After 65 lb weight loss.. NOW being called fat?
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People are just so insensitive and I'm sure those girls had no idea how far you've already come. It's likely they probably couldn't run as far/long on the treadmill and are just feeling threatened because a bigger girl can. Size is not an indicator of your fitness level. Shake those people off and go do your thing. Remember that it's not just about looking better, but feeling better too. I'm sure you feel better at your lower weight and don't want to go back to where you were.0
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You are so adorable! Such a pretty smile, and your overall shape is looking great! Honestly, I can see quite a difference between your before and after pics. Please don't give up! Having been overweight for most of my life, I know how much the negative comments hurt, but the bottom line is, people will always be rude and assy, whether they are making comments about weight, height, hair, boob size, etc. I started at about your size, and am down 51 lbs as of today. I don't notice any difference in my appearance, but seeing your pictures is SO motivational! You make me feel like it's possible to start running, and like maybe there really is a difference in my appearance that I'm not seeing. So thank you for inspiring me.
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Hell to the no, don't you dear stop, you need to continue. Look at your before and after photo, you have come so far. F*** those B******. OMG!!!!!! I hate mean people. You need to get it together and go back to the gym and work you *kitten* off and continue. Believe me, you are going to feel worst if you put on all that weight back. Keep going forward!!!!!
You can do this, you need to do this for you and you alone, don;t make those mean people get to you, most people are mean because of their own insecurities.
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Hi!
Go back to the Gym - you can do it. Next time anyone says anything just smile sweetly, look puzzled and say your doing your best to lose weight and what are they doing to improve their manners?
As for kids you can, kindly, point out that it's rude to make comments on peoples weight and haven't their parents told them that?
As for the joker at your work - tell her you didn't find it in the least bit funny!
People are sometimes unaware how nasty and negative they are being. (others are flat out a***holes!)
You look fantastic.
You're doing a great job.
Your worst critic will always be you, don't let others join in.
Losing weight isn't just about dropping numbers, it's an emotional rollercoaster, really tough.
Good luck, be kind to yourself.0 -
I'd have asked the girls, "funny I was just wondering how you could survive being such vapid c***s? I mean how do you even tie your gym shoes everyday?!"
Naw, but seriously..."why would you say something so hurtful to someone who is trying to improve themselves? What is it about my working out that makes you so insecure that you have to be hurtful?"
Go back to the gym with your head held high, look those b**** straight in the eye and get your sweat on. Tell those kids you're gonna sit on them or something and let your friend know that if she wants to know what you're doing to lose the weight she doesn't need to be defensive about your losses, you'd be happy to help, or not--our weight loss is not a judgement of her. It's about your health and well being, and shouldn't affect her.0 -
I cannot believe people are so cruel sometimes. People that have issues with themselves put others down. You know the sayings, 'misery enjoys company' and 'hurt people hurt people'? Those sayings are so true! They are the ones with the problem, not you. Do not let them stop you from reaching your goals. Don't let anyone stop you from reaching your goals. Just keep your chin up and keep pressing on! No one wants to be around mean people like that. I know their type. They put others down to build their sorry selves up. Just pity them and keep going! You really look awesome, btw. Congratulations on a job well done! Really! Just keep going. You are so worth it.
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Eff them Puttas dude! You look amazing.
If anything take the positive from it - ie they were obviously impressed with what you can do in the gym to notice..... their loss for going about it in the wrong way!
Take the positive, forget the negative and focus on how amazing you look and how wonderful you are doing.
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you have worked very hard and you shouldnt listen to what others say, but in my opinion you don't look fat! people just like to hate. they are probably jealous. you look beautiful.
Keep the good work, and good luck. And don't let the negative people get to you!0 -
people are very cruel these days! you are doing great.. do no stop!0
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I can't believe how RUDE people can be. You look AMAZING! Next time anyone says anything like that (especially the dumb broads at the gym) I'd be tempted to reply with the following:
"At least I am working on improving my weight, your low I.Q. however, will never get any better!"
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Look at you! You are BEAUTIFUL in both pictures. You are wearing the same body. The difference is that in the second, you'd working on making it function so that it keeps you strong and healthy. Please, as others have said, be proud of your journey and make sure that in the end, it's your hard work and strength of conviction that shapes your self-confidence and not petty comments from, let's face it, small-minded and uninteresting people who have chosen to not earn your respect or second thoughts.
