How does eating healthy look compared to just counting calories?
neffyworld
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I'm at loggerheads with my family whom want me to do keto/fasting and cut out carbs and processed foods forever. I'm happy with counting calories, but I have trouble sticking with it.
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Counting calories works. Fad diets mostly don't. Tell your family to butt out and concentrate on CICO by substituting things you like that have less calories for things you like that have more calories. Such as shrimp cocktail instead of creme of shrimp soup or fresh berries instead of salted peanuts or broiled salmon instead of broiled hamburger.7
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The biggest difference is ultimately going to be satiation and volume of food - and that's less 'health', because there are some danged calorie dense healthy foods too.
The bottom line is that my diet did clean up a lot and involve fewer carbs and processed foods over time, but not intentionally. It's more that I can eat more of the tasty things I love (like brownies and reese's cups) if the bulk of my diet isn't 'filler' food (read starches for me mostly) that I don't care as much about, and for me exist wholly to bulk out the tasty bit (to whit, I ate pasta sauce on freaking broccoli today).
But cutting things out entirely AS THE WHOLE DIET? Not for me.
And I have absolutely taken a whole day's calories and spent them on a bag of chips I found I REALLY REALLY NEEDED (I don't know why and it's not a recurring pattern) and not regretted it.
Calories are all that really matter for weight loss, honestly, but if you can't stick to a deficit then maybe cutting out some things wholesale will work better. It's honestly down to what you CAN stick to.6 -
"Eating healthy" does not mean "fad diet". Eating healthy is getting the proper nutrients and calories. Counting calories is the way to lose/maintain/gain weight. What those calories are is what makes it healthy or not. You don't have to go to extremes like these fad diets suggest to eat well.
My advice.... If the diet eliminates anything, don't do it (unless you have a medical condition that requires it - always listen to your doctor). Because a life without chocolate ice cream and MT DEW isn't much fun.
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neffyworld wrote: »I'm at loggerheads with my family whom want me to do keto/fasting and cut out carbs and processed foods forever. I'm happy with counting calories, but I have trouble sticking with it.
The bolded is not an accurate definition of "healthy eating", it's a definition of "orthorexia"** . . . moreover, it's orthorexia that's a complete tangent to overall good nutrition. A person can "do keto/fasting and cut out carbs and processed foods forever" and get overall very poor nutrition, if they don't get a rational distribution of macronutrients and micronutrients.
Healthy eating means getting good nutrition, which fundamentally involves getting enough protein, enough healthy fats, enough fiber, and a well-rounded complement of micronutrients (via, for example, eating lots of varied, colorful, tasty veggies/fruits and some whole grains). Some of those things can come from "processed" foods, and many healthful veggies/fruits contain carbs. Further, there can be some averaging over time. Not everything needs to be exact and perfect every day, and there can be room for non-calorie-dense treat foods in reasonable portions, in that overall-healthy context.
If you're having trouble sticking with it, consider whether you're trying something too extreme, either trying to lose unnecessarily fast (a common thing), totally depriving yourself of too many foods you truly enjoy, or mistakenly believing that you must do some unpleasant and fatiguing extreme exercise routine? If those are possibilities, maybe consider a more gradual, moderate approach?
Oh, yeah, and: Fasting helps some people, typically because they are happier with fewer but larger meals, aren't hungry first thing so it's easy to skip breakfast, or because their personality is one that likes strict boundaries. Fasting if it makes things harder is truly majoring in the minors, at best.
** This:
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@AnnPT77 I struggle with checking food labels, weighing food, looking it up in the system, then confirming the amount I have. Multiple times a day, forever and ever. I think I would be better off with a list of meals and snacks to have during the day that I eat as I desire, that have the right protein/calorie amount. I feel like I have to do a lot of exercise, which I hate. I don't want to look flabby, and I like the idea that if I exercise, I can eat more.
I am okay with the idea of fasting.
I am wondering if my family struggles with the reality or idea of orthorexia. They have harrassed me for a long time for calorie counting, despite seeing the results. They don't believe in treating yourself or eating food you enjoy if it is unhealthy on a daily/weekly basis, you pretty much have to be perfect all the time. Out of the 4 people harrassing me, 3 of them are overweight! Unfortunately I live with my parents, and I don't have the resources to make moving out worthwhile at this point in time.7 -
neffyworld wrote: »@AnnPT77 I struggle with checking food labels, weighing food, looking it up in the system, then confirming the amount I have. Multiple times a day, forever and ever. I think I would be better off with a list of meals and snacks to have during the day that I eat as I desire, that have the right protein/calorie amount. I feel like I have to do a lot of exercise, which I hate. I don't want to look flabby, and I like the idea that if I exercise, I can eat more.
