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Overweight partners, NEAT, and the division of labour

OrphiaOrphia Posts: 6,938Member Member Posts: 6,938Member Member
I don't want to sound like I want to insult my beloved (I'm certainly not trying to), but fit and healthy people do actually feel tired sometimes, especially after a trying day at work.

And when anyone is tired, we can feel or sound resentful and grumpy.

I've got a lot more to say about NEAT and the conflicts in an overweight person's mind that say, "I'm overweight and shouldn't eat anything, and I'm hungry, and feeling weak, so I'll just leave this thing here..."

I'd appreciate hugs if you can sort of see where I'm going with this, and will give hugs in return if you say you relate.
edited December 3

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  • RetiredAndLovingItRetiredAndLovingIt Posts: 635Member Member Posts: 635Member Member
    My sis-in-law got a Roomba & loves it. I could tell from all the pop ups that we get now, that dh was looking at them, too. I told him I didn't need it, I just need to be less lazy, lol. Then I got to thinking, maybe it would be nice..so now, I am encouraging checking into them. Of course, we are both retired, so I have the time to do it, just not the inclination, lol.
  • InspectorRedInspectorRed Posts: 730Member Member Posts: 730Member Member
    I walked in the door yesterday to find a sink full of dirty dishes and hubby napping on the couch....he took the day off yesterday, slept in, did a little shopping, and then apparently still felt wore out enough for a nap and he is in relatively good shape (we both go to the gym every morning)...I was annoyed but we have been married 26 years so I would have been more surprised if the dishes had been done LOL!
    I notice the little messes around the house a lot more than he does, sometimes he just doesn't seem to realize that things need picked up or cleaned. He is way better now than he was a few years ago when I ASK for help, but nagging or whining about what he didn't do NEVER works, only causes arguments.
  • ellie117ellie117 Posts: 243Member Member Posts: 243Member Member
    My sis-in-law got a Roomba & loves it. I could tell from all the pop ups that we get now, that dh was looking at them, too. I told him I didn't need it, I just need to be less lazy, lol. Then I got to thinking, maybe it would be nice..so now, I am encouraging checking into them. Of course, we are both retired, so I have the time to do it, just not the inclination, lol.

    I will say, as a Roomba owner for almost a year now, it is amazing. I almost think it's a requirement for pet owners, if price wasn't such an inhibitor. If you can afford it, get it!
  • pinuplovepinuplove Posts: 12,820Member Member Posts: 12,820Member Member
    ellie117 wrote: »
    My sis-in-law got a Roomba & loves it. I could tell from all the pop ups that we get now, that dh was looking at them, too. I told him I didn't need it, I just need to be less lazy, lol. Then I got to thinking, maybe it would be nice..so now, I am encouraging checking into them. Of course, we are both retired, so I have the time to do it, just not the inclination, lol.

    I will say, as a Roomba owner for almost a year now, it is amazing. I almost think it's a requirement for pet owners, if price wasn't such an inhibitor. If you can afford it, get it!
    I would love one but it would choke on all the stray socks my little darlings leave lying around :lol: (A whole other issue itself)
  • ellie117ellie117 Posts: 243Member Member Posts: 243Member Member
    I notice the little messes around the house a lot more than he does, sometimes he just doesn't seem to realize that things need picked up or cleaned. He is way better now than he was a few years ago when I ASK for help, but nagging or whining about what he didn't do NEVER works, only causes arguments.

    The bold, definitely. My husband and I do split chores but he normally does the more physical labor ones like fixing or moving things while I do the nagging ones like clean. We've discussed it a few times and he has said more than once that he just doesn't notice that the bathroom isn't clean or that the dishwasher needs emptying. It's not a point of contention though, moreso just a fact of the matter. He has no issue doing the dishes if I ask, or he'll do the dishes while I cook dinner or vice versa.

