“Situationship”
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I personally never get over anything. Like, just literally block them from your mind.5
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I had to look it up. Lots of definitions of one so basically, I'd say, EVERYONE has been in one.
I've done the hanging out with guys and things happen situation, and the booty call situation, and the feelings on only one side situation and the actual dating situation.
What are you trying to get over?2 -
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Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.3
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Peachesand_cream wrote: »Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.
I think I'm in a situationship with my MFP friends list
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »Peachesand_cream wrote: »Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.
I think I'm in a situationship with my MFP friends list
Your entire list?
I'm offended, I thought our situationship was exclusive.
I'm breaking it off and heading over to @Motorsheen bc he's next on my friend list5 -
Peachesand_cream wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »Peachesand_cream wrote: »Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.
I think I'm in a situationship with my MFP friends list
Your entire list?
I'm offended, I thought our situationship was exclusive.
I'm breaking it off and heading over to @Motorsheen bc he's next on my friend list
But we are. We're just in different time zones so sometimes I get bored. I'm sorry, I won't do it again 😆😘2 -
Peachesand_cream wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »Peachesand_cream wrote: »Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.
I think I'm in a situationship with my MFP friends list
Your entire list?
I'm offended, I thought our situationship was exclusive.
I'm breaking it off and heading over to @Motorsheen bc he's next on my friend list
Approved.4 -
I’m so glad I asked this question 😂😂😂
To add some context I broke up with an ex over 15 years ago but we still remained In contact. We broke up because off cultural/religious clashes (yeah I know it’s sad) we met stayed together many times usual stuff not we was never official as we couldn’t be. Think I hate her for various reasons but I still miss here lol. Our thing can never be more than a situationship so that’s why I need a way to forget her lol3 -
OpheliaCooter wrote: »I personally never get over anything. Like, just literally block them from your mind.
Bloody hard when they even still appear on your dreams 😒3 -
I had to look it up. Lots of definitions of one so basically, I'd say, EVERYONE has been in one.
I've done the hanging out with guys and things happen situation, and the booty call situation, and the feelings on only one side situation and the actual dating situation.
What are you trying to get over?
@glassyo i guess just her lol. Our thing was perfect. When both of us felt low we had each other. We was each other’s escapism if you will. Now it’s all gone1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »
Loooooool lies lies lies looooool0 -
Peachesand_cream wrote: »Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.
@Peachesand_cream you can always trust good old google for answers 😂.
Oh trust me it doesn’t have all the trapping of a real relationship.
We had such a strong bond I guess I just miss it3 -
@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔2
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I’m so glad I asked this question 😂😂😂
To add some context I broke up with an ex over 15 years ago but we still remained In contact. We broke up because off cultural/religious clashes (yeah I know it’s sad) we met stayed together many times usual stuff not we was never official as we couldn’t be. Think I hate her for various reasons but I still miss here lol. Our thing can never be more than a situationship so that’s why I need a way to forget her lol
Sounds like you were married.2 -
OpheliaCooter wrote: »I personally never get over anything. Like, just literally block them from your mind.
Bloody hard when they even still appear on your dreams 😒
Oh I still dream about a 9 year past situationship BUT in your waking hours just try not to dwell and realize that you are dreaming up a unrealistic fantasy about nothing that could actually happen irl. Even the actual real memories are warped from time and loneliness.
There’s really just something about ‘potential’ like yall started something and then nothing, and them not choosing you that somehow is the perfect trap into thinking about them until you die. I’m sorry bro, it happens to the best of us. Just realize that it’s not even about them, it’s about you. What should you be focusing on that you’re avoiding by dwelling on an escape?2 -
@Analog_Kid you could say that 😩0
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@OpheliaCooter man you understand the pain bruv. You know what sad is I still have plenty of stuff she’s given and don’t have the heart to bin em.