I am okay with the idea of fasting.
I am wondering if my family struggles with the reality or idea of orthorexia. They have harrassed me for a long time for calorie counting, despite seeing the results. They don't believe in treating yourself or eating food you enjoy if it is unhealthy on a daily/weekly basis, you pretty much have to be perfect all the time. Out of the 4 people harrassing me, 3 of them are overweight! Unfortunately I live with my parents, and I don't have the resources to make moving out worthwhile at this point in time.
Your family doesn't want to see you eat foods you enjoy while still losing weight. Could it be they are jealous? Maybe they lack the self control to do this for themselves and don't believe anyone else can either.
You have to be perfect all of the time? Good luck with maintenance then. Thin people aren't perfect all the time. I know thin people who eat poorly on occasion.
If you don't want to count, don't want to log there different strategies. The no "S" diet - no snacks, no sweets, no seconds, except sometimes on days that start with "S" - Saturday, Sunday and Special days (holidays and birthdays).
Increasing veggies at every meal can help reduce calories overall. Look up the volume eaters thread. https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10563959/volume-eaters-thread/p17 -
neffyworld wrote: »@AnnPT77 I struggle with checking food labels, weighing food, looking it up in the system, then confirming the amount I have. Multiple times a day, forever and ever. I think I would be better off with a list of meals and snacks to have during the day that I eat as I desire, that have the right protein/calorie amount. I feel like I have to do a lot of exercise, which I hate. I don't want to look flabby, and I like the idea that if I exercise, I can eat more.
I am okay with the idea of fasting.
I am wondering if my family struggles with the reality or idea of orthorexia. They have harrassed me for a long time for calorie counting, despite seeing the results. They don't believe in treating yourself or eating food you enjoy if it is unhealthy on a daily/weekly basis, you pretty much have to be perfect all the time. Out of the 4 people harrassing me, 3 of them are overweight! Unfortunately I live with my parents, and I don't have the resources to make moving out worthwhile at this point in time.
After a while, unless you eat wildly differently every day, you should find that most of your often-eaten foods are in your recent/frequent foods, and will come up first when you search, so you don't need to verify them each and every time. If you save things eaten together routinely as meals, or as recipes (whichever is the best tool for how you use them), that also saves time. I'm not going to tell you that you won't find even that too tedious, because that's an individual, subjective thing. But, objectively speaking, there's a learning/skills process, and after a learning period logging will take less time.
If you prefer to have a predefined plan, this is one possible source:
https://www.eatthismuch.com/
You pick out an eating style and a calorie level, and it generates meal plans, with recipes. There's some customization of details available, some free features and I think some premium. I've played with it a little, but I don't personally use it. That's waaaayyy too structured for my tastes.3 -
The main person with the suggestion for keto and fasting has backed down. I am willing to do fasting. I am also thinking of seeing a dietician to help me come up with a meal plan for the week so I don't have to stress too much. As I've said previously, I have high blood sugar and need a few months to get the reading down, but have had trouble sticking with anything.
I'm kind of just wondering, what in general do people consider healthy eating, like what kind of rules do you follow outside of calorie counting to get good nutrition?0 -
neffyworld wrote: »The main person with the suggestion for keto and fasting has backed down. I am willing to do fasting. I am also thinking of seeing a dietician to help me come up with a meal plan for the week so I don't have to stress too much. As I've said previously, I have high blood sugar and need a few months to get the reading down, but have had trouble sticking with anything.
I'm kind of just wondering, what in general do people consider healthy eating, like what kind of rules do you follow outside of calorie counting to get good nutrition?
Me personally, daily I aim for:
* 0.6-0.8g protein per pound of goal weight, minimum
* 0.35-0.45g fat per pound, minimum, with priority on mono/polyunsaturated fats, and Omega 3s
* 5 minimum 80g servings of varied, colorful veggies/fruits, ideally 10 or more servings
* Meeting a sensible calorie goal, on average
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neffyworld wrote: »The main person with the suggestion for keto and fasting has backed down. I am willing to do fasting. I am also thinking of seeing a dietician to help me come up with a meal plan for the week so I don't have to stress too much. As I've said previously, I have high blood sugar and need a few months to get the reading down, but have had trouble sticking with anything.
I'm kind of just wondering, what in general do people consider healthy eating, like what kind of rules do you follow outside of calorie counting to get good nutrition?
