Eating is my alternate Reality

TheWaistBasket

wrong spot for an honest post

ninerbuff

My suggestion is to actually converse with a therapist to help you identify WHY you keep eating. Most don't eat out of actual hunger but to suppress feelings of depression, sadness, etc. Food releases "feel good" hormones which is why many obese people turn to it. But if you can address the reasons of WHY, it's much easier to confront and beat the issue.

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yirara

What the guy without legs said: talk to your therapist.
But also: what do you do in the course of the day, and especially at the times where you want to eat? Are you bored? Do you have hobbies? What do you enjoy doing? Is there something you could do to distract you from eating? You don't need to answer this. It's enough to just give it a thinking.

TheWaistBasket

ninerbuff wrote: »

My suggestion is to actually converse with a therapist to help you identify WHY you keep eating. Most don't eat out of actual hunger but to suppress feelings of depression, sadness, etc. Food releases "feel good" hormones which is why many obese people turn to it. But if you can address the reasons of WHY, it's much easier to confront and beat the issue.

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IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

I think I already found out all by myself. And (see my above post) I already named the reasons as well.

tulips_and_tea

I think you are on the right path. You're asking yourself the right questions, the TOUGH questions and that's the part of long-term weight loss that a lot of people never address.

Cut yourself some slack. We all make mistakes. You're learning so be patient and consistent and accept that some days will be better than others but if you just keep trying to manage your food and hunger issues things will get better.

goal06082021

Hey, @TheWaistBasket! Good to see you back around here, it's been a minute. You'd already edited your post by the time I found your thread, so I don't know what it said originally, but I'll add my voice to the chorus recommending therapy. I think everyone could benefit from therapy tbh, you don't have to have something "wrong" with you to see a therapist, but especially with primal stuff like this it's easy to get in your own way when you try to figure your own s*** out. It doesn't have to be that hard, a mental-health professional has tools they can give you to help make it easier for you.

I'll also offer a suggestion I've seen elsewhere, it might have been AnnPT - can you cultivate a hobby that either requires clean hands (a fiber art of some kind, like crochet/embroidery, for instance) or creates dirty ones (painting, gardening, etc)? Something to occupy your mind and hands at the same time, so it's much harder to snack thoughtlessly? Or something that physically takes you away from where the food is for a while, like going for a short walk outside? Even if it's just to the end of the driveway and back, that's something.

ReenieHJ

I didn't see your OP either but wanted you to know I wish you well!! I remember how hard it was to finally get started and stay on any kind of a healthier lifestyle to make enough of a difference so I'd stick to it. My highest weight ever was 235, I yoyo-ed my whole life, feeling more desperate each time I gave up. I felt like a total failure, that I was never going to lose weight, it was an endless worthless struggle. Therapy didn't help me a whole lot but I believe the key would've been to find someone I connected better with. Small town doesn't offer many choices. My doctors never helped me either because I was looking for miracle drugs. The person who helped me most was my PCP who actually told me about MFP and how she'd heard good things from some of her clients. Took me awhile and lots of starts/fails/start again, but I'm sticking around 140ish now, which I'm okay with.
Please don't be afraid of being honest here. Made me sad to see you'd deleted your post and feel that way. Sometimes people make it all sound so easy but we're all unique in our make-up, physically and mentally. The process is easy but it's the hardest thing I've ever done.

If you have need of a friend with broad shoulders, feel free to send me an invite. Take care and take it a day at a time.

PAV8888

You're thinking.
This is good
This will help you for sure

You're angry.
This is taking energy
This won't necessarily help

Sustainability of effort is incredibly important

My personal experience was that it was worthwhile to lose a little bit less fast balancing feeling a little bit hungry against feeling so hungry that I became snappy and angry with the world

dragon_girl26

Came here since I saw the title of your post. Not sure what anyone said above that upset you (I didn't see anything that stood out as being insensitive), but from the replies it looks like you're having issues with bingeing. I'm having the same problem lately, so you aren't alone in that. For me it's mainly an evening thing...I do great all day and then suddenly after dinner I want to eat all evening.

I hope you find some answers and some relief from it. 💕 It can feel like such a bummer when you're trying to lose weight. Good luck OP!