074 Member
    if they have been attacked by a therapy dog on more than one occasion

    True story

    ;)
  • OnlyPans
    OnlyPans Posts: 629 Member
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    I know a couple of fantastic women who do this. It's annoying as hell, and they have a bunch of really attractive qualities. That one turns all of the attractive off.
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    OnlyPans wrote: »
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    I know a couple of fantastic women who do this. It's annoying as hell, and they have a bunch of really attractive qualities. That one turns all of the attractive off.
    Yes & sometimes it feels manipulative
  • OnlyPans
    OnlyPans Posts: 629 Member
    edited September 2022
    OnlyPans wrote: »
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    I know a couple of fantastic women who do this. It's annoying as hell, and they have a bunch of really attractive qualities. That one turns all of the attractive off.
    Yes & sometimes it feels manipulative

    With one of them it does - she's sharp and pretty, and probably weaponizes those responses (or in my case, the lack of counter argument).

    With the other i think it's a mental health issue. Constantly apologizes too, like her existence being a burden has been beaten into her. Literally can't express her own opinion without an apology attached. She's managed to be very successful despite this glaring issue, which says to me she's highly capable otherwise.
  • MelG7777
    MelG7777 Posts: 14,230 Member
    OnlyPans wrote: »
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    I know a couple of fantastic women who do this. It's annoying as hell, and they have a bunch of really attractive qualities. That one turns all of the attractive off.
    Yes & sometimes it feels manipulative

    I promise that’s not what I was doing yesterday when I told you I felt fat lately.💀
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    edited September 2022
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    OnlyPans wrote: »
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    I know a couple of fantastic women who do this. It's annoying as hell, and they have a bunch of really attractive qualities. That one turns all of the attractive off.
    Yes & sometimes it feels manipulative

    I promise that’s not what I was doing yesterday when I told you I felt fat lately.💀
    🤗I promise not to be passive aggressive with you. If I ever have something to say to you I will say it to you. Plus I sadly understand that feeling.
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    edited September 2022
    OnlyPans wrote: »

    With the other i think it's a mental health issue. Constantly apologizes too, like her existence being a burden has been beaten into her. Literally can't express her own opinion without an apology attached. She's managed to be very successful despite this glaring issue, which says to me she's highly capable otherwise.

    this isnt me but also i feel called out somehow
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    jesus *kitten* christ i need to learn bbcode bc it is messed up everytime i try

    maybe this is a sign
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    If they can’t be friends with, or respectful to, people they are sexually attracted to also.

    What dat mouf do?
  • MelG7777
    MelG7777 Posts: 14,230 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    If they can’t be friends with, or respectful to, people they are sexually attracted to also.

    What dat mouf do?

    Don’t play coy with me.
  • tigrig
    tigrig Posts: 663 Member

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  • Rickimariefit
    Rickimariefit Posts: 64 Member
    edited September 2022
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    Ugh a “pick me” is the worst ‼️
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    Ugh a “pick me” is the worst ‼️
    Sometimes men do this Poor pitiful me song and dance that just drives me nuts
  • Reckoner67_again
    Reckoner67_again Posts: 184 Member
    Ugh this thread is describing me I'm so awful
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    Ugh this thread is describing me I'm so awful

    I see what you did there
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    Ugh this thread is describing me I'm so awful

    they are all wrong i will pet your hair and tell you youre pretty
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    Ugh this thread is describing me I'm so awful

    they are all wrong i will pet your hair and tell you youre pretty
    😂❤️
  • honey_honey_12
    honey_honey_12 Posts: 14,701 Member
    If he seems perfect 👎
    No one is
  • Rickimariefit
    Rickimariefit Posts: 64 Member
    If he seems perfect 👎
    No one is

    THIS ‼️‼️‼️
  • Rickimariefit
    Rickimariefit Posts: 64 Member
    People who habitually insult themselves so that everyone around them says, “no,no, you’re wonderful.”

    Ugh a “pick me” is the worst ‼️
    Sometimes men do this Poor pitiful me song and dance that just drives me nuts
    YES EW. Don’t ask or beg for pity from me because you won’t get it. You will only get that if it’s sincere.
  • CoffeeNstilettos
    CoffeeNstilettos Posts: 2,593 Member
    When they are always complaining and have a negative attitude towards almost everything. I've spent a part of my life being negative myself and it's not something I want to be around anymore. It is draining.
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    When they are always complaining and have a negative attitude towards almost everything. I've spent a part of my life being negative myself and it's not something I want to be around anymore. It is draining.
    I find it hard to imagine. The person you are today is a beam of light

    it’s amazing how one person can change the mood of a room for better or worse.
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 6,127 Member
    When they are always complaining and have a negative attitude towards almost everything. I've spent a part of my life being negative myself and it's not something I want to be around anymore. It is draining.

    No time to be around anyone who ain’t bringing you joy - we too old for thst chit - I try to teach my kids now while they are young