Me personally, daily I aim for:
* 0.6-0.8g protein per pound of goal weight, minimum
* 0.35-0.45g fat per pound, minimum, with priority on mono/polyunsaturated fats, and Omega 3s
* 5 minimum 80g servings of varied, colorful veggies/fruits, ideally 10 or more servings
* Meeting a sensible calorie goal, on average
That sounds good. Do you reduce how many carbs you have?0 -
neffyworld wrote: »neffyworld wrote: »The main person with the suggestion for keto and fasting has backed down. I am willing to do fasting. I am also thinking of seeing a dietician to help me come up with a meal plan for the week so I don't have to stress too much. As I've said previously, I have high blood sugar and need a few months to get the reading down, but have had trouble sticking with anything.
I'm kind of just wondering, what in general do people consider healthy eating, like what kind of rules do you follow outside of calorie counting to get good nutrition?
Me personally, daily I aim for:
* 0.6-0.8g protein per pound of goal weight, minimum
* 0.35-0.45g fat per pound, minimum, with priority on mono/polyunsaturated fats, and Omega 3s
* 5 minimum 80g servings of varied, colorful veggies/fruits, ideally 10 or more servings
* Meeting a sensible calorie goal, on average
That sounds good. Do you reduce how many carbs you have?
No, not deliberately. I literally don't care how many carbs I have. I let them fall wherever they fall in order to hit calories and the other goals.
Carbs tend to end up just under 50% of calories, which was around 150g while losing, 250g or more in maintenance. Most are from veggies, fruits, dairy.7 -
neffyworld wrote: »The main person with the suggestion for keto and fasting has backed down. I am willing to do fasting. I am also thinking of seeing a dietician to help me come up with a meal plan for the week so I don't have to stress too much. As I've said previously, I have high blood sugar and need a few months to get the reading down, but have had trouble sticking with anything.
I'm kind of just wondering, what in general do people consider healthy eating, like what kind of rules do you follow outside of calorie counting to get good nutrition?
I try to eat a variety of fruits and vegetables for the micronutrients they offer. Some of how I eat is based on my life situation - in my case I'm a breastfeeding mom, so I take care to make sure I get enough calcium and I take a prenatal vitamin. I also have a history of low vitamin D, so I pay attention to that. I don't eat a deliberately low-fat or low sodium diet, but I also have no reason to. If I were in your shoes, focusing on blood sugar would be a big part of how I crafted a healthy diet for that particular health situation.
I have noticed it's easier for me to stick to my calories if I eat a sufficient amount of protein (Ann's metric is what I use too, it's very useful) and because I want to maintain the muscle I have now even as I lose weight.
It can be difficult to sort it out because there's a lot of moving pieces, but IMO it is possible to adjust one thing at a time rather than trying to do it "perfectly" (whatever that means) from the beginning. I don't eat the same way now that I did even four months ago, but unless you live in my house with me you probably wouldn't notice that - it's really been more about changing proportions of things and lowering overall consumption. I have not really made drastic changes - just small ones that I have stuck to.6 -
In my opinion, if you are under or over a healthy weight or maybe an athlete or have some sort of specific medical condition- calorie counting is a good tool. However, calorie counting only relates to health as far as eating healthy quantities of food. I think eating a varied diet full of whole grains, fruits and vegetables, and a little seafood, meat and dairy is healthy. I don't understand cutting out anything, especially not an entire food group, unless there's an allergy or intolerance to it!5
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In reality, portion control is the main factor for people staying at a more normal weight. You see it in countries where people eat carbs regularly (Asian countries for instance). Go to a penitentiary and the inmates don't have an obesity problem there because they too are on a portion controlled eating regimen and in many cases more fit than the average American even with all the LOW QUALITY food. You'd think that if this food was so unhealthy, that they'd have shorter lifespans in prison...................but don't due to food intake.
Get in your RDA of macro/micronutrients however you see fit, and if there's leftover calories eat what you want. You don't get extra credit for eating "healthier" once you get RDA in.
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Are you sure you don't work for Nestle? Just kidding, hahaIn reality, portion control is the main factor for people staying at a more normal weight. You see it in countries where people eat carbs regularly (Asian countries for instance). Go to a penitentiary and the inmates don't have an obesity problem there because they too are on a portion controlled eating regimen and in many cases more fit than the average American even with all the LOW QUALITY food. You'd think that if this food was so unhealthy, that they'd have shorter lifespans in prison...................but don't due to food intake.
