Things people say when you lose weight

connie9405

My least favorite, sour puss, can’t-say-anything-nice-to-anyone aunt told me at my brothers wedding, (after I had lost approx 40 lbs out of the 200s range:) “What! Your husband can’t afford to feed you anymore?” Thank you Aunt Fran. 😡

fanncy0626

Jealousy 😕

jenncornelsen

Totally agree on jealousy. I often get uncomfortable when people comment on my weight loss. Especially if they say aren't you done losing? - no technically I am still considered overweight.

ChelleDee07

I literally lost friends over my weight loss. Seriously. You'd think they'd be in your corner... supportive and rooting for you to get healthier, but nope!! I agree with those above... PURE JEALOUSY and it is downright ridiculous. I have dealt with this reaction from acquaintances to one who I was best friends with for more than 20 years to even family members.

koalathebear

I have lost friends, too and it shocked me. I kept really, really quiet about my fitness journey and only commented on it when the weight loss became noticeable and people asked me abut .

The antipathy was people who also had tried losing weight in the past and then suddenly they were really dismissive of my efforts, telling me that they were happier with their bodies now and weight was just one indicia of health and they were fitter than they were before despite being heavier and recovery time from exercise was more than weight ... Other people disparaged my cardio (combination of walking, HIIT, zumba and elliptical) and claimed that they were more into "hard core" and "more intense" exercise - even though to be honest they seeemed to be out of breath just doing gentle exercise ... Other people told me that they didn't have time to do exercise/wanted to enjoy life more and eat what they want - even though I explained this wasn't a diet and I wasn't starving myself and I still ate what i wanted but was more careful and I was mindful about my calorie budget.

It's just been a really weird trip to be honest. Even when I say nothing/next to nothing about it, people get really defensive about their weight/fitness and make strange excuses and explanations to me even though to be honest, I don't really care... it's up to each person what they want to do and the fact that I decided to make a change, doesn't mean I think they should.

springlering62

Oh! Oh! I finally have one! Friend of mine dated this creepy serial dater for several years. Just ran into him with friends at a show. He kept looking at me funny, esp since I greeted and called him by his nickname, as if I knew him well. It wasn’t til they introduced us that the other shoe dropped. They invited him to walk home with us, to see their new home. Before, intermission, and after the show, and on the walk home, he kept saying,”I can’t believe it!” Over and over and over like a fricking broken record.

I never could see what she saw in this dumbass. I guess his charms just escaped me.

SoHowLongIsThisGonnaTake

connie9405 wrote: »

My least favorite, sour puss, can’t-say-anything-nice-to-anyone aunt told me at my brothers wedding, (after I had lost approx 40 lbs out of the 200s range:) “What! Your husband can’t afford to feed you anymore?” Thank you Aunt Fran. 😡

Google translate, Aunt Fran to Polite English:
"What! I'm shocked by your weight loss! You look amazing!"

elisa123gal

I think Aunt Fran was giving you a compliment..but it surprises me a woman would stick their foot in their mouth like that... ... my husbands friend said the same sort of thing... "what happened you aren't feeding her any more?" I realized he was giving me a compliment in his clod like way. lol. men.

kgb6days

Bottom line - when you start doing something positive for yourself it ends up making them feel bad about themselves so they have to be dismissive of your positive changes to boost themselves up. These people are really sad. I didn't realize that until I did some major work at looking at myself and my own self esteem.

J_NY_Z

"Really? You lost 20 pounds...huh..."

SoHowLongIsThisGonnaTake

J_NY_Z wrote: »

"Really? You lost 20 pounds...huh..."

Wow

born4joy

A lot of people feel threatened when someone close to them begins to succeed in healthy changes. They may have convinced themselves that it's just not possible for them, i.e. they don't have the time to work out, they don't have the money for healthy food or the gym, they've got the wrong type of metabolism, etc., etc., and besides, everyone they know is in the same boat... and then you start making changes and succeeding, and it unsettles them. I believe many, many people feel judged when you succeed where they haven't. They're the type who silently insert words into our responses. "How did you lose so much weight?" "Oh, I decided I needed to exercise more and make healthier choices about what I ate..." (at which point, they mentally insert the words, "unlike you.") It's hard not to take it personally, but if they're not ready, and if they're feeling insecure, they're not going to be thrilled by your success. Hopefully, they'll get to a better place. Until then, I am happy to cheer you on. Well done, you! Grab some confetti and balloons, put on some dance music, and let's celebrate every pound gone, every mile run, every push-up accomplished - and maybe someday, our friends will have their revelatory moment and join us.