    I think communication is the best way to avoid these little nags turning into bigger issues. If he doesn't do something, don't yell at him. Don't hold it in, either. Say something like, "hey next time you take a day off, would you mind doing a little something around the house?"
  • tuddy315tuddy315 Posts: 6,288Member Member Posts: 6,288Member Member
    pinuplove wrote: »

    I will say, as a Roomba owner for almost a year now, it is amazing. I almost think it's a requirement for pet owners, if price wasn't such an inhibitor. If you can afford it, get it!
    I would love one but it would choke on all the stray socks my little darlings leave lying around :lol: (A whole other issue itself)[/quote]

    At my house, if it is lying on the floor it must be garbage. Bye bye garbage!!!
    edited December 3
  • OrphiaOrphia Posts: 6,938Member Member Posts: 6,938Member Member
    tuddy315 wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    ?I will say, as a Roomba owner for almost a year now, it is amazing. I almost think it's a requirement for pet owners, if price wasn't such an inhibitor. If you can afford it, get it!
    I would love one but it would choke on all the stray socks my little darlings leave lying around :lol: (A whole other issue itself)

    At my house, if it is lying on the floor it must be garbage. Bye bye garbage!!!

    Getting fit and healthy and tidy has made me very alert to global waste, overconsumption, and use of non-renewable resources.

    I'm starting to see it as actually a form of art trying to keep all these things including emotions and relationships in balance.

    If anyone finds a good link about the global benefits of investing in one of those, compared to my getting out a broom every week or two, please share. x

    Yes, I'm aware I could sound obsessive to some. :)
    edited December 5
  • pridesabtchpridesabtch Posts: 386Member Member Posts: 386Member Member
    Orphia wrote: »
    tuddy315 wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    ?I will say, as a Roomba owner for almost a year now, it is amazing. I almost think it's a requirement for pet owners, if price wasn't such an inhibitor. If you can afford it, get it!
    I would love one but it would choke on all the stray socks my little darlings leave lying around :lol: (A whole other issue itself)

    At my house, if it is lying on the floor it must be garbage. Bye bye garbage!!!

    Getting fit and healthy and tidy has made me very alert to global waste, overconsumption, and use of non-renewable resources.

    I'm starting to see it as actually a form of art trying to keep all these things including emotions and relationships in balance.

    If anyone finds a good link about the global benefits of investing in one of those, compared to my getting out a broom every week or two, please share. x

    Yes, I'm aware I could sound obsessive to some. :)

    Honestly, if you only need a broom every week or two, it may not be a big deal for you. I have wood floors a golden retriever and a boxer. My floors need done every couple of days. Heck, if it goes more than a few days I will have to sweep up a bit before I can even run the Roomba. It is a huge time saver for me to be able to let it run while I make dinner.
  • OrphiaOrphia Posts: 6,938Member Member Posts: 6,938Member Member
    puffbrat wrote: »
    Orphia wrote: »
    tuddy315 wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    ?I will say, as a Roomba owner for almost a year now, it is amazing. I almost think it's a requirement for pet owners, if price wasn't such an inhibitor. If you can afford it, get it!
    I would love one but it would choke on all the stray socks my little darlings leave lying around :lol: (A whole other issue itself)

    At my house, if it is lying on the floor it must be garbage. Bye bye garbage!!!

    Getting fit and healthy and tidy has made me very alert to global waste, overconsumption, and use of non-renewable resources.

    I'm starting to see it as actually a form of art trying to keep all these things including emotions and relationships in balance.

    If anyone finds a good link about the global benefits of investing in one of those, compared to my getting out a broom every week or two, please share. x

    Yes, I'm aware I could sound obsessive to some. :)

    My opinion not based on research, but based on me having a Roomba and also working in environmental. Roombas are going to be worse for the environment than you getting out a broom and sweeping. Period. Without doing research, I can't even begin to guess at the relative environmental impact of a Roomba but at the least there is: manufacturing and associated waste and emissions, shipping and associated waste and emissions, use of the Roomba which uses electricity to charge, and they run on a large battery which means occasional battery replacement and associated waste.

    From a personal perspective what my husband and I gain from it is: time that we aren't vacuuming the house ourselves every week, the floor is reasonably clean most of the week instead of waiting for the weekly vacuuming, and it forces us to tidy the house every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday before Carson runs.

    Thanks, both of you!

    I've seen a lot of posts about optimal environmental living get "Disagrees", and this includes some of mine, and I've also clicked disagree on dietary or fitness things I may not do myself.

    It's not nice feeling like we're "doing things wrong".

    There is no "wrong" if we're trying to be better. We're all trying hard to survive. And there are always more ways for us all to be better.

    That's why we're all here! :heart:
    edited 7:25PM
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