But ultimately your right. I need to focus on the problems head on instead of finding easy yo escape 👊🏽2 -
@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔
Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst2 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔
Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔
Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst
Too late 🌏🕰
Your the worst trust me I’m not that far behind lol1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔
Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst
😆2 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔
Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst
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OpheliaCooter wrote: »OpheliaCooter wrote: »I personally never get over anything. Like, just literally block them from your mind.
Bloody hard when they even still appear on your dreams 😒
Oh I still dream about a 9 year past situationship BUT in your waking hours just try not to dwell and realize that you are dreaming up a unrealistic fantasy about nothing that could actually happen irl. Even the actual real memories are warped from time and loneliness.
There’s really just something about ‘potential’ like yall started something and then nothing, and them not choosing you that somehow is the perfect trap into thinking about them until you die. I’m sorry bro, it happens to the best of us. Just realize that it’s not even about them, it’s about you. What should you be focusing on that you’re avoiding by dwelling on an escape?
Are you my alter-ego? Sometimes when I get into my own head way too much, all I can think of are the what-ifs and if-onlys, then there's the damn-it-all-to-hells.
The grass is greener thinking and all that sort of rubbish. 
I try very hard not to go there because it doesn't help any present situation or forward thinking at all. But, at times, I still revisit that life I lived for about 10 years. He was my very best friend and saw me through some gawdawful stuff and I miss the communication/friendship/support I had. I also miss the feelings he had me feeling. At the time. But as it came to an end, there were other feelings. And those weren't of the positive kind. I truly knew better through out that whole period of my life but was always hopeful for a better outcome.
As far as getting rid of all the material memories from that time?? There are a few silly things I haven't been able to get rid of yet either.
But let's face it, when someone makes a huge difference in your life, they are part of your life, forever. Doesn't mean you have to dwell constantly in the memories. KWIM?
Good luck in all the situationships in your lives everyone. 3 -
@ReenieHJ man I can feel your pain. Very few people understand this apart from those in this thread.
With regards to all the stuff your spot on. All the stuff came with love and take me to a happy place so I get it.
What does KWIM mean? Lol
And no more situationship sever again!!!! Put a ring on it ASAP 😂0 -
Anyone been in one before or even know what one is lol if you have how did you get over?
Now that I know a bit more about your situation (after reading your responses), I can respond:
I've been in this particular thing more than once. The only way to "forget" them is to completely block off all communication with them (quit them cold turkey) and distract yourself as best you can.
I still sometimes think about my own "situationships" with people, but now that years have passed, it's gotten admittedly easier to dismiss the thoughts and/or remember the better/fun parts of our relationship without dwelling on all the bad things or the reasons that led to us discontinuing it.
But the only way I have found to move forward in those cases is to completely block those people out of my life. Sounds mean, maybe petty even... but it's what had to be done for the betterment of my mental health.
P.S. The stuff you have that she gave you or that reminds you of her: You only need to bin it if it's affecting your mental health *or* if by say, burning it you would find some sort of catharsis from it. Otherwise, I'd say put it in a small box or whatever, maybe label it and put it away somewhere. You can always dig it out and go through it t when you're having a better day in your mental space.3 -
@KosmosKitten thank you for your input. I’m so glad I started this thread. Yeah your right. Complete block off makes all the sense. We Havnt spoken for comming upto a year now which isn’t unusual, actually it’s pretty normal. She normally makes the initial contact which I’m anticipating to which I will tell her it done forever. My mind tells it’s easy but heart will struggle.
It maybe she doesn’t contact me then could be better for me.
With regards to stuff it ain’t fitting in no small box lol i did say to myself the night before I get married I will have a big bonfire to rid off stuff I’ve accumulated from her and others, yes I kept It all as I didn’t have the heart to bin it and kept for memories. I don’t think it doesn’t affects my mental health too much I guess being in my ones does makes it worse.
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@JessOC420 yes the human is very strange. I’ve never watched any online rituals so I thought I’d try mfp and has worked a treat0
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