Haters - a rant

FitCurves444

Aw.... let them eat cake..... I know that nonsense is sometimes difficult to ignore, but you have to.

As to the "scawny" comment.... I'd take that as a "compliment" even if it was not intended as such.

ashandstuff

haters gonna hate.

if you're overweight, haters will hate.
if you're at a normal weight, haters will hate.
if you're underweight, haters will hate,
if you're really fit, haters will hate.

i have noticed the haters hate particularly hard on people who made a decision to really change their lives for the better. it's all fueled by self-hatred, jealously, envy, and lack of respect.

just ignore it.

you didn't change for them. you did it for YOU.

because the universal constant is

haters gonna hate.

fivethreeone

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

dbmata

Just tell them it sounds like it's time to start cutting the fat from other parts of life, like people you interact with.

Regarding the issues at work, I'd very sweetly go ask HR what they suggest you do, and tell them the comments you receive. It'll be done.

dbmata

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

Aw, you got your grumble pants on.

wannabpiper

5'8" at 147 is not "scrawy"

you might need some muscle on you- which would lend to a more solid physic rather than just "weight lost" essentially. (totally up to you and it's a personal preference if you prefer to be more muscular. I prefer it- I'm 5'8" and 160 and no one gives me grief about anything wink wink nudge nudge- partly because I'm a loud mouth and partly because I'm in pretty good shape)

I'd say something rude about their weight.

Seriously.

And when they look shocked and appalled at you- just say "oops- I didn't realize- from what you just said about me I was under the impression it was "give my friend unsolicited advice day"... wrong day? did I mis- read the memo??. or was it just be rude to your friends day because I can insult something else about you if you like instead."

My other favorite is "if I wanted to look like you- I'd eat like you"

seriously- say something- that type of behavior is unacceptable. it's one thing to joke about size and stuff (my rooommate/bestie had a super flat *kitten*- mine- not so much- so we joked about her bony butt and my underwear that were big enough to parachute out of an airplane with)... that or we would have a serious conversation about our goals and what our plan was.

We NEVER actually gave someone **** about it in a mean or snarky way.

That type of behavior from "friends" is unacceptable. seriously. find new friends and don't be shy about saying something to combat this behavior. it is NOT appropriate.

Awesome! Would you please be a little devil on my shoulder the next time I have to attend one of my sister's get-togethers? I can never think of these things when the time is right.

fivethreeone

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

Aw, you got your grumble pants on.

As always! :drinker:

wannabpiper

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Hazevamp

I think this is good news for you. Now you know which other types of fat you need to cut out of your life. Not many people get a chance to have their Debbie Downers presented to them on a silver platter.

Great job on your success!

whierd

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Yeah, <15

PikaKnight

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Yeah, <15

QFT

fivethreeone

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Not at all. Everyone knows maturity doesn't necessarily come with age.

Use of the word "haters" indicates a mentality that others might be out to get you or have an agenda against you, which is a generally juvenile perspective, unless you are maybe an international religious or political figure.

Or Miley Cyrus. She has haters.

brower47

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Not at all. Everyone knows maturity doesn't necessarily come with age.

Use of the word "haters" indicates a mentality that others might be out to get you or have an agenda against you, which is a generally juvenile perspective, unless you are maybe an international religious or political figure.

Or Miley Cyrus. She has haters.

You, yeah you. I'm in love. :flowerforyou:

magerum

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Not at all. Everyone knows maturity doesn't necessarily come with age.

Use of the word "haters" indicates a mentality that others might be out to get you or have an agenda against you, which is a generally juvenile perspective, unless you are maybe an international religious or political figure.

Or Miley Cyrus. She has haters.

In for Miley hatin'

NonnyMary

So I've been pretty proud of myself. By eating better than I ever have, and exercising (running, yoga) I'm almost at my initial goal of 145.

This week I received an email with a link to an article from a good friend, because "he loves me." The article was written by a woman who used to work for one of the meal plan diets, and completely bashes them. But that's not what I'm doing?

Then another friend started announcing, loudly and to anyone that would listen, that I was wearing my new "Levi's no-*kitten* jeans". On several occasions.

Tonight I stopped for coffee and the clerk, who has known me for years, told me I look "scrawny".

I am 5'8" and currently weigh about 147.

Every one of these well-wishers is (just a guess) well over 250 pounds. I have never, and would never, say A SINGE WORD to them about their weight. I don't understand why they feel like it's ok to do so. It's hurtful and completely negates how hard I have worked. Were there times I would have liked to have a piece of cake and didn't? Yup. Are there times I don't feel like running? Eff yeah.

I started this journey to celebrate my 50th birthday. It's been much easier than I would have believed, and I wish I had done it sooner. And it's for me.

That is why they are the size they are and you are the size you are. You are too skinny for them.... and that is their problem. they must have accepted their large size and if they look at you and think that, then that is why they will continue to stay fat. Actually its a compliment coming from them to you because they must think their largeness is attractive. But they are seeing it from their overweight perspective.

