Demi Lovato's Twitter about an LA fro-yo shop: eating disorder recovery or sense of entitlement?

janejellyroll

qhob_89 wrote: »

janejellyroll wrote: »

LoveyChar wrote: »

janejellyroll wrote: »

LoveyChar wrote: »

I agree that it's a sense of entitlement. Hollywood produced a defective product and Demi Lovato was proud to prove it with her public display of stupidity! Anything for a snippet of attention!

The idea that she's merely a "product" is probably part of the reason she developed emotional issues. Even if she's totally and completely wrong (I'd argue she is), she's still human, not a messed up product.

Uhhhh okay...

I'm curious about what part of my post provoked this reaction. Do you genuinely see her as a mere "defective product"?

My point is that when people are hurting (which she pretty clearly seems to be), it can result in lashing out at the wrong people or making mistakes in reasoning or judgment. This doesn't mean we can't respond to those things, but writing her off as a "defective product" seems so harsh and maybe part of the reason why child stars seem to so often struggle as they age.

My approach is probably tempered by the fact that I have a younger sibling who has struggled with opioid addiction (thankfully now in recovery). When I look at people like Demi Lovato, I can't help but see the hurting human there.

I think many of Demi’s struggles have come from that alone... she’s always been treated as a product. She had a team that started treating her like a defective product as she was coming into adulthood- they restricted her food to the point of not even letting her have a birthday cake.
I truly empathize with her journey and struggles, however I don’t support her Twitter woke police rant, whatever you want to call it. I’ve followed her story off and on for years and as of recent she’s been shouting from the mountain tops (new docuseries included) how well she’s doing and how her recovery is going awesome. To me, this Twitter rant is a huge red flag (that I hope others around her see) that she isn’t doing as well in her recovery as she’s touting. If you walk into froyo shop and your ED is triggered, you should take that as a sign you should put some energy into your recovery instead of using that energy to take on a small business over Twitter. I thought it was great that this froyo shop tried to be inclusive of those who don’t get the option of being triggered. Those who are diabetic don’t get the option to walk into bakeries, ice cream/froyo joints and then hop on Twitter to claim they were triggered by there being no options for them. It seemed like she painted this as “diet culture” because it fit her message about ED, when in reality it came off entitled, like the diabetics should go through the backdoor because their sugar free options offend me. I feel it is each individual’s responsibility to manage their own triggers (ie recovery) as society isn’t going to cater to each individual’s needs. If someone is in recovery from alcohol use, they don’t walk into a bar and have a Twitter fit about being triggered because they were just there for the fries but there was all sorts of alcohol served. If she isn’t in a place in her recovery to go into a froyo shop without feeling triggered, then she shouldn’t have gone in the first place.

Exactly - I don't agree with her on a lot of things, but she's clearly troubled and I hope things get better for her.

I think of it like this: if I know someone's triggers and I deliberately ignore what I can do to help, I'm the jerk. If I'm running a business and someone comes in and is triggered by my product . . . well, that's unfortunate, but I don't think I'm obligated to change my whole business model. If you've got ED issues, there are going to be lots of obvious and not-so-obvious triggers in life and people have to take some accountability to manage their own experience.

glassyo

Aaaaaaaand now Demi has a comedy pilot called Hungry about a group of friends who belong to a food issues group.

Theoldguy1

Thinking this person's 15 minutes are up. Time for her to go away.

glassyo

glassyo wrote: »

I knew there was a rant but not the specifics until this post. It was definitely a dumb and selfish one and I feel like if things trigger you, it's your responsibility to walk away and not someone who's just trying to make a living.

I would almost say it was for PR but it's also rumored she's not exactly sober these days so it could be that too.

Bringing this back because....uh....PR.

xrj22

Entitled. That seems like an entirely person rant about one persons specific opinions. I don't even think those feeling generalize to most people with eating disorder -- some might find healthier options reassuring, whereas others may find the info or number of choices distressing. But basically, offering different types of yogurt is well within what one would expect at a yogurt shop. So get over it.