Hi everyone, please send me motivation and good vibes~

lilharumaki

Hi everyone!! I’m Nikki and I’m recently getting back into using MFP... Nice to meet all of you!! Let’s cheer each other on!! I guess my goals right now are to try to eat healthier and lose a little weight.
I am recovering from body dysmorphic disorder and I was wondering if anyone had any tips on getting healthy without getting obsessive (I am already on anxiety meds and in therapy which have been helping tons.) thank you guys and looking forward to cheering each other on!!

lilharumaki

Also my calories are at 1700 right now but I was wondering if they should be lower? I am pretty active and train Muay Thai, Karate, or BJJ 3-4x/week.

lilharumaki

Also, feel free to friend me 💜

NovusDies

Don't eat healthy, eat healthier. There is zero reason to eat all healthy food. Your body does not need that much nutrition so it is wasted. I like to say that more nutrients than you need is more nutrients in your pee. Try to think of it in terms of tweaking what you eat now not doing some massive overhaul.

Do you actually need to lose weight? I am not a good judge of this kind of thing.

lilharumaki

Thanks for answering!! I think that’s my biggest problem, I tend to go all or nothing and try to only eat “healthy” and give up as soon as I eat something “unhealthy”...That’s a good way of thinking about it!!

And I am actually 5’1 and 160 so I think 20-30 pounds, yes! 😭

NovusDies

lilmakiroll wrote: »

Thanks for answering!! I think that’s my biggest problem, I tend to go all or nothing and try to only eat “healthy” and give up as soon as I eat something “unhealthy”...That’s a good way of thinking about it!!

And I am actually 5’1 and 160 so I think 20-30 pounds, yes! 😭

Ok I am really a terrible judge at this because looking at your picture I couldn't even see 5 pounds to lose. I certainly do not see 20 or 30 because that is how much I have to lose and it is very noticeable on me.

I am concerned about answering loss questions because I have no idea where you are in the therapeutic process.

lilharumaki

I think we are always our own worst critics, and we always notice it more on ourselves! I’m doing well in my therapeutic process (before I wouldn’t even have ever put a picture of myself on here) so I appreciate the input, thank you! 💜 I think I more just want to lose it off my hips, stomach, and arms a little! I don’t care much about BMI in the long run but I just think it would be healthier to weigh a little less!

NovusDies

lilmakiroll wrote: »

I think we are always our own worst critics, and we always notice it more on ourselves! I’m doing well in my therapeutic process (before I wouldn’t even have ever put a picture of myself on here) so I appreciate the input, thank you! 💜 I think I more just want to lose it off my hips, stomach, and arms a little! I don’t care much about BMI in the long run but I just think it would be healthier to weigh a little less!

I am not really that critical of myself. I have been technically overweight or higher since exiting puberty. In the last 2 years I have lost more than I currently weigh now. I have no idea what I should look like lean. I can definitely see back fat still and I still have a pooch in the front.

To your weight loss situation I think you should not try to lose weight but allow your weight to drift down slowly. Create a 250 calorie deficit most days (half a pound a week of loss) and then allow it to take as long as it takes. Once every 6 weeks take a 2 week deficit break where you should eat maintenance calories. If at any time you feel reluctant to take the break for any reason other than pushing it off a week for a holiday or vacation you should stop and seek help. The breaks will help prevent your hormone levels from staying low for too long and preserve muscle. They are necessary when your fat stores are low and they make losing more healthy. Since I am at a similar stage as you I am taking them about every 6 weeks too.

lilharumaki

NovusDies wrote: »

lilmakiroll wrote: »

I think we are always our own worst critics, and we always notice it more on ourselves! I’m doing well in my therapeutic process (before I wouldn’t even have ever put a picture of myself on here) so I appreciate the input, thank you! 💜 I think I more just want to lose it off my hips, stomach, and arms a little! I don’t care much about BMI in the long run but I just think it would be healthier to weigh a little less!

I am not really that critical of myself. I have been technically overweight or higher since exiting puberty. In the last 2 years I have lost more than I currently weigh now. I have no idea what I should look like lean. I can definitely see back fat still and I still have a pooch in the front.

