Girl Friend Influence

patfriendly

Guys and Girls are different in many ways. One particular behavior I consistently find in girls that I just can't understand is girls almost always have girl friends that they seek approval from on simple choices in life. Be it what dress to wear or who to date etc. Guys on the other hand, do what they like and sometimes share with friends and sometimes don't.

So why is it that girls make decisions in groups, but guys decide on their own? I know the question is very general and there are exceptions to the rule. But I would like to hear from as many people, what they think is the reasoning behind this.

xombiebite

i dunno. i do what i want where i want how i want when i want.
but i have no friends

SoDamnHungry

i dunno. i do what i want where i want how i want when i want.
but i have no friends

Maybe because you are a xombie who bites them.

Edit: Typo made me sound like a caveman.

dakotababy

i dunno. i do what i want where i want how i want when i want.
but i have no friends

...I have to second this. I also do not have friends.

xombiebite

i dunno. i do what i want where i want how i want when i want.
but i have no friends

Maybe because you a xombie who bites them.

maybe...*wanders away to ponder this*

Achaila

I don't have any friends to seek advice from.

Beckyloo80

Not all girls do this. I am more like a guy in this sense.

I do not have an explanation on why girls do this, but approval from other woman seems to be like a very big thing for some women. *shrugs* Maybe it's cause women hate other women, so gaining approval is important in making them feel good.

rml_16

An objective opinion from an outside source is generally more accurate than my person, subjective opinion. I trust my friends and know they have my best interests in mind. If my friends think my SO is horrible, he probably is. And if they tell me my butt looks big in those jeans, it probably does.

Tinyfigure

I don't make decisions in groups. The only person responsible for decisions in my life is myself. At least I can blame myself when something goes wrong..

loopylin32

becoz we are better. i polled all my gal pals and this is our joint reply

babyj0

I just feel dumb sometimes and don't know what I'm doing. Simple truth. :laugh:

GeekTink

I make all my own decisions, do what I want and when lol. I have lots of friends!

...They might just like me because I'm the unpredictable one that they wish they had the guts to act like...


I must ponder this...

marcy_76

Not all girls do this. I am more like a guy in this sense.

I do not have an explanation on why girls do this, but approval from other woman seems to be like a very big thing for some women. *shrugs* Maybe it's cause women hate other women, so gaining approval is important in making them feel good.

I have to agree with you on this.

Personally, I really don't hang with girls, as most are so busy looking pretty, buying the best heels and handbag, and bashing each other behind their backs.

I think girls do this because they are selfish (everything's about me, me ME) and possibly even more insecure than they'd like to admit.

That's my two cents worth.

~M~

mlcantwell

We ask each other for advice sometimes, maybe because we want a second opinion or to be better informed and I like when my friends pay me compliments but I make my own choices.

rml_16

Not all girls do this. I am more like a guy in this sense.

I do not have an explanation on why girls do this, but approval from other woman seems to be like a very big thing for some women. *shrugs* Maybe it's cause women hate other women, so gaining approval is important in making them feel good.

I have to agree with you on this.

Personally, I really don't hang with girls, as most are so busy looking pretty, buying the best heels and handbag, and bashing each other behind their backs.

I think girls do this because they are selfish (everything's about me, me ME) and possibly even more insecure than they'd like to admit.

That's my two cents worth.

~M~

I'm very sorry that you attract such horrible people into your life.

ItsCasey

Is this really an unsolved mystery? Guys don't care that much about clothes or haircuts, so they're not going to ask other guys if they look alright.

Personally, if I think I look good (and I always do), I don't give a flying crap what anyone else thinks about how I'm dressed or whether they like my hair style. And I most definitely am not going to seek a girl's counsel on which guy to date because most girls are total idiots when it comes to that sort of thing. I trust my brother's opinion above pretty much anyone else's when it comes to men. If I really like someone, I'll let my brother meet him. If he gets the thumbs up, we're good to go.

jenjencin78

Not all girls do this. I am more like a guy in this sense.

I do not have an explanation on why girls do this, but approval from other woman seems to be like a very big thing for some women. *shrugs* Maybe it's cause women hate other women, so gaining approval is important in making them feel good.

I have to agree with you on this.

