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  • ASaner07
    ASaner07 Posts: 4
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    As someone who has used dating sites off and on for awhile, I would stick to meeting someone in real life, not online - especially do not use POF (plenty of fish), the only people I have met on there in person ended up being really nasty men as in not nice. I honestly think a majority of people online do not have the social skills to date in real life and love to hide behind a computer and cell phone, they are one way talking through texting and act completely different when you meet them. I've given up the whole online things and am happy working out for now and getting the healthy lifestyle I've always wanted :)
  • bennysammysofie
    bennysammysofie Posts: 331
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    My wife deleted my eharmony profile :huh:
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,857 Member
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    They tend to work better for women for the most part but most get too overwhelmed and quit. I know many that would get like 50-80 messages a day. Crazy. Now I get most of them are prolly not the best quality of dudes but you are still getting hit on. Heck, I get like 1 message every 5-6 days :( My guy friends get about the same. Not to generalize but it does seem many men are always on the hunt for women.
    This ^^

    POF was too overwhelming for me.
    I'd get a ton of messages per day, 20-30, more on the weekend, many of the perv kind (can't blame a guy for trying) Many requesting dates in their first email. Then some would get rude because I didn't answer their email(s) the day they sent it. Crazies....:noway:
    The ones that seemed like genuine, nice men made it to the dates. For the most part they were ok, but didn't feel any connections.
    For me it was too much weeding through the bs.
    Thought to myself F this *kitten* and shut it down. lol

    Funny enough I met my SO through FB, so technically online :)

    My tips for online dating profiles. Recent photos. So many people have old ones. Have clear pics, and add a few different ones not just a face close up. So many had old, blurry pictures. I know, I know looks shouldn't matter but really...they kind of do when you have little else to go by.

    Be honest in your profile. Not that many read it properly, I know I clearly stated booty calls were not what I was looking for. It does help to say what you wantand what your interests may be. It shows a bit of personality

    Meet in public places, Let someone know where you are going and who with.

    And keep an open mind :flowerforyou: It works for many people and if nothing else, it gets your feet wet for getting back into the dating world.

    Were you wearing your "Rock Hard, Ride Hard" shirt in your POF profile pic? .. because . . well.. pervy messages. . .
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,857 Member
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  • boatyboat
    boatyboat Posts: 60 Member
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    I think they are creepy. Its seems full of people with poor social skills or just looking for one night stands. I want a real man to have the balls to come up and introduce himself anyway...not some dude who is an online creeper in a virtual human meat catalog.
  • kevinshein
    kevinshein Posts: 1
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    I meet my gf soon to be wife in an online dating http://www.yournewpartner.net . And now we are engaged. I think you have to seeds through it so find the perfect one for you. Some of my friends have also meet their gf which encouraged me a lot though not all of them have success at their first relationship as mine did. Just try it out guys and best of good luck!
  • YourGirl_Tina
    YourGirl_Tina Posts: 962 Member
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    Team Mfp lol
  • soldiergrl_101
    soldiergrl_101 Posts: 2,205 Member
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    its good to cure boredom and sometimes you can meet someone and have a genuine connection and become good friends or more in the future. However for every 1 message you get worth reading you get 100 more for the trash bin so be prepared for the perves out there
  • ashandstuff
    ashandstuff Posts: 442 Member
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    Been ok OKC for awhile and I am so...unimpressed. I'd say 80% of the messages I get are like this:

    "hey bb what u do 4 me?" (probably has more than one picture of only his abs. No face pictures)
    "can i ask y a qusnt?" After I don't respond for a week "k ***** hert like ice"
    "hey :)" (You will get 30+ of these a week)
    "gurl u r beautiful. dat smile wow. blew my mind"
    "Hey lol RAWR XD" Dude, you are 30 years old lay off the Deviantart emoticons.
    "i take u to coffee we talk sometime deep?" (foreign guy that doesn't speak English well)
    "My wife and I are looking for someone to join us in the bedroom" (not my style, sorry friend. You will get 1 message a week like this)

    Been there and really trying for two months now and NO LUCK. Some guys are decent to chat with but I wouldn't want to date any of them so far. Good luck though. Prepare for awkward messages.
  • soldiergrl_101
    soldiergrl_101 Posts: 2,205 Member
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    Been ok OKC for awhile and I am so...unimpressed. I'd say 80% of the messages I get are like this:

    "hey bb what u do 4 me?" (probably has more than one picture of only his abs. No face pictures)
    "can i ask y a qusnt?" After I don't respond for a week "k ***** hert like ice"
    "hey :)" (You will get 30+ of these a week)
    "gurl u r beautiful. dat smile wow. blew my mind"
    "Hey lol RAWR XD" Dude, you are 30 years old lay off the Deviantart emoticons.
    "i take u to coffee we talk sometime deep?" (foreign guy that doesn't speak English well)
    "My wife and I are looking for someone to join us in the bedroom" (not my style, sorry friend. You will get 1 message a week like this)

    Been there and really trying for two months now and NO LUCK. Some guys are decent to chat with but I wouldn't want to date any of them so far. Good luck though. Prepare for awkward messages.