Remember. You are beautiful, always.0 -
option 1: next time ask them "How do you do it? not get distracted by the sound of emptiness in your head?"
option 2: kick them in the *kitten* and tell them to **** off for being stupid.0 -
The universe is testing your resolve. You know you want it. And you know it's the truth, you are big. I know I'm big too. It still hurts to be told so.
When I get comments like that it want to go hide and cry too. But instead I try to use that as angry workout fuel. I hope you can move past these insensitive people, and realize there are usually very few people who are really worth caring about in this world. Hopefully some of those people are your family and are close to you.0 -
You look AMAZING... Don't stop! I can only echo everyone else... but you've come so far already, don't let negativity win!0
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Unfortunately we have to share this world with sh*tty people too.
If people like those girls want to continue to be so miserable with themselves that they have to pick on others to feel powerful, then so be it. Pretty sad really.
This is where you can learn to grow stronger and more confident in yourself. It does sting to hear things like that for sure! But keep taking care of you, and soon enough you'll realize how much more fantastic you really are.
You're making amazing progress, keep it up!!!
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You have come to far to let idiots like that derail you. You're a perfect example of hard work, determination, commitment and the results thereof. You've proved you can do it. Remember, this is for you, not a bunch of stupid people that are seeing results and either are now embarrassed or feel guilty. I can't wait to see more pictures of your progress. Can we count on that?0
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I would take the 'how do you do it' on running as a compliment. I know it doesn't feel that way, but you are awesome running like that!
As for this, I think people just consider over a certain weight kind of a lost cause, but you're getting smaller now and people feel free to be rude because you are not a lost cause maybe? IDK, I know that sucks, but just don't let someone else derail your hard work!!!I NEVER got anything said about my weight when I was 330+ lbs, now that I'm 275 I'm hearing it all the time.
Good luck and it's awesome that you've lost what you have.0 -
You're doing this for you, not them!!!! You will feel better if you stop feeling sorry for yourself!!!! Don't let them beat you! Don't beat yourself...we've all made a million excuses to get us where we are, don't let stupid people be your excuse.
Pretty sure those girls will fail in life if they continue to act that way, you will succeed in life due to your determination and strength to get through times like these.
PS I think you look AMAZING! Congrats!:flowerforyou:0 -
First thing first, you look GREAT! Secondly, f**k them all. Sorry, not helpful but this made me angry and I can't think of anything mature to say.
The girls in the gym, just being *****y, some girls are like that. They can see that you're working hard and they try to shoot you down probably to make them feel better about their own insecurities. As for the kids, they are children and sometimes they say things without realising that it's mean, hopefully their parents will have had words with them about it. And your best friend probably has insecurities too, she probably wasn't trying to be mean (I read it like she was joking). Keep your head up and carry on, you have done fantastically well and the difference is dramatic!
I couldn't have said it any better. Keep pushing girl and you are doing awesome!0 -
You look amazing!! and congrats for doing it in such a short time!!! It may just be how you're carrying your weight now versus before, but please stick with it! It's your body and your decision to be a HEALTHY person. We're here to support you!0
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You look great! You've done a great job. I have been overweight my whole life, and I have been called fatty, pig, porky, etc. at some point or another. When you get older, people generally leave you alone, but I've heard it all. Those girls must have been really insecure to say those things to you. Next time just tell them your story. You've lost 65 pounds and have been exercising a while, and that's why you're so good at it. Or just ignore them and go about your business. Don't let it get you down. You have a whole world out there ahead of you, and it's your turn to live it. I hope you just put your head down and keep on going. You are an inspiration to the rest of us.0
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I am so sad for you. Get back to the gym - you can do it! Don't let them change who you are and where you are headed. Your transformation so far is outstanding!
I know how you feel. I have lost 78 pounds now - 75 before I joined MFP. I just finally hit under 300 pounds. I get it. People did not even notice I was losing weight until I lost the first 40 pounds (except hubby). I think this is because people just didn't notice me, period.
They would look the other way - probably out of fear I would feel like they were staring. I trained myself to avert my eyes while walking down the street. This is something I am working hard at correcting...I have a hard time looking strangers in the eye.
Now that I am under 300 pounds, I have been MOOed at, for ****s sake! I had a man screaming at me in the drive-through of Mcdonald's that I better leave some food for him. People are cruel.
