What should men do to lose weight

Melolson14 · March 2020

My husband wants to lose weight.
What kind of things should I have him start doing? Any ideas would be great

amtyrell · March 2020

Same thing as women. Eat less calories then burn.

kshama2001 · March 2020

Whatever he'd like to do to achieve a calorie deficit.

He can simply eat less and move more.

I find it useful to log my food here on MFP so I have a calorie budget and can easily see when I need to stop eating to stay within it.

sijomial · March 2020

Same as women.
Eat less than what would be his maintenance calories by a sensible amount (techniques to achieve this are many and varied), move more ideally if health is a goal and not just weight loss alone - not just intentional exercise but also building activity into his daily life.

You should be having this discussion as a couple as it's far easier if both partners buy into the process and support each other.

cmriverside · March 2020

I am going to take a different tack here...

Why are you trying to be in control of his weight loss? HE needs to do this in a way that HE wants to do it and it seems slightly enmeshed to me that you say,

What kind of things should I have him start doing

He's an adult, right? Let him find his own path. Man, I have enough to worry about without getting up in my husband's business about his weight.

No good will come from this and he will feel resentment and probably a bit of sadness or anger that you are involved in something so personal. I would say, "I am willing to support you in whatever way you want me to with your fitness, food, whatever. This is your thing to figure out, though."

Melolson14 · March 2020

Cause he asked me for help on what to do

cmriverside · March 2020

Melolson14 wrote: »

Cause he asked me for help on what to do

Eat less. Move more.

:drinker:

It's the same for everyone. How they get there is a very personal thing. I log food. It's the best and easiest way for me to keep my eating in check. Then I take hour long walks at least five times per week.

serindipte · March 2020

Make an MFP account for him, enter stats and find a calorie goal based on desired (and reasonable) rate of loss.. then go from there. Another option, enter his stats into https://tdeecalculator.net/ and find his TDEE, then figure the deficit from there. (250/day for .5 lb, 500/day for 1 lb, etc)

ETA: Without knowing current weights or activity levels, I'll add: If you don't already, you two could start going for an evening walk together, join a gym together, play tennis/badminton or any other active games you both enjoy. Go to the park and actually play and climb on the equipment, go for a hike, hit the beach and play... Just get active together. The more you move, the better you'll both be. If he has a riding lawnmower, get a push mower. Start parking further from the stores, take the stairs instead of elevator.. all those little things that will help get NEAT up will also help with weight loss.

BuddhaBunnyFTW · March 2020

I eat vegan and I've lost 31 lbs

serindipte · March 2020

BuddhaBunnyFTW wrote: »

I eat vegan and I've lost 31 lbs

I eat steak, bacon, chicken wings, and pizza and I lost 50 lbs.

BuddhaBunnyFTW · March 2020

https://nutritionfacts.org/
Also I don't like meat, bacon, chicken wings or pizza. XD

kshama2001 · March 2020

BuddhaBunnyFTW wrote: »

I eat vegan and I've lost 31 lbs

While I applaud ethical veganism, it's rather disingenuous to suggest it as a weight loss technique, as eating vegan for weight loss works the same way every other way works - by creating a calorie deficit:

But I'm glad you found a WOE that works for you!

NovusDies · March 2020

If he is capable he needs to invest his own time into learning what he needs to do.

The mechanics are simple. You create an energy deficit by eating less food than you need each day. This forces your body to use stored energy to make up for the energy shortage. This results in weight loss.

However, there are many aspects of it that are going to vary from person to person. How a person controls their hunger while in an energy deficit. How they will handle eating the foods they enjoy on a calorie budge. How they will handle the mental challenges. None of it is super complicated usually but it takes a hands on approach and a willingness to learn and experiment when necessary.

However some people start losing weight simply by eliminating one caloric aspect of their diet. If your husband drinks a lot of his calories that is a common place to start. That will probably not work long term but it might be worth some easy pounds while the rest is learned.

janejellyroll · March 2020

BuddhaBunnyFTW wrote: »

I eat vegan and I've lost 31 lbs

Please don't promote veganism as a weight loss method. The truth is that vegans come in all shapes and sizes. There are overweight and obese vegans, as well as people who went vegan and gained weight. My heaviest weight was as a vegan. I resolved it the same way anyone does -- consuming fewer calories than I was burning.

kshama2001 · March 2020

NovusDies wrote: »

If he is capable he needs to invest his own time into learning what he needs to do.

