Anyone 40+ Who have lost a significant amount of weight. Did UR Face age10 years overnight?

got2bjb

Never in a million years would I have thought id look so old overnight! I've lost 83lbs the last 10 lbs Must of came off my face! I see sooooo many wrinkles. The worst of all My Hollow eyes!

Immediately I went out and bought or acquired these items:





Did it work? It actually looks worse and its been a month!
Anyone have any tips? Tricks?

sdavis484

I don't have any advice but what your experiencing is totally a thing. Reading your post reminded me of an article that I read recently....
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3632126/We-t-bear-diet-faces-ve-finally-got-figures-yearned-Just-one-problem-s-taken-unexpected-toll.html

joyanna2016

I'm 49, been overweight my whole life. I am determined to lose the weight this time but I must admit I am worried about this. My face is plump and wrinkle free. I think its already started. The bags under my eyes have mostly deflated and now I have about a half inch patch of several wrinkles under each eye. Great.

missysippy930

Perspective.
What’s worse, being overweight, or wrinkles?

lemurcat2

I lost a bunch of weight at 44-45, and found I looked younger afterwards. My work cleaning person who says everything that comes into her head remarked on it too. (I didn't get super lean, but BMI 21-22.)

Some others have said they initially had "diet fact" but it went away after a while.

Katmary71

I look healthier but older. My face is gaunt now, Supposedly it improves a bit after being on maintenance but it's been 6 months and no difference. I use Retin-A, BHA, and various serums and creams.

AnnPT77

My face looked worse at goal - somewhat haggard and droopy. (Dunno about looking older, I'm not a youth-seeker appearance-wise, so didn't much think about that). Facial appearance improved over several months, in maintenance.

If you go over to the Success Stories area and look at before/after photo threads, most common comment is that people look younger, including even 40+.

Give it some time at goal, before fretting . . . and if there's slow improvement, it may not be entirely due to beauty products.

As an aside, I'm quite certain I move more like a younger person, now that I'm slim instead of obese - more nimble, less lumbering. That's something that can contribute to others' overall impression of our age.

ETA: I didn't look ten years older at goal, for sure.

seltzermint555

AnnPT77 wrote: »

My face looked worse at goal - somewhat haggard and droopy. (Dunno about looking older, I'm not a youth-seeker appearance-wise, so didn't much think about that). Facial appearance improved over several months, in maintenance.

If you go over to the Success Stories area and look at before/after photo threads, most common comment is that people look younger, including even 40+.

Give it some time at goal, before fretting . . . and if there's slow improvement, it may not be entirely due to beauty products.

As an aside, I'm quite certain I move more like a younger person, now that I'm slim instead of obese - more nimble, less lumbering. That's something that can contribute to others' overall impression of our age.

ETA: I didn't look ten years older at goal, for sure.

This, all day long.

Another thing to consider, if you lose weight slowly over several years part of what you see may be actual aging process and not just weight loss.

AnnPT77

P.S. Personally, I think that Daily Mail article is significantly over-dramatizing. They're doing that thing where they compare well-photoshopped photos with friendly lighting to photos under much worse conditions.

I did a recent free "head shots" session with a friend who's working toward being a professional photographer, and who wanted friendly, honest practice people. I saw variations in my photos on the very same day (just the photos, no edits) - major differences depending on angles and lighting . . . in a studio, where he was trying for good results in all of them and he's already not terrible at this. Then we played with some rough Photoshop edits: Also big changes.

I also saw examples from some of his other volunteer subjects, some of whom actually had wider variation in their photos than I saw in mine. (He wasn't being critical of people or otherwise inappropriate, BTW: He and I share interest in photo editing and technical tools, though we use them in very different ways, so it was that kind of technical discussion, where he was explaining how his usage works.)

So, the celebrity photos in particular, but also some of the "regular people" ones are showing some of that same kind of variation: Harsh lighting from certain angles makes people look worse, facial expression matters, etc. The Daily Mail is fanning the flames for clickbait.

OP, I'm not referring to you in this next bit, not at all (I don't know you), but rather to people whom I know in real life:

I've known some women who are critical of others who, in their opinion, "don't take care of themselves, so look older" (mostly referring to makeup, dyeing hair, clothing choices) . . . but don't themselves do the things that actually work to make a person effectively physically younger in health markers, i.e., sensible exercise, well-rounded nutrition, healthy weight, adequate hydration. Some even still smoke, pursue tanning, and don't moderate alcohol. I don't know what makes them think that those things make no difference, especially when I compare them to slim, active, healthy-eating women of our mutual age who do do the hair/make-up dress stuff besides, who tend to look 10-20+ years younger. Some is genetics, of course, but not all. Our culture is weird, sometimes, IMO.

NovusDies

Are men allowed to comment?

While I look older the only part that really bothered me in the short term were the outrageous bags under my eyes. I like my eyes. I always have. I decided to try and do something about it so I have been using this for about 2 months:




It has helped but it may be mostly the roller. The bags are still there but less pronounced. There is also just one bag under each eye where before there were two.

NovusDies

At one time I knew how to resize pictures but I have forgotten because I do not post them enough.