Personally, I really don't hang with girls, as most are so busy looking pretty, buying the best heels and handbag, and bashing each other behind their backs.

I think girls do this because they are selfish (everything's about me, me ME) and possibly even more insecure than they'd like to admit.

That's my two cents worth.

~M~

I want to be your friend-we think alike Sometimes I feel like I'm missing that "girl gene" if you will.

_Krys10_

I thought we were just required to go to the bathroom in groups, you mean we have to get each others approval on everything?

I personally don't get other women's approval but my BFF can't decide a damn thing without consulting me first.

Jennikitten

i dunno. i do what i want where i want how i want when i want.
but i have no friends

...I have to second this. I also do not have friends.

This is me also :S

At least there is more than one of us

shutupandlift13

All the women that think they're above the cattiness and drama that ALL other women apparently have is pretty funny to me...

Besides, most women's cattiness comes from low self esteem. Once you find a group of women that actually have a solid sense of self-worth and confidence in their intelligence, accomplishments, personality and appearance, the cattiness and drama is pretty much non existent.

All the girls that hang with the guys.... you're not a special snowflake, you've just been around the wrong kind of women.

shutupandlift13

Is this really an unsolved mystery? Guys don't care that much about clothes or haircuts, so they're not going to ask other guys if they look alright.

Personally, if I think I look good (and I always do), I don't give a flying crap what anyone else thinks about how I'm dressed or whether they like my hair style. And I most definitely am not going to seek a girl's counsel on which guy to date because most girls are total idiots when it comes to that sort of thing. I trust my brother's opinion above pretty much anyone else's when it comes to men. If I really like someone, I'll let my brother meet him. If he gets the thumbs up, we're good to go.

And this, Casey and I basically share a brain, so I just ditto her on everything.

pawnstarNate

Great...now the girls are just going to get their opinions from their friends on how to answer this

patfriendly

I thought we were just required to go to the bathroom in groups, you mean we have to get each others approval on everything?

I personally don't get other women's approval but my BFF can't decide a damn thing without consulting me first.

See. Thats what I am talking about. Why do you feel the need to control your BFF and why does she agree to everything you say?

JenAndSome

I wouldn't say that all girls/guys are this way. I personally rarely ask for advice or opinions from my friends. I have some female friends who are constantly seeking reassurance and some who do not. I have some guy friends who are constantly seeking reassurance and some who do not.

PaleoChocolateBear

I'm just here for the cheese

_Krys10_

I thought we were just required to go to the bathroom in groups, you mean we have to get each others approval on everything?

I personally don't get other women's approval but my BFF can't decide a damn thing without consulting me first.

See. Thats what I am talking about. Why do you feel the need to control your BFF and why does she agree to everything you say?

I am NOT controlling her and she doesn't have to agree, she is the one asking my opinion.

bloominheck

LOL, thats what we let you think. We are really just laughing at you.....:bigsmile:

lilRicki

An objective opinion from an outside source is generally more accurate than my person, subjective opinion. I trust my friends and know they have my best interests in mind. If my friends think my SO is horrible, he probably is. And if they tell me my butt looks big in those jeans, it probably does.

QFT, but I do have a brain, and don't take all criticism and opinions to heart

luckyshilling

I definately don't listen to my best friend. If I did I would have very short hair right now.

I don't care how many times she insists I would look adorable. I like my hair long, I is addicted to my ponytail.:drinker:

Doone33

I would agree that woman do hate woman... we are such mean creatures to each other! Even when you try to be nice... it seems often it is taken wrong as .. that is what woman are use to! So I am not sure... I would not take another women's advice... I have to wonder... is this a woman you are talking about... or is it a young girl.. teen? Maybe early 20?

The advice I seek... is to eliminate the fact that woman are hormonal and I would not want to make a choice based on feelings or hormones... This happens OFTEN to many woman... including myself no matter how hard I try!!

emirror

1 - not all women do. Alpha chicks don't, Beta chicks do. That's the way it rolls with men, too.

2 - speaking of Alpha, I think the cattiness is a throwback to caveman days. If your man took off with another woman when you were gestating, birthing, or nursing, you would stand a big chance of both you and your offspring dying. If you kept your man around, you had food and protection. So, being catty was probably a way of not letting too many women get around your man.