Get in your RDA of macro/micronutrients however you see fit, and if there's leftover calories eat what you want. You don't get extra credit for eating "healthier" once you get RDA in.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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For me there’s not a divide between the two. I find it easier to stay within my calorie limit when I avoid quick carbs and processed foods. I’m not religious about it, although I do limit carbs to about 150 g daily because of my diabetes, but it’s much easier to eat a satisfying 500 calorie meal of fresh vegetables, fruit, fiber-rich starches and lean meat or fish, than it would be to eat the same calories of fried food, cheese, oily dressing or sauce, fluffy white bread with so much added sugar it might as well be cake, and fatty processed meats.
@neffyworld I don’t necessarily recommend this, but my approach to overweight people who lecture me for not doing it right is to be rude. “That’s nice, I prefer to do something that works instead of what you do.” This shut my mom, who has been obese her whole life while pretending to do one or another restrictive diet, right up. The problem with people like this is that they have been taught that they should act guilty and be punished for being fat, so they have to act as if they are trying to lose weight in public, but they don’t really care to and aren’t motivated to actually do it. Tell them to do something simple - eat an appropriate amount of calories for your activity level and actually keep track of what you eat - and you wouldn’t believe the amount of whining and insisting that logging is impossible! To which I say, “Huh, for some reason it’s not impossible for me. I’ve done it with no problems for four years. I must be special.”3 -
neffyworld wrote: »I'm at loggerheads with my family whom want me to do keto/fasting and cut out carbs and processed foods forever. I'm happy with counting calories, but I have trouble sticking with it.
I consider "eating healthy" to be a balance of nutrition, not a fad diet like keto. There are numerous sources of carbohydrates that are healthy, nutritional powerhouses. Ultimately weight management comes down to calories...one can eat a very nutritious diet and also over consume calories. Calorie counting is just a tool that some people use to keep that in check. For me personally, I don't do keto or low carb, nor do I count calories. I eat a nutritionally sound diet in appropriate portions while also enjoying pizza now and then as well as other less than highly nutritional food choices. It's all about balance and meeting nutritional needs while consuming an appropriate amount of calories for whatever your weight management objectives are.7 -
neffyworld wrote: »@AnnPT77 I struggle with checking food labels, weighing food, looking it up in the system, then confirming the amount I have. Multiple times a day, forever and ever.
MFP, especially the android app, is terrific in learning what you eat most. It may take time when you get started to actually measure out one serving size of something, but once it's logged it's in the system forever. The next time you have that same something, and visually estimate you got about the same amount as last time, then when you start spelling it out on the app the app will leap to the last time you had that item, in that amount. If you have a little more or a little less, it's easy to adjust up/down, then click add and poof!
I can log an entire day of food in under 30 seconds total, if I'm eating foods I've used previously. Only rarely when I have something new or eat out do I need to take time to find it, and then my 30 seconds increases to a minute. It really shouldn't take that long, once you get the hang of it.
Even better, I can log meals in advance, to get information on how much room I have left in my daily calorie budget. If I know what I plan to eat for dinner, I can log it in the morning, and that tells me how large a lunch I can give myself, or if I'll have room for a snack between meals.7 -
No offense, but it sounds to me like you're wanting to put minimal effort into your weight loss for a maximum result. It would be nice if we could wake up and find ourselves magically at our proper weight, but it doesn't work like that. There's no magic bullet. However, thinking you have to be 100% perfect all the time is just as unrealistic.
And I mean, sure, weighing food and finding the entries or adding the recipes is a pain sometimes, but that's the decision you have to make. Creating a way of eating that's enjoyable and balanced takes time and is messy and imperfect. But, you have to decide if you're willing to put in the effort to change your body and your mental space around food. Imperfect or not, unpopular or not, you have to decide. Because, if losing weight is what you want to do, the only thing you can do without effort is give up.9 -
If one wants to know what someone else wants, what they really really want, one only has to look at what they have because well functioning people get exactly what they want over time.
When you want to lose the weight, not just say you do, or want to please others, you now know how to do it.
Of course, one has to work through the shortcuts to convince oneself that at the bottom of all weight loss there is nothing that matters other than CICO, but that is a relatively painless process. Fasting, Keto, frozen WW meals, dates and olive oil. It will be nothing worse than a time waster. For me it came pretty fast because the medical people were going to make me miserable unless my numbers improved, right away. Which they did.
