How hitting my weight goal sucked!

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bgorman65

When I spend too much time looking at how flabby I am getting as I shrink inside my stretched
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buddharivet wrote: »

As soon as I got below 240, every time a doctors assistant (video visits) asked me how much I weighed, I had to look it up on my phone, or I would say something like, “320”.

I am exactly there. I am down to about 230# for the first time in 30+ years, and every time someone asks me what I weigh now (supportive friends as well as medical personnel) I start the number with a 3, as in 330#. It's just the place I was in for so long, and I haven't adjusted to the current reality. And I still have a long way to go.

swimmom_1

I too have a number in mind. Where I was in 2010. And like others here I had body dismorphia. I was pretty happy where I was at, pound wise but I didn't think I was that thin. I was at a party and a skit someone did for the birthday girl was filmed and those at the party too. We later played the video on the TV. I saw myself on the TV and said out loud, "Boy, I am thin." A friend said, "Please rewind that so she can see that again!" What I saw in my home mirror and what I saw on the TV were 2 different things and really opened my eyes!

sunrise611

Oh, my goodness, what a great post! I love how you struggled and learned an important lesson from all of it and are now at peace. Congratulations on reaching your goal weight finally! That is a huge achievement in itself. Now you're learning new things. It's a process.

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JMC3Terp

I'm glad you shared this. I often think Goal Weights are a mistake. Atleast hard and strict end goal weights are. You can weigh 150 lbs and look completely different from 150 lbs with a different body composition. On top of that, so many people will hit a number and think the journey is over - when alot of times they really should lose more, or focus on building muscle or even just focus on maintaining. Can't tell you how many people I see hit their number, then go back to doing what they were doing before they dieted - next thing you know they gained all their weight back.

Here's what I did/am doing:
First, I don't focus on the scale for my successes but on non scale victories. It can be how clothing fits, or how I look in the mirror, but most often it is how I perform doing exercises. That said, I absolutely weigh myself every morning. Beyond that, I have created "mini weight goals" for myself. For instance, I'm currently 240 lbs, started at 361 lbs. I set a goal of 300, then 260 (no longer morbidly obese), next goal is 200 (no longer Obese), then roughly 160 (healthy BMI). That said, I don't have a hard FINAL goal weight. I'm shooting for somewhere between 140 and 175 lbs because it will mostly depend on how I look and feel and perhaps I'll even get down to a certain weight then build myself up with some more muscle.

All that is to say. You are 1000% right. That magic goal weight number is just an imaginary number people pick in their heads - its not a good idea to rely and focus so heavily on it. Thanks so much for sharing! And congrats on the success you have had so far btw!

HoneyBadger302

Yes, the scale is just a number for sure!

I'm still a good ways from my goal, and still tend to yo-yo the same 10 pounds, but the time I got under the "last" 15 pounds it became really obvious that my goal weight may need to be adjusted (it's based on where I was well into my 30's, so not some random number) - but I have done a LOT of focused weight lifting, something I never really did before - while I was strong, I never followed a real lifting routine like I have off and on the past couple years. The muscle was definitely changing the number vs what I was seeing in the mirror (and my clothes were saying.

All that said, my clothes also clearly state that my current weight is NOT remotely close to "goal weight in site" LOL

wunderkindking

I do think there is something to be said for realizing goal weights can be both slipperly slopes (I still have this roll! MUST LOSE MORE) and kind of... hm, hard to gauge when you're in the process/a long way away.

I THOUGHT I was mostly just fat in my stomach and would lose that. That's about 50lbs of fat, my arms and legs look fine.

My size change says lol, no.

I lost weight in my hands (ring size dropped), feet (shoe size dropped), arms (I swear a smaller bracelet (bingo wings), face (I own a mirror), neck and chest (my collar bones got more pronounced, my neck appears longer), legs (my knee high boots are way too big in the calf now, even though they were not a wide size to start with). My saggy, wrinkly, butt and inner thighs say I lost there as WELL as my stomach.

I really think it's an 'assess as you go' thing and that always seeking outside perspective is useful.

mattig89ch

I'm actually struggling with this idea atm. I lost 90 of my 100 lbs, and I'm like 'should I keep going? why?' Its like I'm getting pulled in 2 different directions right now. Keep going, or just stop. Tbh, I don't think I ever had this before, so its a new feeling for me.

happykangaroo

Very true - the number is not everything, it only gives you a limited picture of the story. There are so many other things to take into account. It's all about doing what works for you, what makes you feel your healthiest and allows you to live your best and happiest life, which might not be striving for a certain weight or body fat % or clothing size.