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Demi Lovato's Twitter about an LA fro-yo shop: eating disorder recovery or sense of entitlement?

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  • MarieBuch10MarieBuch10 Member Posts: 7 Member Member Posts: 7 Member
    I love Demi Lovato and have so much empathy for her since I’ve also struggled with eating disorders from a young age. I can understand her having such a strong reaction, in the early stages of my own recovery I was extremely selfish and my concern was completely self-centered, but it really is our own responsibility to either avoid our triggers (and if we can’t, find another way to deal with them). I don’t think Demi is truly entitled (she could be somewhat, don’t know her), but I think recovering from eating disorders AND severe trauma and substance abuse, combined with being a highly visible celebrity in a culture that rewards calling out people, businesses, etc for the most minor perceived slights just created the perfect bad situation. Thankfully the shop seems to be doing well anyhow, and hopefully it doesn’t derail Demi’s recovery. On a side note, if I really wanted to avoid diet culture I’d probably go to a traditional ice cream shop and not a Frozen Yogurt place.
  • Speakeasy76Speakeasy76 Member Posts: 519 Member Member Posts: 519 Member
    I love Demi Lovato and have so much empathy for her since I’ve also struggled with eating disorders from a young age. I can understand her having such a strong reaction, in the early stages of my own recovery I was extremely selfish and my concern was completely self-centered, but it really is our own responsibility to either avoid our triggers (and if we can’t, find another way to deal with them). I don’t think Demi is truly entitled (she could be somewhat, don’t know her), but I think recovering from eating disorders AND severe trauma and substance abuse, combined with being a highly visible celebrity in a culture that rewards calling out people, businesses, etc for the most minor perceived slights just created the perfect bad situation. Thankfully the shop seems to be doing well anyhow, and hopefully it doesn’t derail Demi’s recovery. On a side note, if I really wanted to avoid diet culture I’d probably go to a traditional ice cream shop and not a Frozen Yogurt place.

    Thank you for this perspective. This is kind of what I was wondering. I actually think she's quite talented and really feel for all she's been through. I think she thought she was coming from a "good place" in trying to educate others about eating disorders and how diet culture, in general, can be damaging...or at least that's what she told herself (and others).
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  • LoveyCharLoveyChar Member Posts: 2,997 Member Member Posts: 2,997 Member
    LoveyChar wrote: »
    I agree that it's a sense of entitlement. Hollywood produced a defective product and Demi Lovato was proud to prove it with her public display of stupidity! Anything for a snippet of attention!

    The idea that she's merely a "product" is probably part of the reason she developed emotional issues. Even if she's totally and completely wrong (I'd argue she is), she's still human, not a messed up product.

    Uhhhh okay...
  • pfeiferlindseypfeiferlindsey Member Posts: 115 Member Member Posts: 115 Member
    LoveyChar wrote: »
    LoveyChar wrote: »
    I agree that it's a sense of entitlement. Hollywood produced a defective product and Demi Lovato was proud to prove it with her public display of stupidity! Anything for a snippet of attention!

    The idea that she's merely a "product" is probably part of the reason she developed emotional issues. Even if she's totally and completely wrong (I'd argue she is), she's still human, not a messed up product.

    Uhhhh okay...

    I'm curious about what part of my post provoked this reaction. Do you genuinely see her as a mere "defective product"?

    My point is that when people are hurting (which she pretty clearly seems to be), it can result in lashing out at the wrong people or making mistakes in reasoning or judgment. This doesn't mean we can't respond to those things, but writing her off as a "defective product" seems so harsh and maybe part of the reason why child stars seem to so often struggle as they age.

    My approach is probably tempered by the fact that I have a younger sibling who has struggled with opioid addiction (thankfully now in recovery). When I look at people like Demi Lovato, I can't help but see the hurting human there.

    For her sake, I hope she leans into whatever support system she has in place before that hurt leads her down the path to relapsing back on the hardcore stuff. I'd argue that this lashing out means she should look into absolute sobriety vs. "California Sober", but each addict's recovery and journey is their own.
  • WhatsthemotiveWhatsthemotive Member, Premium Posts: 143 Member Member, Premium Posts: 143 Member
    Social media has a way of making you feel heard and like you are connecting with people when you really aren’t. In a void, her comments seem silly. In the context provided, the comments can evoke empathy. I’ve had two incidents when I drank too much and posted stuff on Facebook I was embarrassed about. Both were when I was in deep grief, right after my mother and my brother died (about five months apart). I posted stupid stuff about how I had failed both of them and how I didn’t deserve to go on living when they had died. Maybe she was in a place where she needed to be heard.
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