    This is too funny because it is so true. I cant tell you how many guys I have had and woman mind you that have said my spouse and I want a 3way...Im like seriously. And the dudes that dont speak English, the guys that have nothing better to entice you with than Hey :), and then the few who dont even have a profile picture but try to get you to send them some. Too funny
  • ashandstuff
    ashandstuff Posts: 442 Member
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    Been ok OKC for awhile and I am so...unimpressed. I'd say 80% of the messages I get are like this:

    "hey bb what u do 4 me?" (probably has more than one picture of only his abs. No face pictures)
    "can i ask y a qusnt?" After I don't respond for a week "k ***** hert like ice"
    "hey :)" (You will get 30+ of these a week)
    "gurl u r beautiful. dat smile wow. blew my mind"
    "Hey lol RAWR XD" Dude, you are 30 years old lay off the Deviantart emoticons.
    "i take u to coffee we talk sometime deep?" (foreign guy that doesn't speak English well)
    "My wife and I are looking for someone to join us in the bedroom" (not my style, sorry friend. You will get 1 message a week like this)

    Been there and really trying for two months now and NO LUCK. Some guys are decent to chat with but I wouldn't want to date any of them so far. Good luck though. Prepare for awkward messages.

    This is too funny because it is so true. I cant tell you how many guys I have had and woman mind you that have said my spouse and I want a 3way...Im like seriously. And the dudes that dont speak English, the guys that have nothing better to entice you with than Hey :), and then the few who dont even have a profile picture but try to get you to send them some. Too funny

    Haha on one hand, I'm happy that I wasn't alone in getting creepy messages. But on the other, sorry it hasn't really worked for you either!!!!
  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
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    I am thinking about "getting on the market" again.. Has anyone tried any online dating websites? Any recommendations? Warnings? lolol...

    online dating is the last thing i would ever do.....
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
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    I met my husband on match.

    I did match and chemistry. My advice would be to use a pay site unless you are seeking casual sex, use a site that lets you browse and contact members (so not chemistry and not eharmony, which send you matches), and set your profile to private (if you are a chick, I didn't look) and message/wink whatever the people YOU are interested in. Otherwise you will get 10-20 messages a day. If you are a dude, be careful about how many messages/winks you send -- paying attention to quality of message.

    ETA: I just relooked at your profile picture -- so chick. You will have much more success if you look and reach out to men. They don't get nearly as many messages/winks. Go after dudes with filled out profiles and pictures. Ignore anyone who messages you without a profiled that isn't filled out.
  • doctorsookie
    doctorsookie Posts: 1,084 Member
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    I met my fiance four years ago on Plenty of Fish. My coworker met her fiance on Match. It can happen. There are bad people out there but there is also good people out there. Kevin is very shy and I never would have met him if he hadn't signed up and i can't imagine my life without him. And believe me just like with all relationships you have your ups and downs so i have tried to imagine my life without him but he's my soul mate and i just can't do it. I almost mussed him too because he was about to give up and cancel his account. You should join a few and see what happens...good luck to you.
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
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    Uhm, I have to admit. I once made an account to troll people on dating sites my mother used to visit. Not going to lie.
    Personally, I think they're garbage unless you're looking for a quick booty call. Honest opinion.
  • ashandstuff
    ashandstuff Posts: 442 Member
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    I use pornhub.com

    Mom, Dad, meet my new girlfriend....my right hand.
  • mrsamanda86
    mrsamanda86 Posts: 869 Member
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    I used to see my husband at the place I worked at all the time and we would somewhat flirt but we were both too shy to take it any further. Then I found him on myspace and started talking to him on there. We've now been married 8 years. I think dating sites can definitely work, but you're going to be doing a lot of weeding! When I was single just on like myspace I would get some creepy dudes trying to talk to me. I'm glad I got ugly or something because it doesn't happen anymore(could just be my excessive photos of my kids and the fact I have married on my profile now lol). I think guys just generally suck at trying to flirt, it usually either comes across like he's a douche or awkward.
  • la8ydi
    la8ydi Posts: 294 Member
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    Well I think I've tried them all...lol. Eharmony was by FAR the worst - I did (twice) the 3 month subscription (didn't learn the first time) and didn't find ONE profile that they sent which attracted me. Now before I get slammed, they were sending me profiles of guys in their 60s and I was either in my late 30s or early 40s. I adjusted my age range and still got men much older. (I'm not opposed to an older guy - just closer to my age.) I did Match with some success...but just haven't met "the one" yet. Currently on POF, but like someone else said, the free sites tend to attract a lot of people looking for one night stands or to cheat. I tried Christian Mingle but that just wasn't what I was looking for. You would think that the Christian part would weed out the pervs, but no such luck. I did Yahoo Personals for a bit - but they discontinued that.

    Internet dating isn't for everyone. I've learned a LOT about people and a lot about myself and what I'm looking for. It's not all about being socially awkward and not being able to talk to people - I think it's more about finding people who you would've never had a chance to meet otherwise.

    Red flags: no photos (usually married or has gf), ask if he lives with his parents (if so, WHY), looking just to hook up, gives you his phone number or wants to meet up immediately, recently divorced (watch out for rebound situations) or going through a separation (same), no pics below the shoulders OR no pics above the shoulders. There are many, many more. Good luck!!!!
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
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    I am thinking about "getting on the market" again.. Has anyone tried any online dating websites? Any recommendations? Warnings? lolol...

    online dating is the last thing i would ever do.....
    So, you're saying it's on the list.
  • Kirstyw871
    Kirstyw871 Posts: 216 Member
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    I met my fella on POF.

    There was definitely a few weirdos on there, but not everyone is a freak on there.

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