For the men who tell women to smile.....
Gaygirl2120
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I have a natural resting b face. I’ve literally always been that way. It’s not that I’m angry, mad, unhappy etc. it’s just how my face is. So I often get those lovely unwanted comments from random men to “smile”. Why do you guys do this? Why can’t a woman just be herself and not expected to walk around with a fake smile on her face? Also do you tell other men to smile as well? If not, why? I’m bored and genuinely curious 🧐
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I find it cuter when women scowl. Fortunately I don't even need to request it.3
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I get this allllllll the time! 😡🤬
It's just one of those double standard things 🤷🏻♀️4 -
OpheliaCooter wrote: »I get this allllllll the time! 😡🤬
It's just one of those double standard things 🤷🏻♀️
It’s annoying AF
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idk if i've ever told a stranger to smile. i don't remember doing it at least and i like to think i'd own up to it if i did.
i tell ladies i know to smile sometimes because they're beautiful when they do it and it makes me feel better about life like there's a point to things still. like no matter how bad things get and then you say something absolutely hilarious and she hits you with that big smile and maybe a laugh and it just cracks your awe open entirely.
but that's different than a stranger telling em to i guess.
for guys, like if one of my friends is down and depressed and hating his life cause of the job or his truck broke down or child support is bankrupting him, i usually just hit em with ol' reliable "hey cheer up man!"
and then we just pretend its all okay and never actually bring up the things that haunt us9 -
I have a natural resting b face. I’ve literally always been that way. It’s not that I’m angry, mad, unhappy etc. it’s just how my face is. So I often get those lovely unwanted comments from random men to “smile”. Why do you guys do this? Why can’t a woman just be herself and not expected to walk around with a fake smile on her face? Also do you tell other men to smile as well? If not, why? I’m bored and genuinely curious 🧐
I've never had that problem 🤷♀️ I also don't necessarily think they say it in a mean way.3 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »I have a natural resting b face. I’ve literally always been that way. It’s not that I’m angry, mad, unhappy etc. it’s just how my face is. So I often get those lovely unwanted comments from random men to “smile”. Why do you guys do this? Why can’t a woman just be herself and not expected to walk around with a fake smile on her face? Also do you tell other men to smile as well? If not, why? I’m bored and genuinely curious 🧐
I've never had that problem 🤷♀️ I also don't necessarily think they say it in a mean way.
No, it isn’t mean, just presumptuous.
Honestly i have baggage right now from having to fake smile all day long at work5 -
idk if i've ever told a stranger to smile. i don't remember doing it at least and i like to think i'd own up to it if i did.
i tell ladies i know to smile sometimes because they're beautiful when they do it and it makes me feel better about life like there's a point to things still. like no matter how bad things get and then you say something absolutely hilarious and she hits you with that big smile and maybe a laugh and it just cracks your awe open entirely.
but that's different than a stranger telling em to i guess.
for guys, like if one of my friends is down and depressed and hating his life cause of the job or his truck broke down or child support is bankrupting him, i usually just hit em with ol' reliable "hey cheer up man!"
and then we just pretend its all okay and never actually bring up the things that haunt us
Context & relationship is everything2 -
idk if i've ever told a stranger to smile. i don't remember doing it at least and i like to think i'd own up to it if i did.
i tell ladies i know to smile sometimes because they're beautiful when they do it and it makes me feel better about life like there's a point to things still. like no matter how bad things get and then you say something absolutely hilarious and she hits you with that big smile and maybe a laugh and it just cracks your awe open entirely.
but that's different than a stranger telling em to i guess.
for guys, like if one of my friends is down and depressed and hating his life cause of the job or his truck broke down or child support is bankrupting him, i usually just hit em with ol' reliable "hey cheer up man!"
and then we just pretend its all okay and never actually bring up the things that haunt us
If it’s coming from someone I know, I don’t mind. I get what you are saying because you can also feel the vibe of people you know and maybe you can tell they are in a funk and this helps.
It’s the randos in public that get me.3 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »I have a natural resting b face. I’ve literally always been that way. It’s not that I’m angry, mad, unhappy etc. it’s just how my face is. So I often get those lovely unwanted comments from random men to “smile”. Why do you guys do this? Why can’t a woman just be herself and not expected to walk around with a fake smile on her face? Also do you tell other men to smile as well? If not, why? I’m bored and genuinely curious 🧐
I've never had that problem 🤷♀️ I also don't necessarily think they say it in a mean way.
I’m not saying it’s meant in a mean way. I just find it inappropriate when it’s coming from a stranger.7 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »I have a natural resting b face. I’ve literally always been that way. It’s not that I’m angry, mad, unhappy etc. it’s just how my face is. So I often get those lovely unwanted comments from random men to “smile”. Why do you guys do this? Why can’t a woman just be herself and not expected to walk around with a fake smile on her face? Also do you tell other men to smile as well? If not, why? I’m bored and genuinely curious 🧐
I've never had that problem 🤷♀️ I also don't necessarily think they say it in a mean way.
I’m not saying it’s meant in a mean way. I just find it inappropriate when it’s coming from a stranger.
I know but like I don't think it's just men that say that. My mom already told me to smile more..4 -
From what I’ve seen they do that so that if you do respond, that gives them the invitation to startup a conversation....
their intentions depends on the individual but usually that’s their way of hitting on you.
