Is my girlfriend cheating ? Late night long gym sessions and Dodgey behaviour overall :( help

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  • GingerPwr
    GingerPwr Posts: 1,979 Member
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    If you can't trust her, can't have a straight up conversation with her, and you say the stress of the relationship is giving you anxiety, then nothing about your relationship seems healthy.

    Time to cut loose, whether she's cheating or not.
    Good luck!
  • Dontletitbeatyou2018
    Dontletitbeatyou2018 Posts: 78 Member
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    Thanks everyone it’s going to be some serious thinking time I don’t think I should make a decision in the moment do you agree or are you saying she will never change her habbits and I either have to accept this is who she is 0 compromise or for my feelings and it’s now up to me
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
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    Dontletitbeatyou2018 wrote: »
    Thanks everyone it’s going to be some serious thinking time I don’t think I should make a decision in the moment do you agree or are you saying she will never change her habbits and I either have to accept this is who she is 0 compromise or for my feelings and it’s now up to me

    She's not going to change; people only change when and if they want to and that has nothing to do with the influences of people in their life.

    You may just have a conflict of personality and expectations. Better to cut loose and move on so you both can find someone who fits your personality/expectations/lifestyle a bit better, even if it hurts to do so.

    I don't feel that, if some of these issues are important to you, you should have to shove them aside for her (that's not compromise, by the way, that's you blatantly being disregarded in favor of another person, which is not how a healthy relationship should work).

    But you are correct: sit and think on it a bit. Weigh out the pros and cons and come back to it.
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
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    Start going with her or hire a PI.
  • Dontletitbeatyou2018
    Dontletitbeatyou2018 Posts: 78 Member
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    Thanks everyone
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,631 Member
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    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    We're due for an update, no?

    I still say you should take her Lululemons to a forensics team for analysis. Take no chances!

    Ohhh...do you listen to murder podcast???
  • Danw586
    Danw586 Posts: 237 Member
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    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    We're due for an update, no?

    I still say you should take her Lululemons to a forensics team for analysis. Take no chances!

    Or get a black light

  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,492 Member
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    Danw586 wrote: »
    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    We're due for an update, no?

    I still say you should take her Lululemons to a forensics team for analysis. Take no chances!

    Or get a black light

    This would be especially handy if she’s also smuggling scorpions in her undies.
  • Yoshiboobs
    Yoshiboobs Posts: 1,090 Member
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    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Danw586 wrote: »
    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    We're due for an update, no?

    I still say you should take her Lululemons to a forensics team for analysis. Take no chances!

    Or get a black light

    This would be especially handy if she’s also smuggling scorpions in her undies.

    They’re a snack for later
  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
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    Motorsheen wrote: »

    I still say you should take her Lululemons to a forensics team for analysis. Take no chances!

    Or get a black light

    This would be especially handy if she’s also smuggling scorpions in her undies.

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  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    edited December 2020
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    Dontletitbeatyou2018 wrote: »
    It's going to be some serious thinking time.
    I don’t think I should make a decision in the moment.
    Do you agree or are you saying she will never change her habits and
    I either have to accept this is who she is...
    0 compromise or for my feelings and it’s now up to me.

    Second verse same as the first.

    I hope you didn't buy an engagement ring or an expensive Christmas present. Spend your money on yourself.

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