After 65 lb weight loss.. NOW being called fat?

mkusafr

For ever mean comment heard, there are two positive ones not being said or heard. I have always looked up to woman who are larger than me working out at the gym. The courage and strong spirit they have! I know how HARD it is for me to take care of myself, to force myself to go to the gym, to try to stop smoking, to avoid emotionally eating, and how I beat myself up so much... and I don't get comments from others about my outward appearance. I so admire those who have a longer road under more outside scrutany and less support than me. You are an inspiration. You look happy in the after photo! Keep it going and continue to be an inspiration to me and others!

BrendaLee

I'm sorry you had these experiences. It's a harsh world, and some people are *kitten*. There's nothing you can do about them. Believe it or not, if someone wants to tear you down, they're going to find a reason even if you're model-thin and a perfect ten. Just remind yourself that people like that are probably pretty miserable living in their own skin.

You're doing great. Get back on track and back to feeling good.

bethannien

1-you are BEAUTIFUL! You have done amazingly well.
2-you have EARNED the weight you have lost.
3-easier said than done, but put the negative crap people say out of your mind. You deserve to be healthy and some ignorant twinkie at the gym can't take it away from you.

Most people aren't so awful. I'm sorry you got dumped on so much. But please don't let it derail you.

katy84o

I dont know what to do... I feel like its pointless to continue.

Look at your pictures again. Does it really feel pointless to continue? You are doing wonderful things for your health, not just your appearance. Those girls at the gym, will always have negative attitudes, you won't always have the bigger body you are in. Why? Because you are working your *kitten* off (literally) to get in the best shape you can be in. For your confidence and for your health.

It's hard to let it go, but hold on to those negative thoughts and you will eventually agree. Don't let people do that to you. Chin up, get back to moving. A 65lb loss is an incredible achievement, don't let anyone else make you think otherwise.

Jewelsfla

You look amazing!

ETA: I bet more people think positively about your image and beauty than the few idiots who say negative things. Remember, for every 1 person who makes a negative comment, there's probably 100 who would make a positive one.

kimosabe1

DON'T QUIT! I was in Costco one day and a fat lady asked when my baby was due! I was pissed! I found this site that same day.....:explode:

BaconMD

I feel like its pointless to continue.

You are correct. It is pointless to continue, since it appears you're not doing this for yourself, for your health, and for your future. If you care what everyone else thinks about you more than the actual impact it has on you, then you should quit - it is all just a waste.

That being said, you simply need to handle the comments differently. "Yes, I did want to pass out when I first started working out. Since then, I've lost 65 pounds and I'm not going to stop," and if they're not genuinely asking, tack something like this on: "What have you ever accomplished?" You can't really get upset at what kids say. They're kids. And if they're snotty kids, it could be a parenting problem. Still, you can't fix that and it's probably not their fault. For those who don't believe you or truly want to know, you could show them your before picture as well - keep it on your cell or in your pocket, whatever.

But then, do whatever you want. I know how I feel now compared to a couple years back, and I couldn't care less what other people think of my weight. But that's just me.

PLoveElliott

People can be mean....I know it is easier said than done, but try and stay focused on the progress that you have made. You look amazing and have come so far. Don't allow mean people to get in the way of what makes you feel good and your goals.

Mgregory723

OMG, you look incredible! Those girls have there own insecurities to deal with and sometimes they push all that negative crap out into the world to make themselves feel better. You have to own your own story, not there's. Don't let that be your excuse to stop doing what has, up til now, worked for you! You deserve to be happy, you deserve to love yourself for all that you have accomplished ~ HAVE YOU REALLY LOOKED AT BEFORE AND AFTER? That is a huge difference! Go back to the gym, if you don't THEY win.

Rosa1213

I cannot even articulate how awful these stories make me feel.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't give up. You go back to the gym and work hard. You buy yourself a damn bathing suit.
Feel proud of who you are and what you have accomplished, because you are a strong woman.

SailorKnightWing

First of all, you're looking great (even though I love the dress you were wearing in the first picture!).