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idk if i've ever told a stranger to smile. i don't remember doing it at least and i like to think i'd own up to it if i did.
i tell ladies i know to smile sometimes because they're beautiful when they do it and it makes me feel better about life like there's a point to things still. like no matter how bad things get and then you say something absolutely hilarious and she hits you with that big smile and maybe a laugh and it just cracks your awe open entirely.
but that's different than a stranger telling em to i guess.
for guys, like if one of my friends is down and depressed and hating his life cause of the job or his truck broke down or child support is bankrupting him, i usually just hit em with ol' reliable "hey cheer up man!"
and then we just pretend its all okay and never actually bring up the things that haunt us
If it’s coming from someone I know, I don’t mind. I get what you are saying because you can also feel the vibe of people you know and maybe you can tell they are in a funk and this helps.
It’s the randos in public that get me.
i don't think the randos that do stuff like that, are ever going to be the sort of person who gives you an answer as to why. its a designation of property in a way. i don't even think that is exclusively a "man" thing. it's a people thing.
and it's not something that's taught imo, despite what some people like to think.
like my old man was a roughneck mechanic type dude his whole life and still is. his dad abandoned them when he was 11 i think and he wasn't a good father figure even before he left. you'd think my old man would've grown up to be a real prototypical jerk to woman i guess.
but he didnt. he did a pretty good job for the most part i think. he didn't need someone to tell him to not shout at women in public, and he never had to teach us not to either. it just aint suitable amongst strangers.
basically im saying- people are strange, when you're a stranger.5 -
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Depends on the situation, but I'll rarely tell anyone I don't know anything. That's not helpful, I know... so I'll just say this...
For me personally, a smiling happy person is going to be more attractive/appealing than a non smiler. So on something like instagram where people are trying to get likes/clicks/whatever... a smile is going to be more advantageous than not.0 -
I thought this thread would have more women thanking me for reminding them to smile while I’m out doing things throughout the day
Disappointing6 -
Reckoner69_lmao wrote: »I thought this thread would have more women thanking me for reminding them to smile while I’m out doing things throughout the day
Disappointing
Yeah, no lol2 -
I get SO tired of guys asking why i'm not smiling! Maybe if strange random men would STOP talking to me, I'd smile more!!!
#TellingMeToSmileWillOnlyMakeMeMeanMugHarder #YouDontOwnMe #HowDAREYouTryToTellMeWhatToDoAndExpectMeToListen #YaBreatheStinksWhichIsWhyImNotSmiling4 -
Cutemesoon wrote: »I get SO tired of guys asking why i'm not smiling! Maybe if strange random men would STOP talking to me, I'd smile more!!!
#TellingMeToSmileWillOnlyMakeMeMeanMugHarder #YouDontOwnMe #HowDAREYouTryToTellMeWhatToDoAndExpectMeToListen #YaBreatheStinksWhichIsWhyImNotSmiling
#hashtagsdontworkhere3 -
Cutemesoon wrote: »I get SO tired of guys asking why i'm not smiling! Maybe if strange random men would STOP talking to me, I'd smile more!!!
#TellingMeToSmileWillOnlyMakeMeMeanMugHarder #YouDontOwnMe #HowDAREYouTryToTellMeWhatToDoAndExpectMeToListen #YaBreatheStinksWhichIsWhyImNotSmiling
Lol exactly. I’m not trying to look friendly and attract unwanted attention. But once I tell them I like women they are usually the ones not smiling 😂3 -
that_night_in_paris wrote: »I find it cuter when women scowl. Fortunately I don't even need to request it.
heck, I can't remember receiving anything other than a scowl from a womenz, except maybe an eye-roll or two.1 -
it's a sensitive issue for sure
but how y'all feel when he pings you with that "good morning beautiful" text or maybe starts in with the "sweety" or "darlin" talk just a biiiiiit too early?
alternatively - fellas, let's finally open up about how degrading it feels when she starts calling you "babe" after 1 week. esp when you've never given her any indication that she's been anything but "experiment no. 762" in ur phone5 -
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Nah I don't even get mad about this...it's either old men...like 70s old or morons that say this. Either way, I'm not interested.4
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Do Dudes really do this?
I feel like this thread is just complaining about something that almost never happens...
If one or two guys do this, the rest of us can't explain or apologize for it...
And Eta... I've been told that I should smile more than I've ever told anyone else to smile... So it's not a guy thing... But then again I'm talking about selfies here I suppose2 -
Proud member of the RBF club here.
Smiling gives you wrinkles....RBF keeps you looking young. It's science.3 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Do Dudes really do this?
I feel like this thread is just complaining about something that almost never happens...
If one or two guys do this, the rest of us can't explain or apologize for it...
No it’s an actual common tactic that happens apparently.
https://youtu.be/BiIFjunT0Os 0 -
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It used to be more common imo or maybe i was just more desirable back in the day but nowadays deputy_randolph is right: it’s mostly old men and morons.Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Do Dudes really do this?
I feel like this thread is just complaining about something that almost never happens...
If one or two guys do this, the rest of us can't explain or apologize for it...
And Eta... I've been told that I should smile more than I've ever told anyone else to smile... So it's not a guy thing... But then again I'm talking about selfies here I suppose
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Do Dudes really do this?
I feel like this thread is just complaining about something that almost never happens...
If one or two guys do this, the rest of us can't explain or apologize for it...
And Eta... I've been told that I should smile more than I've ever told anyone else to smile... So it's not a guy thing... But then again I'm talking about selfies here I suppose
It happens pretty often 🤷🏽♀️1
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