Do you hate yourself or are you normal?
UmaMageswarymfp
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The amount of opportunities im missing because of my body image issues and insecurities is crazyyy. God I wish someone taught me how to love myself cause I do be struggling. Lmao pls drop tips to accept myself 😭😂 I do be struggling 💀
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Perhaps talk nicely to yourself, Uma. You seem to be such a bubbly personality.
From what I've seen of your posts, you're also very resilient and non-judgmental.
All very laudable. All super cool.6 -
Realize that how you look (or think you look) has no bearing on who you are.
If you can't love the way you look on the outside, reflect on who you are on the inside.3 -
Perhaps talk nicely to yourself, Uma. You seem to be such a bubbly personality.
From what I've seen of your posts, you're also very resilient and non-judgmental.
All very laudable. All super cool.
Omg you’re the sweetest, thank you sooo much that means a lot to me 😭💜 . Trust me sis I’m trying my hardest to be nice to myself. Hopefully I get there sooner. Also how do you find my posts , is there a way I’m so confused hahaha but your replies excites me all the time hehe4 -
SuzySunshine99 wrote: »Realize that how you look (or think you look) has no bearing on who you are.
If you can't love the way you look on the outside, reflect on who you are on the inside.
Wait this is deep but I feel like I have version of myself created in my head but it’s not reflecting in the mirror obvs and that’s breaking my heart everyday. I just wish I can be content with myself sometimes2 -
I learned nobody really cares what i look like but me. But I care a lot.
Go get it.
LIFT. HEAVY.4 -
UmaMageswarymfp wrote: »Perhaps talk nicely to yourself, Uma. You seem to be such a bubbly personality.
From what I've seen of your posts, you're also very resilient and non-judgmental.
All very laudable. All super cool.
Omg you’re the sweetest, thank you sooo much that means a lot to me 😭💜 . Trust me sis I’m trying my hardest to be nice to myself. Hopefully I get there sooner. Also how do you find my posts , is there a way I’m so confused hahaha but your replies excites me all the time hehe
lol I just be sure to click when I see your posts on the "Recent Discussions" page...which I visit too often
Your posts are also very memorable for a young person so I can only imagine what a positive impression you must make in real life!1 -
if you do be struggling, try a doobie and relax2
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Uma. I've been looking for you for weeks.
Turn all of this pain into ACTION. Don't let life or weight grind you down. You share your pain because you're real. You don't hide behind anything. People remember extremes. It's so much easier to remember the negative comments than the praise we receive. Criticism over praise.
How you speak to yourself matters. Our brain remembers the extremes. Flip the Switch.
Our body is the very best friend we will ever have in this life. It sticks with us through wild swings UP and down and back and forth and everything we throw at it You don't hide. That puts you in a better position than all those who are hiding. You lay your soul bare and you own it. I respect you for that.
Show me the money. Show me the way.
You always do.
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Wait— I hate myself and think it’s totally normal... oops?6
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_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Wait— I hate myself and think it’s totally normal... oops?
This is kinda where I was, I thought that *was* normal3 -
Sometimes on a seemingly "normal" day, I'll fall into a deep sense of despair for no obvious reason. There will be dozens of different thoughts floating around my head but I can't pinpoint or even justify the hopelessness these thoughts provoke... and then I keep myself there... On purpose. Recalling all of my mistakes and highlighting all of my failures. I even try to find ways to justify the horrible things that others have done to me and look for ways that it was my fault. I don't have many deep and meaningful friendships out of fear of not being understood or looked down upon or ridiculed for having what some would consider extreme highs and lows... a dark side and a rebellious nature. I just feel things so deeply and overthink the world around me perhaps to a fault. I wonder sometimes if I spiral like this because deep down I hate myself... even though hate is a strong word and there are many ways in which I practice self love. I also see the ways in which I berate and abuse myself. Forever a work in progress.8
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UmaMageswarymfp wrote: »Perhaps talk nicely to yourself, Uma. You seem to be such a bubbly personality.
From what I've seen of your posts, you're also very resilient and non-judgmental.
All very laudable. All super cool.
Omg you’re the sweetest, thank you sooo much that means a lot to me 😭💜 . Trust me sis I’m trying my hardest to be nice to myself. Hopefully I get there sooner. Also how do you find my posts , is there a way I’m so confused hahaha but your replies excites me all the time hehe
lol I just be sure to click when I see your posts on the "Recent Discussions" page...which I visit too often
Your posts are also very memorable for a young person so I can only imagine what a positive impression you must make in real life!
Omg you’re too nice 🥺 once again thank you.1 -
happimess01 wrote: »if you do be struggling, try a doobie and relax
What’s a doobie 😂💀1 -
Diatonic12 wrote: »Uma. I've been looking for you for weeks.
Turn all of this pain into ACTION. Don't let life or weight grind you down. You share your pain because you're real. You don't hide behind anything. People remember extremes. It's so much easier to remember the negative comments than the praise we receive. Criticism over praise.
How you speak to yourself matters. Our brain remembers the extremes. Flip the Switch.
Our body is the very best friend we will ever have in this life. It sticks with us through wild swings UP and down and back and forth and everything we throw at it You don't hide. That puts you in a better position than all those who are hiding. You lay your soul bare and you own it. I respect you for that.