I have done all of my weight-loss here at home. I cannot imagine putting myself out there at a gym - so I commend you for doing this. You are inspiring me to get out there and push myself harder.
Kill them with kindness. I liked the previous comment about answering them honestly - I also like the thought about those girls putting on a weighted vest and competing with you. That is a mental image I think I will hold onto - when others laugh about my efforts...I will imagine them trying to do it with 100 pounds strapped to them.
Chin up - I think you look amazing!0 -
You look absolutely AMAZING!!! So what were those girls doing anyway while you were kicking butt running?!? If all they were doing was standing there watching you run just to laugh at you, personally, I would have come back with a "No, I feel great, I just ran X # of miles, how bout you?" and walked my butt right past them with my head held high.
I just can't stand people who think they're better than me just because they're smaller than me. I know people who would pass out from running in 2 seconds who are skinny as a rail. But me? I'm still at least 70lbs overweight and I can make it 4miles before I need a breather.
Keep at it girl!! YOU GOT THIS!!! You posted this today and look how many people are behind you!!!0 -
Hi,
I'm the same, I never really noticed any comments when I was 303lbs+ but a few weeks ago I got a "there she blows" comment when I was walking past a group of lads in a club. In all honesty it made me laugh! I was like "i've lost 40lbs and you're making whale comments NOW?!"
This is something our parents tell us, "people who feel the need to comment on others are trying to cover up their own insecurities". it's hard, but brush it off and use them positively. Like those girls in the gym, use it as motivation to run further and faster so you can be like 'yeah, i'm big but i'm still doing this!'
I also think it helps to have a realistic (but not negative) body image. At 275 yeah, you're overweight... AND?! Acknowledge it and embrace it and then go do something about it.
^^^ Exactly this!!!!
You are doing something about your situation, dont let those negative insecure women take that from you. Now you have put on 10lbs after all that hard work you put in because THEY are mad??? Clearly they dont have the will power, but you do. Get back at it, take care of you. Giving up isnt going to make the situation any better, its only going to make you more unhealthy. You're doing great, MFP is here to help. YOu may be 275 today but you can be 265 next month, and with continued dedication be 175 before you know it. YOU have goals, so no one else should matter.0 -
Wow, this breaks my heart.
Some things that I've learned in my short 25 years of life:
1) People enjoy hurting each other - whether it's their own insecurity or just instinctual malice, people are very, very quick to trample on other people.
2) It's ok to be down - for a little bit. Obviously, the things that they've said are going to upset you, they'd upset anyone! Be sad/mad for an hour or two when things, then forget it.
3) You have to be doing this for YOU. Really work on that one, because once you have the mindset of losing weight for YOU, the perspective of other people won't matter. In fact, it will be laughable.
I hope this helps, and I hope those girls get fat.
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My usual response is "and aren't you ashamed a fat girl is in better shape than you? What does that say about you?"
It happens, people can be cruel. Don't let it bother you. The cruel people are usually taking their own insecurities out on you. Very few women are completely comfortable in their own skin, and unfortunately, some tend to make themselves feel better by being cruel. My usual response is to say something equally mean. (It's not nice, but it's become a running joke at my gym that the "fat girl" can outrun most of the "fit people" ) Own it, and go on with your day and know you did a proper workout while they were too busy judging. Which one is more healthy at the end of the day?0 -
Stephanie, dont stop, keep going dont let mean comments from people that have no idea what you are going through get the best of you. People are always mean, and are looking for a weakness in you to feel superior over you, if it wasn't your weight it would be something else, so dont take it personal, its them who are wrong not you. People bully other people because they themselves are insecure and unfortunately being overweight is something that they can see right away. Yes I've been called pregnant before by people who mean no harm but offend of course, but you just keep going.0
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you shouldve said.."Cause Im a bad b@tch!! thats how I do it!"0
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Look at the huge smile on your face in the second picture. Why would you let a couple of airheads ruin your progress? You have to live with yourself - do what makes you happy!0
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I can't believe anyone would say that to anyone!!! Seriously, how rude!
Personally, I think you look amazing! Please remember that while those people are unbelievably rude, you are strong. If you were to challenge one of those girls to a see-who-can-workout-the-hardest duel you'd win. Oh, and you win at life because you are making positive changes.
Keep at it. Do it for you. You've got this!0
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