Looking back I don't actually think I was fat.

Squatcleananddeadlift

When I was in my teens and early twenties my dad/brothers/friend was a bit off an an *kitten* and told me I was fat. In my early twenties I weighed in the region of 10 stone 4lb to 10 stone 7lb. I tried everything to drop 10lb and I could never really manage it. When I was 25 I met my now wife (I am female) and we often discussed my desire to lose weight. I think because I was so adamant I needed to lose it she adopted that thought process as well. One day I asked her if she thought I was fat because she kept doing that thing that people do "Let's lose weight together" etc etc. She said she felt I was overweight and that I could do with losing some. 7 years later low and behold I am now in the region of 13 stone 10lb to 14 stone. I look back at photos of myself and just wish I could go back there and realise I wasn't fat. I wish I had the confidence to say to people no I am fine leave me alone. I didn't and now I do need to lose the pounds. I am so frustrated when I think that I let people talk to me like that or let me believe I was enormous.

I realise this is all my doing and I can't blame everyone else. But I did honestly believe as a child that I was huge and I wasn't - I was so so so normal sized. As a young adult I did need to lose 10lb but it was nothing like now.

Panda3270

Thank you for sharing. My experience was similar in that people (family members, "friends", and others) said certain things about my weight when I was a child and through my 20's. I also look back at pictures, and I'm like "I wasn't even that big". Oh well. I no longer have an unhealthy view of myself because of what others think. I try to focus on healthy choices, and am slowly losing weight, so that I feel better.

1chesc

@Squatcleananddeadlift I can really empathise with you. Throughout my teenage years I really thought I was fat (I was comparing myself with under weight family members) at 19 I was a healthy weight at 10st 4lbs but I genuinely thought I was fat.

When I was in my early 20s my weight increased and I looked to fad diets as a solution (they don't work) eventually I reached 13st.

I managed to loose 1 stone 10lbs when I was 27 but after alot of stress I went back to old habits and my weight increased to 13st 7lbs.

Although I was disappointed when I put the weight back on, i have learnt more about myself and gained more understanding on how my mental health effects my physical health.

When lockdown started I was furloughed from work so I used the time to start walking and focusing on my diet. Since March I have managed to loose 2st 5lbs. I am now back at work (working from home) so I have less time to go walking so my weight loss has slowed but I have continued to log my food and try my best to stay within my calorie goal.

Noreenmarie1234

I am similar. I was called fat my entire childhood by friends but my BMI was always around 19-20. I was being compared to my underweight peers.