To your weight loss situation I think you should not try to lose weight but allow your weight to drift down slowly. Create a 250 calorie deficit most days (half a pound a week of loss) and then allow it to take as long as it takes. Once every 6 weeks take a 2 week deficit break where you should eat maintenance calories. If at any time you feel reluctant to take the break for any reason other than pushing it off a week for a holiday or vacation you should stop and seek help. The breaks will help prevent your hormone levels from stay low for too long and preserve muscle. They are necessary when your fat stores are low and they make losing more healthy. Since I am at a similar stage as you I am taking them about every 6 weeks too.

I also have the pooch LOL, it’s the last thing our bodies want to let go of! But thank you so much your advice, I’m going to try to take it slow and make slow lifestyle changes rather than going too fast and giving up quickly!

NovusDies

lilmakiroll wrote: »

NovusDies wrote: »

lilmakiroll wrote: »

I think we are always our own worst critics, and we always notice it more on ourselves! I’m doing well in my therapeutic process (before I wouldn’t even have ever put a picture of myself on here) so I appreciate the input, thank you! 💜 I think I more just want to lose it off my hips, stomach, and arms a little! I don’t care much about BMI in the long run but I just think it would be healthier to weigh a little less!

I am not really that critical of myself. I have been technically overweight or higher since exiting puberty. In the last 2 years I have lost more than I currently weigh now. I have no idea what I should look like lean. I can definitely see back fat still and I still have a pooch in the front.

To your weight loss situation I think you should not try to lose weight but allow your weight to drift down slowly. Create a 250 calorie deficit most days (half a pound a week of loss) and then allow it to take as long as it takes. Once every 6 weeks take a 2 week deficit break where you should eat maintenance calories. If at any time you feel reluctant to take the break for any reason other than pushing it off a week for a holiday or vacation you should stop and seek help. The breaks will help prevent your hormone levels from stay low for too long and preserve muscle. They are necessary when your fat stores are low and they make losing more healthy. Since I am at a similar stage as you I am taking them about every 6 weeks too.

I also have the pooch LOL, it’s the last thing our bodies want to let go of! But thank you so much your advice, I’m going to try to take it slow and make slow lifestyle changes rather than going too fast and giving up quickly!

I have a pooch. I am not entirely certain but I am betting what you are seeing may be explainable by this thread:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10689837/does-this-uterus-make-my-stomach-look-fat/p1

lilharumaki

NovusDies wrote: »

lilmakiroll wrote: »

NovusDies wrote: »

lilmakiroll wrote: »

I think we are always our own worst critics, and we always notice it more on ourselves! I’m doing well in my therapeutic process (before I wouldn’t even have ever put a picture of myself on here) so I appreciate the input, thank you! 💜 I think I more just want to lose it off my hips, stomach, and arms a little! I don’t care much about BMI in the long run but I just think it would be healthier to weigh a little less!

I am not really that critical of myself. I have been technically overweight or higher since exiting puberty. In the last 2 years I have lost more than I currently weigh now. I have no idea what I should look like lean. I can definitely see back fat still and I still have a pooch in the front.

To your weight loss situation I think you should not try to lose weight but allow your weight to drift down slowly. Create a 250 calorie deficit most days (half a pound a week of loss) and then allow it to take as long as it takes. Once every 6 weeks take a 2 week deficit break where you should eat maintenance calories. If at any time you feel reluctant to take the break for any reason other than pushing it off a week for a holiday or vacation you should stop and seek help. The breaks will help prevent your hormone levels from stay low for too long and preserve muscle. They are necessary when your fat stores are low and they make losing more healthy. Since I am at a similar stage as you I am taking them about every 6 weeks too.

I also have the pooch LOL, it’s the last thing our bodies want to let go of! But thank you so much your advice, I’m going to try to take it slow and make slow lifestyle changes rather than going too fast and giving up quickly!

I have a pooch. I am not entirely certain but I am betting what you are seeing may be explainable by this thread:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10689837/does-this-uterus-make-my-stomach-look-fat/p1

That makes me really happy to see this, women uplifting each other and showing each other in reality what bodies look like and that it’s natural and normal. I guess having a completely “flat” belly is often a myth and we should love our bellies the way they are 💜