The mechanics are simple. You create an energy deficit by eating less food than you need each day. This forces your body to use stored energy to make up for the energy shortage. This results in weight loss.

However, there are many aspects of it that are going to vary from person to person. How a person controls their hunger while in an energy deficit. How they will handle eating the foods they enjoy on a calorie budge. How they will handle the mental challenges. None of it is super complicated usually but it takes a hands on approach and a willingness to learn and experiment when necessary.

However some people start losing weight simply by eliminating one caloric aspect of their diet. If your husband drinks a lot of his calories that is a common place to start. That will probably not work long term but it might be worth some easy pounds while the rest is learned.

Yes, when my OH wants to lose weight he simply cuts down on soda and french fries, and moves more.

sijomial · March 2020

BuddhaBunnyFTW wrote: »

I eat vegan and I've lost 31 lbs

I eat vegans - they taste a bit bland though.

New_Heavens_Earth · March 2020

serindipte wrote: »

Make an MFP account for him, enter stats and find a calorie goal based on desired (and reasonable) rate of loss.. then go from there. Another option, enter his stats into https://tdeecalculator.net/ and find his TDEE, then figure the deficit from there. (250/day for .5 lb, 500/day for 1 lb, etc)

ETA: Without knowing current weights or activity levels, I'll add: If you don't already, you two could start going for an evening walk together, join a gym together, play tennis/badminton or any other active games you both enjoy. Go to the park and actually play and climb on the equipment, go for a hike, hit the beach and play... Just get active together. The more you move, the better you'll both be. If he has a riding lawnmower, get a push mower. Start parking further from the stores, take the stairs instead of elevator.. all those little things that will help get NEAT up will also help with weight loss.

And once all this is set up, OP, teach him how to manage this himself. I've heard too many problems with spouses trying to manage the other's weight loss then get accused of sabotage when things don't work out. Be supportive, but put the responsibility in his hands.

scarlett_k · March 2020

If my other half ever asked me for help with managing his weight I'd just get him to install MFP and tell me how many calories he needs for lunch and/or dinner and explain how to do that as I label everything with serving sizes in grams. I do all the cooking in the house and already input all the recipes we have for for dinner and leftovers for lunch most of the time so it'd be super easy!

Theoldguy1 · March 2020

BuddhaBunnyFTW wrote: »

I eat vegan and I've lost 31 lbs

You lost because you ate fewer calories and/or moved more. Maybe eating vegan enabled YOU to eat fewer calories, but a certain style of eating is not required.

ssorg9 · March 2020

Although my wife and I are both on diets, we both have very different approaches. It seems like it's one of those things that everyone has to find their plan that works. The one constant for both of us is that we both eat real food vs processed food. I am more scientific in that I need a goal and then need to log everything. Since I run a deficit, I also use the ANDI chart in order to maximize my nutritional density which seems to cut down on cravings. I am fine with planning ahead and following a set schedule which includes alot of repetition. Although my wife obviously runs a deficit, she doesn't count calories and log everything that she eats. She likes more variety/spontaneity than I do. Oddly, she does track her water. We eat the same dinner, but most other meals are independent of each other. Her dieting is more socially active and mine is more of a private matter. We both seem to have similar results at the scale.

cwolfman13 · March 2020

Melolson14 wrote: »

My husband wants to lose weight.
What kind of things should I have him start doing? Any ideas would be great

He just needs to consume fewer calories than he requires to maintain his weight...exercise also for overall health and well being.

A good chunk of my initial weight loss was cutting out sodas and cutting back on alcohol...especially beer. A lot of people, guys in particular I think, drink quite a few of their calories so it's a pretty easy starting place if that is the case.

I did ultimately start counting calories for awhile. I found it to be a bit tedious, but also educational in terms of learning more about good nutrition and how much energy I need to feed myself.