And I think I can provide a possible explanation just based on my observations. It seems that when people, especially women, pass a certain body fat percentage they become invisible to society. When people hit that percentage, others stop being able to see that as a possibility for themselves and/or assume it's because of a medical problem. Either way, they stop thinking "If I don't take care of myself, I'll look like that," and therefore disregard the person unless it's necessary to interact with them.

It's when you look as awesome as your second picture that people at a healthy weight start to take notice. Right now you're in the realm of "normalcy" and that scares them. But you know what? That's because of their own insecurities and you aren't responsible for how they feel.

jellybeanhed313

Girl, you can't let those B!$%hes control you. There is ALWAYS going to be someone around to knock you down if you let them. You should just say, 'well, that is offensive and I did it by working hard and building up endurance. And I feel great!" Keep your head up sweetie, I know its hard.

mirandaeaston

You are awesome!! Keep taking care of you.

ktrn0312

Oh girl, you have come too far to let the haters distract or deter you from your goal. You are "Amazing! " Unfortunately, those little girls at the gym were ignorant. Dust yourself off head back to the gym & be the best you can be.

degan2011

tell them, you can always improve your weight, but they'll permanently be stuck on stupid. No amount of working out will fix that.

^^this^^ haha!

eahill4

Wow.......just goes to show some girls are threatened by your beauty and motivation. Keep up the great work. You look amazing. Obviously they are intimidated by you and lack security within themselves.

Jestinia

You said, "I love exercising, I love eating well.. just love the way it makes me feel!"

Don't let a couple of worthless bullies take that from you anymore. I know it's hard, but you have to take it back from them!

walkinthedogs

You said yourself you are kicking *kitten* and loving it. Please don't let a couple birdbrains who obviously have no common sense make you question what you are doing. You look amazing and you know how much better you feel when losing weight, please don't let them stop you. My daughter could get a thousand compliments and then one derogatory remark and the only one she would remember is the negative remark. Why people do what they do is beyond me. Hold your head high and go in and do what you love! You will run up against a-holes all your life, but you cannot let them deter you from your life and your goals. Get back in there, do what you love and completely ignore the ignorant.

Ejourneys

That hurts and sucks big time. But it boils down to this:
It's not you. Haters gonna hate.

I did the Boston-NY AIDS Ride in 1995, bicycling 261 miles in 3 days. While training for that ride, I was pedaling my steel 1983 touring bike up a hill and a kid called out "Fatso!" from the sidewalk. It stung.

At the time my body fat was ideal for a woman half my age (I was in my mid-30s). I weighed around 155. I'm 5'5" with a large frame. I had already done centuries, including riding 131 miles in a single day. In the course of training I had lost about 40 pounds.

If I had a thicker skin I would have laughed at the little twerp. But with my weight history it hurt like hell. And then I had to let that moment pass and focus on what I was doing.

Keep on keepin' on and know that you are not alone. Leave the trolls to rot.
And Kudos to you for all your hard work and perseverance! You are doing a fabulous job.

louisegibbs85

First of all you look brill and you should be proud that you took it upon yourself to make a change and got so far! The fact that the girls were supposed to be going gym to workout but instead chose to concentrate on someone else says it all ... looking at other peoples flaws so they don't have to concentrate on there own ... you chose to just walk away, you were obviously brought up better than them! Please don't give up because what of these peoplle said ... I. Doubt they have given any of these comments a second thought since saying them so don't let them change who you are and what you want to achieve! The fact you lost so much proves you can do this!! Set a little goal at a time n reach for it. I'd work myarse off ... go back to that gym, hunt the girls down walk right up to them n say fuk you, I've lost weight but can guarantee your still a silly little *****, If you want something to laugh at there's a mirror in that direction ....now hop along!! Haha:-)

DrunkenFaeGirl

I understand how people making comments like that makes you feel defeated but you have to remember that you're doing this for you, not them. Keep the photos you posted with you at all times, if they're on your phone that's great but if not get copies and look at the difference when you need a pick me up for your progress. You've done so well and look awesome. Be proud and don't let anyone take it away from you.

jenna311

Haters be hatin'. Ok, but seriously...when people say mean hurtful things it's usually THEIR issues. Those gals (or at least the alpha) has some serious self-hate issues. Have you ever met someone that has to step on you to lift themselves up? Classic case here.

