What don’t you want to forget about being overweight?
That you just don't feel comfortable in your own skin. It literally feels tight when you've gained weight. A bad, bad feeling for sure.11
keilee0408 Posts: 65 MemberThe feeling of not being worthy because you are heavier than you would like to be. Its hard work and I don't want to forget that every little decision leads to big results (good or bad.) Learn to love the skin your in but also know everyone has room for improvements.11
Not being able to wear anything that clung to my belly. I’ve lost 33lbs and now when I hop out of bed in the morning I can wear any jumper or top that I lay my hand on. No more problems with bulges and trying to disguise the flab. Just grab something from the wardrobe and put it on. So much less stressful and mornings are no longer as fraught.12
I don't miss the intentionally and unintentionally rude comments and "jokes" about my weight from family members and friends or that flat out mean comments from strangers.
I don't miss the almost constant state of feeling defensive and guarded due to unnecessary comments about my weight.
When I go to parties or events, I don't feel like everyone is staring at me when I grab snacks or dessert. I'm pretty guilt free around food now even on the rare occasions I indulge.9
I'm not going to miss huffing and puffing go up the stairs.
I'm not going to the chronic knee and back pain.
I'm not miss buying new clothes every winter or summer.8
Fortunately, I've been lean, healthy, and pretty fit most of my life. I was a competitive athlete from when my parents got me into club track and field in the 3rd grade through high school and dabbled in several other sports as well...and in general, I've always been a very active person.
I graduated college when I was 30 and took my first desk job that not only had me sitting much of the day, but also working brutal hours with a substantial amount of travel. On a scale of 1-100 my activity level dipped from about 99.5 to about a 10 and over the course of about 8 years or so I put on 40-50 Lbs and completely lost my fitness to the point of pretty routine activities like going for a hike with the family was painful in numerous respects.
I'm living my best life when I'm out and active and playing and being unable to do those things for awhile was just kind of sad and I wouldn't want to go back there. It's not really "motivation" per sei...I'm just a much happier person when I can do the things I enjoy doing with relative ease.6
This is such a great topic for a new thread! The first thing that comes to mind is how I will not miss being extremely self conscious everywhere I go. Even around family. I completely understand that always full feeling too, and it's not pleasant. Sometimes when I way over eat, I think about how I'd almost prefer to feel hungry then to feel so gross and bloated. I am down 70lbs with 5-10lbs to go, and I am certain that there are many, many more things that I will think of!9
chocolate_owl wrote: »Not buying new clothes because "This is only temporary, I'm going to lose weight." The horror of putting on a shirt that I was sure fit me, only to find that my too-tight bra squeezing my back fat can be seen clear as day. The shame that the only shirts that fit me are the "oversized" t-shirts I used to use as sleepwear. My jeans digging hard into my stomach all day, and the red lines that stay long after I take them off. Devolving into wearing elastic waistlines every day instead of something cute that makes me feel good. Being so self-conscious of my body all the time because of my ill-fitting clothing. Sex becoming very infrequent because of my insecurities. And STILL not buying new clothes because "This is only temporary, I'm going to lose weight."
I keep coming back to this one. Wow... this was me. I'd forgotten how I felt when I first wore an ex-boyfriend's t-shirt for the day (it had previously been a nightshirt) because I didn't have any others that fit. And refusing to buy new clothes because I was going to lose weight, no matter how painfully tight (and ridiculous) they got.
Thanks for sharing. Seriously.6
SilverJem77 Posts: 46 MemberConstantly checking & pulling down my shirts in the back to make sure it was covering my butt.
I was so horrified at how large it had gotten and I was mortified at the thought of anyone noticing.10
Definitely not being able to breathe when tying my shoes..... This makes me feel like I have the body of a hippo.
Also, avoiding public places (especially if it's a place I should be dressed up in). Avoiding relationships, dates, human interaction in general. I won't miss that sinking/cringing feeling when I see myself in a photo, or trying to constantly find clothes in my closet that hide my body like a blanket. I definitely won't miss being out of breath after a single flight of stairs or walking my dog. Feeling shame every time I pass a mirror.
I feel like there are too many things to even remember. Being overweight literally hinders every part of my life and I won't miss any of it!11
A fellow shopper offering to lift my heavy item because they thought I was pregnant.7
I'm not out of the woods yet, but one thing would be the extra sweat and chafing I had 15 pounds ago.7
What I hate about being overweight is feeling invisible, unlovable and unworthy. I avoid social situations. Won’t travel
to see family or go to parties. I also hate clothes and find no joy in dressing up. I avoid looking in the mirror. Even after I lose weight I avoid the mirror and when I catch my reflection, I’m amazed I don’t look fat anymore and then turn away to not look anymore. Yes I use the mirror to do my hair and makeup, but I don’t really look at myself. I keep the lights dim and use it for reference.8
Running, walking, hiking, especially uphill. It's so much harder with the extra weight. But also, knowing that the visceral fat is trying to choke my organs out of me. I was never very fit and fat. I'm much fitter when I'm NOT fat.4
There are a lot of things from big and profound to petty, but.
I know it's been mentioned, but it was awful, I never expected it to go away without surgery, and I never want it back.7
so many good answers.... mine is snoring... i can tell when i've put too much back on again cause i snore myself awake3
Killing my sex life because I feel too self conscious
Running out of storage space because I have my fat clothes, and my slim clothes and all the in-between clothes
Being painfully slow when running, and knowing that if I just lost the extra weight, it'd be a whole lot easier for me
Ordering a longer strap for my handbag because the one it came with was too tight when worn cross body over my winter coat
Feeling out of control when I binge ate, then feeling guilty for doing it, and binging to mask the guilt
Wanting to buy an expensive item of clothing, but not being able to justify it for my current size, and not knowing what size to buy for later
Wearing out jeans between the thighs
Not wanting to wear shorts a) because of the dreaded chub rub and b) because of fat thighs6
Waking up during the night choking on my own stomach acid
Hardly sleeping due to the pain of trapped wind
Cancelling going out because you look so bad in everything you own that you would rather not be seen
Going clothes shopping and having limited choice because they only do your size in a few items
Having to have my asthma medication doubled because the extra weight was making it worse
Being told you need to take extra medication before an operation because you're obese
Not being photographed with my kids because I don't want to ruin the photos
I hope I never forget how I felt at my biggest because all those feelings are what I want to use to push me towards my goal9
Mine have definitely been:
-Not wanting to be in photos. Even for memories I would really love to remember with my husband for example.
+Not wanting to see friends or run into them because I didn't want them to see how much weight I have gained.
-Not having more than one or two tops of bottoms that fit without looking terrible and all of them being oversized or leggings.
-Not wanting to be intimate with my husband because I don't even like to see myself without clothes- let alone him. And also feeling terrible that it's not fair to him.
-Meeting new people who assume you have always been this heavy and that's who you are to them.5
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