MistleToeSter

So I've been pretty proud of myself. By eating better than I ever have, and exercising (running, yoga) I'm almost at my initial goal of 145.

This week I received an email with a link to an article from a good friend, because "he loves me." The article was written by a woman who used to work for one of the meal plan diets, and completely bashes them. But that's not what I'm doing?

Then another friend started announcing, loudly and to anyone that would listen, that I was wearing my new "Levi's no-*kitten* jeans". On several occasions.

Tonight I stopped for coffee and the clerk, who has known me for years, told me I look "scrawny".

I am 5'8" and currently weigh about 147.

Every one of these well-wishers is (just a guess) well over 250 pounds. I have never, and would never, say A SINGE WORD to them about their weight. I don't understand why they feel like it's ok to do so. It's hurtful and completely negates how hard I have worked. Were there times I would have liked to have a piece of cake and didn't? Yup. Are there times I don't feel like running? Eff yeah.

I started this journey to celebrate my 50th birthday. It's been much easier than I would have believed, and I wish I had done it sooner. And it's for me.

You threaten people. Losing weight threatens the status quo of others.

ThickMcRunFast

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Not at all. Everyone knows maturity doesn't necessarily come with age.

Use of the word "haters" indicates a mentality that others might be out to get you or have an agenda against you, which is a generally juvenile perspective, unless you are maybe an international religious or political figure.

Or Miley Cyrus. She has haters.

Achrya

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

So, there's a specific age for the use of that word? Huh.

Not at all. Everyone knows maturity doesn't necessarily come with age.

Use of the word "haters" indicates a mentality that others might be out to get you or have an agenda against you, which is a generally juvenile perspective, unless you are maybe an international religious or political figure.

Or Miley Cyrus. She has haters.

In for Miley hatin'

This image remains hilarious.

MrsMX

In my opinion those who put others down are not that happy ...

dbmata

So... you're 50 years old and use terms like "haters"

I think I see the problem.

Aw, you got your grumble pants on.

As always! :drinker:

Me too.

I'm just looking for something to grumble about. Heh.

metaphoria

If you don't correct them, it will continue. I suggest the following reply for the next time this happens: "Your comment was rude and uncalled for. Please feel free to keep your opinions about me to yourself."

prattiger65

It took me a while but I figured out the correct response for me. "I'm sorry, I don't take diet advice from fat people, but thanks anyway".

steffiejoe

Here is a video I watch every morning to shake the naysayers off

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k89f1bxaO98&amp;feature=share&amp;list=PLNvrhAb9wrmt2R4t1szPnkcE6v6B0iZxa

ChristieFlowers

They're just being spiteful and hateful! People assume it's fine to make fun of thinner people- just reply "I don't comment on your weight because it's inappropriate and I feel the same way about you commenting on mine"

TattooedNici

If you're doing this the healthy way, then screw them! They're not your real friends and you're not losing the weight for them. The best revenge is to show that you're doing better. Best of luck.

ninerbuff

Best way to "kill" this.......................with kindness. Smile, and say thanks. Pisses them off every time because they know you aren't taking their advice.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Been in fitness industry for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

SLLRunner

So I've been pretty proud of myself. By eating better than I ever have, and exercising (running, yoga) I'm almost at my initial goal of 145.

This week I received an email with a link to an article from a good friend, because "he loves me." The article was written by a woman who used to work for one of the meal plan diets, and completely bashes them. But that's not what I'm doing?

Then another friend started announcing, loudly and to anyone that would listen, that I was wearing my new "Levi's no-*kitten* jeans". On several occasions.

Tonight I stopped for coffee and the clerk, who has known me for years, told me I look "scrawny".

I am 5'8" and currently weigh about 147.

Every one of these well-wishers is (just a guess) well over 250 pounds. I have never, and would never, say A SINGE WORD to them about their weight. I don't understand why they feel like it's ok to do so. It's hurtful and completely negates how hard I have worked. Were there times I would have liked to have a piece of cake and didn't? Yup. Are there times I don't feel like running? Eff yeah.

I started this journey to celebrate my 50th birthday. It's been much easier than I would have believed, and I wish I had done it sooner. And it's for me.

Oh, do I ever know where you are coming from, except it has been kind of the opposite lately. I've lost 18 pounds and all my friends are in awe and want to know how I'm doing it. (My answer- burning more calories than I take in. :laugh: ).

Right now, I can get my size 6 Polo jeans pulled up and zipped, and I am wearing some of my old clothes. I'm happy.

Well, when I first wore those size 6 polo jeans, people said I was too skinny, and one person even made the comment while looking me up and down, "Well, why don't you go eat a big fat hamburger or something. You're too thin."

You know, the way I see, those comments are all about them and really have nothing to do with the person they are speaking to. Be proud of your success! I know I'm proud of mine.

madcitytab

I know the feeling most people comment on how great I look and how have you done it but sometimes someone will say you are starting to look sickly. I love my new body and so should you. Don't let the hates bring you down.

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jennifer_417

Edit: The joke has already been made.