I feel for you - but I hope you shrug it off and get back into it.

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veredit

I'm just curious what have you done since your original post...Have you continued your diet and exercise?
second, I just want to say that I lost 51 lb in about 8 months, now I have 112 lb and I am 5,28 feet tall. Now some people call me anorexic and too skinny...which is simply not true,isn't it?
So don't mind what people say,do whatever makes you feel ok.

clairedrose

Aw sweetie this is so hard to hear!!! Seriously, don't give up on it. People are mean. Period. It's horrible, but unavoidable. There is nothing to be gained from giving up (except for you know...well...weight) Take those horrible comments and use them as FUEL to keep going. And maybe pick another gym that is a little more forgiving as far as the type of people who go there.

You can do this, and CONGRATS on your amazing progress already! You can see a huge difference between your before and after!

This except don't let the twits drive you out of YOUR gym. You are amazing and beautiful and getting more so each day. They are...meh..less than nothing.

WannabeStressFree

I say, report those girls to the gym management, say you are being harassed by them.
You can also just listen to your headphones and ignore all ignorant ppl and haters.

Keep going!! You're doing sooo great! It's just a bump on the road, keep going!!!!

lithezebra

You're never too young to learn to ignore stupid people if you want to accomplish anything in this life. That person's trashy comment reflects on her, not on you. Get back to meeting YOUR goals.

jayliospecky

I'm sorry that happened to you. People can be horrible. But you can be better than that.

You may be interested in looking up Tony "The Anti-Jared" Posnanski. He used to be over 400 pounds and has successfully kept off over 200 pounds for 4 years. This is what he wrote about judgement at the gym:



“Hey man…you cannot wear that skullcap here.”
That was what the manager told me at the first gym I went to. I was confused. I mean, it is an Under Armour skullcap. It was the coolest thing in the world. It made me look like I belonged at the gym.
I was 370 pounds at the time. I lost 50 pounds and belonged to my first gym for a month. I promised myself that when I lost 50 pounds I would wear some sort of Under Armour gear because it symbolized strength in my eyes.
You might have heard of the gym…they do not charge much each month and accept everyone. I looked up on their wall, and it did indeed say no skullcaps. It was part of their “Judgment Free Zone.”
So where was the “Judgment Free Zone” when the manager rolled his eyes at me when I walked in for the first time? A 400 pound guy who could not tie his shoes. A guy who wanted to ask questions about the equipment, but after seeing the eye rolling realized he did not belong.
Where was the “Judgment Free Zone” when the two girls laughed at me when I could not fit on the bench press? When I could not get my balance? Were they going there to see a guy lose 200 pounds?
Where was the “Judgment Free Zone” when I could was on the treadmill for only 48 seconds? When I saw the guy next to me mouth to his friend, “Is that it?” Did they see a weak, obese man?
Where was the “Judgment Free Zone” when I left the gym for the first time in tears? Hating my workout. Thinking that no one was there to help me. Not wanting to go back.
I drove around after my first workout and I decided to judge myself. Knowing that I am strong. Knowing that I can do this. For me.
So when the manager told me I could not wear the skullcap anymore, I told him that it was my last day at the gym. I’d been judged enough.
Today, I worked out at my Anytime Fitness. It was 4 a.m., I was bench pressing and doing some cardio.
I wore my skullcap, like I have every workout since 2008. No one was around at the time.
I wish they were….I wanted to be judged.

- Tony Posnanski is a renowned blogger, chef, and an Anytime Fitness member. He writes about weight loss, fitness, motivation and more on his blog The Anti Jared.

VryIrishGirl76

Ok, I seriously wanna go beat the tar out of those people for you!

dewgirl321

That's some bullsh!t right there. Sorry people suck sometimes. Your photos show your amazing progress. Don't let other people ruin that accomplishment for you. Keep being AWESOME.