Fat Dad need HELP

steebdon82

So here goes...sorry if post is to long but HELP
I am 37 (38 in May) and I weigh over 22 stones :-( and drink to much and do little to no exercise
I have agreed with my middle daughter who is 11 and plays football to try not to drink throughout Jan (very hard as normally have a least 4/6 cans a nyt more on weekends)
I am planning on trying to do c25k as well

Need help with ways to keep me off the drink and motivation to get out and walk/run

Any help and advice will b amazing

tinkerbellang83

steebdon82 wrote: »

So here goes...sorry if post is to long but HELP
I am 37 (38 in May) and I weigh over 22 stones :-( and drink to much and do little to no exercise
I have agreed with my middle daughter who is 11 and plays football to try not to drink throughout Jan (very hard as normally have a least 4/6 cans a nyt more on weekends)
I am planning on trying to do c25k as well

Need help with ways to keep me off the drink and motivation to get out and walk/run

Any help and advice will b amazing

Is the promise you made to your daughter not enough motivation?

If you're out walking/running in the evening then that should keep you off the drink in the evenings. So you just need to come up with a plan for your weekends, why not sign up to Dry January for charity, then you'll have more incentive, be doing something for a good cause, and if you are getting any peer pressure, it's a good way of putting a stop to it.

SERmom3

Those sound like great goals! My only advice is to try not to do too much too quickly. In the past, when I’ve tried to start everything at once it becomes overwhelming and I’m more likely to quit.

A couple years ago I decided to take baby steps. First logging what I ate, next adding cardio, then focusing on more nutritious foods and then strength training. I’m not at goal yet and have hit some bumps, but I’m in a much better place than I was 2 years ago!

I think your goal of an alcohol free month is important to you and your daughter. Personally, that would be the place I would start. I think if you stop drinking for a month and focus on logging your foods, you’re automatically see the scale start to go down! You might even start feeling more energetic and motivated to eventually start the C25k program. Alcohol has so many calories! Don’t buy it and don’t let anyone bring it in the house if it’ll be too tempting for you!

Best of luck! You got this!

Theoldguy1

steebdon82 wrote: »

So here goes...sorry if post is to long but HELP
I am 37 (38 in May) and I weigh over 22 stones :-( and drink to much and do little to no exercise
I have agreed with my middle daughter who is 11 and plays football to try not to drink throughout Jan (very hard as normally have a least 4/6 cans a nyt more on weekends)
I am planning on trying to do c25k as well

Need help with ways to keep me off the drink and motivation to get out and walk/run

Any help and advice will b amazing

I'm going to tough love you a bit.

You talk about 2 things you are going to "try" to do. With that attitude you will not get neither done. You have to decide that you will do them. There is nothing (short of an alcohol addiction, which given your consumption some people may say you have, if so, get professional help) stopping you from not drinking a bunch of beer. There is also very little that would stop one from the C25K, or at least doing a bit of walking. Volunteer to help with your daughter's football team. Every youth team can use some extra parental involvement. You get some time with your daughter and her friends with less time to drink. Even if you know nothing about the sport you can help with equipment, the fields, do conditioning drills with the team (kids love it when a parent participates).

In addition, you may want to critically look at the rest of your diet, number of calories and types of foods. Not always, but often the case someone drinking that much and not moving has room for some positive changes related to diet. How many servings of fruits and vegetables are you eating a day, how many calories over maintenance are your consuming?

You have to have a very strong why to accomplish a goal. A well known fitness expert here in the state is 62. He talks about his "why" to keep in shape is he wants to dance with his granddaughter at her wedding (his granddaughter is 6 months old so do the math).

Best of luck.

nighthawk584

^^^ THIS from @Theoldguy1 and read my avatar. It applied to me before I stopped making excuses. I quit drinking the day I started my weight loss journey. I got rid of at least a 1000 calories a day and most importantly improved my health tremendously. You have to WANT IT and if you can't quit on your own, get some treatment.

Justin741

I'd be happy to help you be accountable, I'm going to be 38 in March and weigh 20 stone, anyone else can add me too!

jlhalley7835

Hey I was 23 stone (i used a calculator) back in last february and smoked 2 packs of cigarettes a day. You got to realize that 1.) You've made a promise and that as a dad, our word is our bond. 2.) You gotta drop weight to be around for her later on in her life. Keep your family/daughter in your mind anytime you think about wanting a drink. The easiest way to quit is to stop buying. Find activities/hobbies that get you on your feet and moving. The more you like it, the easier it is to stay consistent.

You can achieve whatever goal you put your mind to, but your mindset has to be correct. Once you won the mental battle, the physical battle is simple. Best of luck, add me if you wish to !

Kaitie9399

Perhaps this group found in the 'Challenges' area of the message boards could be a source of support for you in your goal to reduce/eliminate your alcohol intake. :-)

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10688061/the-sober-squad-alcohol-free-living#latest

goatg

CBT/DBT, local groups for alcohol free support lifestyles, journaling, replacing the time you drink with another activity --like walking