Good luck.4 -
In reality, portion control is the main factor for people staying at a more normal weight. You see it in countries where people eat carbs regularly (Asian countries for instance). Go to a penitentiary and the inmates don't have an obesity problem there because they too are on a portion controlled eating regimen and in many cases more fit than the average American even with all the LOW QUALITY food. You'd think that if this food was so unhealthy, that they'd have shorter lifespans in prison...................but don't due to food intake.
Get in your RDA of macro/micronutrients however you see fit, and if there's leftover calories eat what you want. You don't get extra credit for eating "healthier" once you get RDA in.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yes, without trying AT ALL my ex lost 30-40 pounds during the 3 years he lived in Thailand, no doubt due to smaller portions. Or maybe rice has magical weight loss properties!
When I'm using recipes from my Thai cookbook I often double most things. When it says 4 servings, it is not referring to American servings.1 -
Not sure if OP is male or female... but I wanted to add, there is some evidence to suggest that fasting can negatively impact women's hormones and throw them out of balance. If you're female, somehing to Google and consider.
Healthy eating to me, is eating a diet high in whole grains and vegetables. Along with that, I like to eat healthy fats, lean proteins like beans, soy, seitan (I'm vegetarian). I base things on how the diet makes me feel overall (digestion/bloating, energy and vitality, skin condition, sleep quality, etc)3 -
@CierraEstelle I'm a lady1
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My version of healthy eating, and how I reduced my blood sugar number, was to reduce my carb intake to under 130g a day. I've mostly done it by making substitutions - cauliflower rice instead of rice (or half and half), fewer potatoes but more veg, courgetti instead of pasta (or half and half). If I do a stirfry, I pile loads of veg into the wok and don't bother with rice or noodles at all. In all cases, the volume of veg makes me feel that I've had a bigger meal but the carb intake (and calorie count) is lower than would have been on my plate a few years ago.
My current favourite is sauted cabbage - ~200g finely sliced white cabbage, 7-10g lighter butter and 7.5-10ml olive oil, sauted for about 20 mins. I sometimes add a 5ml splash of apple cyder vinegar. Aside from finding it very tasty, it's only 9g of carbs and also gives me 9g of fibre, so I use that instead of rice or potatoes with multiple dishes.
If you don't fancy counting calories, the only suggestion I can offer is to look at your typical meals and look at how many calories /carbs they contain - and either predominantly eat the lower cal / carb meals or come up with lower cal / carb alternatives and substitute them as much as possible. I used to add all sorts of fruit to my morning yoghurt and use different veg in cooking. I then made a list and looked up the nutritional info, per 100g, for all the things I ate regularly. After discovering that raspberries are lower carb than blueberries, I now only buy raspberries to add to my yoghurt. I now buy green beans and cauliflower more than I buy broccoli and carrots; I rarely eat peas or petit pois at home now. I like all of them but I may as well focus on eating the options that are lower carb. I rarely eat bread anyway, but I did a similar exercise to compare all the different bread options available to me at my local supermarket and now only have the lowest-carb option in my freezer.
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When I decided to get serious again about losing weight, I viewed weight loss as part of an overarching goal to get healthier overall by choosing more good-for-you foods, foods that make me feel better overall ,while still having treats. That also means I now view exercise I actually like and makes me feel better afterwards and not just to burn calories/see how many calories I can burn. To get more serious about actually losing weight and admittedly, get to my "vanity" weight, that meant I had to be more mindful of actually how much I was eating by tracking. This also helps me see how much protein and fiber I"m getting and *kind of* keep an eye on added sugars.
I don't view healthy eating as cutting out or demonizing foods, let alone entire food groups. That's not sustainable for me, and therefore by my definition, not healthy if not sustainable. I pay attention to how certain foods make me feel and how eating too much makes me feel. I'm paying even closer attention to this, and realize most of the time I'd rather forgo something if I know I'm going to feel yucky afterwards. By 'yucky" I don't mean feel guilty, but physically not great.1 -
Pick appropriate calorie and macros targets. Eat to them // MFP logging helps in this regard. Eat a good variety of nutrient-dense, healthful, fresh stuff. I highly recommend you do much of your own cooking, rather than eating out or taking in, except for occasions. I also bake - easy "no knead" methods - most of the family bread products, including rolls for summer grill sandwiches (much healthier than commercial bread). Get lots of colors on your plate (veggies, fruit). Don't go wild or constant with known "bad" stuff - deep fryer, highly-processed, highly-salted, high-sugar, etc. stuff - and don't fret too much if you indulge once in a while, we're all human. Don't drive yourself crazy or do big fad stuff. It takes time. As one doc told me, " ... it took all your life to get where you are, it's going to take a while to get someplace else."4
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