PAV8888

I am droopy and turkey chinned.
I am happy to be droopy and turkey necked and "normal weight" and FLYING.
YMMV!

cupcakesandproteinshakes

Yer I looked older. I am older. I’m fitter though and my body feels better than when I was overweight. Plus I’m bloody stronger than most women half my age

Lietchi

Some threads you might be interested in:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10207059/before-and-after-face-edition/p1

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10767134/diet-face-should-we-choose-face-over-body-or-vice-versa/p1

MelG7777

I don’t have advice but I lost 70+ lbs and everyone says I look younger. My hair has suffered a bit. I have 25-30 to go, I hope I don’t start looking older before my time. 😭

nooshi713

I lost 20 lbs which may not be significant to some but I am only 5’0” tall and look younger when slimmer. The extra weight aged my face.

springlering62

AnnPT77 wrote: »

I've known some women who are critical of others who, in their opinion, "don't take care of themselves, so look older" (mostly referring to makeup, dyeing hair, clothing choices) . . . but don't themselves do the things that actually work to make a person effectively physically younger in health markers, i.e., sensible exercise, well-rounded nutrition, healthy weight, adequate hydration. Some even still smoke, pursue tanning, and don't moderate alcohol. I don't know what makes them think that those things make no difference, especially when I compare them to slim, active, healthy-eating women of our mutual age who do do the hair/make-up dress stuff besides, who tend to look 10-20+ years younger. Some is genetics, of course, but not all. Our culture is weird, sometimes, IMO.

@AnnPT77 can I hit ALL the buttons (except disagree?)!!!!

I haven’t worn makeup in years. Half the time I forget to brush my hair. (It’s super short so I just run my fingers through it. ) For several years the only appearance thing I did do was color my hair pink and purple. It just pleased me to do so. I’ve been a pariah in my affluent neighborhood, with one neighbor condescendingly referring to me as “tacky”. For heavens sake. Some of these heavy drinking, often overweight, over tanned, perfectly made up and coiffed women are pushing 60, and still act like “Mean Girls” in high school.

With the weight loss, I still don’t do makeup or worry about my hair but I dress a darn sight better and life is very different. And you know what? The Mean Girls are still the Mean Girls, but at this point I just laugh at them behind a my hand.

Back to OT, my face has become gaunt and my neck stringy. I call it “cadaver face”. Yet, when I look at (very) old photos of myself, it’s just the same face, but aged. I think this is how I would have ended up anyway, even without the thirty year intermission of obesity.

I think we are unnecessarily hard on ourselves, and beat ourselves up over the size of our belly roll, the angle of our butts and shape of boobs, all the way up to the turkey neck lines and wrinkles on our face. We are never satisfied. Society pushes us to be bigger better stronger smaller thinner blonder prettier leggier smoother lifted-er you name it versions of ourself. And why? So people can make money off of us. It’s as simple as that when it comes down to it.

When you can look at your face in the mirror, smile at it and be satisfied with it, you’ve really accomplished a grand goal you didn’t even realize you had.

I love me. There. I said it out loud for the first time. You try it. It feels GREAT.

I love me and I don’t give a *kitten* what you you and you think about me. It’s not your right, and it’s not your business.

AnnPT77

springlering62 wrote: »

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I think we are unnecessarily hard on ourselves, and beat ourselves up over the size of our belly roll, the angle of our butts and shape of boobs, all the way up to the turkey neck lines and wrinkles on our face. We are never satisfied. Society pushes us to be bigger better stronger smaller thinner blonder prettier leggier smoother lifted-er you name it versions of ourself. And why? So people can make money off of us. It’s as simple as that when it comes down to it.

When you can look at your face in the mirror, smile at it and be satisfied with it, you’ve really accomplished a grand goal you didn’t even realize you had.

I love me. There. I said it out loud for the first time. You try it. It feels GREAT.

I love me and I don’t give a *kitten* what you you and you think about me. It’s not your right, and it’s not your business.

100% endorsed. right back atcha . . . that, even though you left my pet peeve, "bingo wings" out of the list. :flowerforyou:

Sometimes I think we, as a culture, create special names for body features, just to give ourselves more tools for self-criticism. "Hip dips", "bingo wings", "turkey neck" . . . please, no.

mmapags

AnnPT77 wrote: »

P.S. Personally, I think that Daily Mail article is significantly over-dramatizing.

Based on their credibility, they don't call The Daily Mail the Daily Fail without reason.

manderson27

This is a candid pic of me after losing 38 lbs (I am the one with dark hair lol) I did feel I looked a lot older, in fact I was quite horrified by the changes but then I think I had let myself go a bit due to being overweight and having the attitude of "what is the point if I am fat"


So I had a make over, nothing too expensive, I was going grey so changed to blonde, had my teeth fixed a bit, started wearing different and more modern make up, changed my glasses, changed the clothes I wore. So although I do have more wrinkles and a bit more sagging around my neck I can still look pretty awesome when I try. It just takes me a bit longer and a bit more effort.

I am 63 so am not going to get any less wrinkled. I just have to embrace my face and do what I can to enhance the good bits.

got2bjb

Thank You to everyone who responded! U know..... I feel 120 times better than what I did!!!!! But why from my face and not my Boobs! lol! Guess I dodged that bullet for a second! Thanks again!