Show me the money. Show me the way.
You always do.
Wait omg I needed this thank you , I do be taking every silly criticism harshly. It ruins my dayyy and makes me never wanna step out of the house yk but now I’m working on it . Also when you said you’ve been looking for me is that a form of expression or did you actually look for me hehe I’m so lost. THANK YOU SM FOR THIS BTW 💜1 -
Hugs
I like to think we "hate" ourselves because its an evolutionary behaviour to "be better"
Just keep "trying" you know? "Survival"
No matter where we are at in life - we can always improve, learn and grow4 -
_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Wait— I hate myself and think it’s totally normal... oops?
Felt that in my bones.0 -
i think im a pretty regular type dude4
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Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »Sometimes on a seemingly "normal" day, I'll fall into a deep sense of despair for no obvious reason. There will be dozens of different thoughts floating around my head but I can't pinpoint or even justify the hopelessness these thoughts provoke... and then I keep myself there... On purpose. Recalling all of my mistakes and highlighting all of my failures. I even try to find ways to justify the horrible things that others have done to me and look for ways that it was my fault. I don't have many deep and meaningful friendships out of fear of not being understood or looked down upon or ridiculed for having what some would consider extreme highs and lows... a dark side and a rebellious nature. I just feel things so deeply and overthink the world around me perhaps to a fault. I wonder sometimes if I spiral like this because deep down I hate myself... even though hate is a strong word and there are many ways in which I practice self love. I also see the ways in which I berate and abuse myself. Forever a work in progress.
I got chills reading this because this is exactly what I feel..I have friends but I never trust them fully or I’ll always have a facade on so that I don’t get looked down upon. Even when I’m extremely sad , I try to be bubbly and positive so that they won’t think “oh no here we go she’s depressed again” funnily enough someone actually said those words to me. I can’t even be sad in peace imagine that 😂😂. Now I rarely go out because I don’t have the energy to carry facade around. I only hang out when I’m feeling happy and stable. It’s twisted but it is what it is . Always working on it1 -
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UmaMageswarymfp wrote: »The amount of opportunities im missing because of my body image issues and insecurities is crazyyy. God I wish someone taught me how to love myself cause I do be struggling. Lmao pls drop tips to accept myself 😭😂 I do be struggling 💀
i went through 50 years of feeling not good enough. it took several health crises for me to stop caring about my body image. the most important thing is being fit and healthy - no matter how you *look* i've seen your progress. be proud of what you've accomplished Lady!
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this thread title has been *kitten* me up all day5
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »this thread title has been *kitten* me up all day
Hahahah it’s a slang / joke for teenagers, even tho I’m grown 21 adult but I catch myself saying all these slangs haha2 -
MiNinaLisa wrote: »UmaMageswarymfp wrote: »The amount of opportunities im missing because of my body image issues and insecurities is crazyyy. God I wish someone taught me how to love myself cause I do be struggling. Lmao pls drop tips to accept myself 😭😂 I do be struggling 💀
i went through 50 years of feeling not good enough. it took several health crises for me to stop caring about my body image. the most important thing is being fit and healthy - no matter how you *look* i've seen your progress. be proud of what you've accomplished Lady!
Oh wow I’m so sorry that you went through that and I hope you’re at a happier place rn because you deserve that. I’m proud of my progress , just not content with myself yet sigh.1 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »this thread title has been *kitten* me up all day
Me too
+ that other one I cringey posted in so much I think I should kill Vikka and let her RIP
...but when I resurrect, the same *kitten* will be coming out of my mouth!
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UmaMageswarymfp wrote: »MiNinaLisa wrote: »UmaMageswarymfp wrote: »The amount of opportunities im missing because of my body image issues and insecurities is crazyyy. God I wish someone taught me how to love myself cause I do be struggling. Lmao pls drop tips to accept myself 😭😂 I do be struggling 💀
i went through 50 years of feeling not good enough. it took several health crises for me to stop caring about my body image. the most important thing is being fit and healthy - no matter how you *look* i've seen your progress. be proud of what you've accomplished Lady!
Oh wow I’m so sorry that you went through that and I hope you’re at a happier place rn because you deserve that. I’m proud of my progress , just not content with myself yet sigh.
i'm still going through them on the daily - but thank you. i'm sorry that you are so hard on yourself. i hope you will get beyond the physical and realize your heart and health is more important than the physical appearance. i just hope it doesn't take you as long as it took me Uma ...you are more than that.... i got tormented endlessly in gradeschool and in my family atmosphere for my terrible skin and other things. i had no support my way. MFP tho - in my experience after being here for a few years - has really been beneficial. but we all have to go through growing pains to find out who we really are *hug* 1 -
There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way 💕...
There is a beauty beyond the senses Nefratiri 💕...
Never give up 💕...5 -
Darkness can not drive out darkness, only light can do that...
Hate can not drive out hate, only love can do that 💕...
Look at it this way, obviously you love yourself, or you wouldn't be so concerned with how you feel, you wouldn't get down on yourself if you didn't care...
You do love yourself... Find peace in knowing that you do already love yourself and just want more for yourself because you love yourself...
Then decide what to do from there if anything need be done at all... You're already more than enough...6
you have a lot of inner knowledge 
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