Lose 35lbs secretly?

JesusChristIsMySavior

Hey! I'd like to lose 35lbs without my family catching on and figuring out what I'm doing. Any suggestions?

AnnPT77

You may be able to calorie count in secret, if you're careful. Unless you have a lot of alone time, you won't be able to use a food scale or measure with cups/spoon, but estimating portions can work, if done with care, especially at first (because we have more wiggle room on accuracy when we have more to lose, speaking loosely). If you eat in others' presence, you might have to do some misleading chit-chat, which you might find repugnant, i.e., telling people (if they ask) that you're eating less because not hungry, ate earlier, blah blah blah.

The problem is that unless you're severely obese, you're going to look very different as you lose that many pounds. The slower you do it, the easier it may be to hide, but (again, unless you're severely obese) 35 pounds is going to take you down in clothes-sizes and that's hard to hide. Best shot would be getting clothes a size down that look the same as your larger size clothes, probably, and shifting into those when able. (That's kind of extreme, could be difficult.)

Why do you feel that you need to do this? It's always possible not to make a big deal about one's weight loss efforts, i.e., avoid mentioning anything, deflect questions, etc. It sounds like you're trying to be more subtle than that, though.

Can you share what makes this necessary for you? That might make it easier to suggest strategies. I'm not trying to be a voyeur or criticize you, by asking this . . . and of course you don't need to answer.

Good luck, regardless!

ETA: I'm hoping/assuming that you don't have an ED history . . . please.

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ahoy_m8

Assuming the 35 lb loss would put you at a healthy weight, I’d say do it slow. Pick one small thing to change and do it until it’s habit then change another small thing. It’s a solid strategy whether you care if others notice or not.

If you’re calorie counting (a somewhat reasonable assumption on a calorie counting site), aim for a 100 calorie daily deficit. That will be ~ 1 lb per month and take the better part of a year. The challenge in calorie counting would be a 100 calorie deficit requires precision (I.e. a scale). But if you’ve bought in to the slow strategy, you can make gradual corrections based on body weight scale.

Key to the slow strategy is using a weight trend app or algorithm. It helps to see through normal (healthy) scale fluctuation. Also key is patience. You will not get immediate gratification on the scale.

callsitlikeiseeit

why in secrecy?

missysippy930

I did it. I just didn’t tell anyone. I lost 40 pounds before anyone noticed and asked. I had a lot to lose though. My husband worked afternoons and I worked days. I do the cooking. Paid very close attention to portion sizes, and ate very little processed food. It can be done.

ReenieHJ

One never has to advertise their weight loss plans or goals. I don't usually make a big deal of it. I just do it. After all, it's for my own purposes, not anyone else's. If you're talking about refusing extra foods at family get togethers, come up with some reasonable sounding replies beforehand. Make sure you serve lots of veggies so you still look like you're eating a fair amount of food, just different healthier versions. Lots of substitutions can be made to make things less calories without people noticing.

I guess I can see why someone might want to keep it a secret because for some odd reason, some people feel the need to sabotage goals of another, push foods, tempt them, etc. It doesn't help to hear others say 'oh you look fine, why are you trying to lose weight, etc'. Statements like that can make me weaker in my endeavors, make me more tempted to have 'just 1 bite', therefore temptation becomes much harder for me to avoid. That's just me though. Or people then feel the need to have discussions about their own opinions of how to do it the 'right way'.

Good luck!! As I'm sure you realize, losing 35# will get noticed along the way and you'll have to find ways to deal with that. I always visualized walking into a room and everybody going 'wow! Have you lost weight? You look great!' type of reaction after not seeing people for awhile. Maybe that's your goal for doing this? IDK but I wish you well.

callsitlikeiseeit

ReenieHJ wrote: »

One never has to advertise their weight loss plans or goals. I don't usually make a big deal of it. I just do it. After all, it's for my own purposes, not anyone else's.

plenty of us do, or did that. I did. but this.... feels different.

kshama2001

I need to know more before I'm comfortable answering. For starters:

1. Why in secret?
2. What's your height and weight?

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