Locker Room Awkwardness
Replies
-
Hi, I'm 20 and the REC Center (gym) at my university is a state of the art gym, so it's usually crowded (no excuses to not go when Uncle Phil flips the bill (Nike)). Anyways, there are a LOT of fit people at the gym at all hours, and the shower scene can get pretty awkward, especially on days when you aren't feeling all that great about your appearance. What I started doing, and this is just what works for me, is pretending like I don't care. Usually when you feel awkward or self conscious, it shows. So I started to focus just on the tasks I was doing (showering, dressing, packing my gym bag up, etc.) and not on the people around me (which included both students and professors). I basically made the decision that I really don't care how old you are or what shape you are in, I don't want to see your bare naked butt. I just want to get out of this locker room and go on with my day. Try focusing on the task at hand and and remember the gym is tone of the few places that you should look like sweaty mess while leaving.0
-
When I used to go to the gym, I actually really didn't feel awkward. It's not a busy gym mind you, but I think I was the only one taking a shower there and not waiting to get home. I mean, hey, free shower!
A lot of women there would apologize for seeing you naked/being naked in front of you. I tell them: dude, don't worry this is a locker room. It's bound to happen.
This was still when I was at my heaviest, too.0 -
lol I don't like the options, either.I have no idea at all why this is even an issue if your that afraid of public interaction like that then you should never leave your home..it is such a waste of ones energy to even care who sees you naked or who you see naked..
Yes, these are your options: be cool with everyone seeing you naked, or else stay home FOREVER! Totes makes sense.
THERE IS NO MIDDLE GROUND!! My new motto: "Go naked or go home!" How dare people have basic modesty after a lifetime of being taught to be ashamed of their bodies!
Reminds me of the bumper sticker: Put out or walk.
I totally had one.0 -
Take a cadaver class or work in a nursing home once youve seen one naked body youve seen them all
The only thing cadaver classes made me want to do is learn to take apart the human body.0 -
blast some music in the showers0
-
blast some music in the showers
That's like an invitation for the helicopter dance. FYI.0 -
Not sure if anyone else has had to go through this, but I work out in the early mornings at my universities gym.
So before class, I shower.
And that means these open, military style, showers with skinny little fit girls trotting around like it ain't no thing to be naked. But then again, there are 60+ ladies flopping around their lady parts too like it aint no thing. Which I mean, you may think that's gross or whatever but I have mad respect for that level of self-confidence.
Soooooo???
I guess my question is
At what point did you get over your locker room awkwardness??
At what point in weight loss/getting fit journey do you say "IDGAF I will be naked in front of all these people and it will be great"????
When I was standing in a military shower with 93 other naked dudes. I realized it's only weird if you're the one looking.
Rigger0 -
I'm kind of a "when in Rome" person. So if I'm somewhere (like Rome
) where everyone is nonchalant about naked, then I am too. On the other hand I don't want to be the only naked one, and I have generally not felt that comfortable here in the USA. 0 -
I could watch this all day. lol0 -
It doesn't bother me to be naked. Here's a funny story though. I used to workout at L.A. Fitness and there's a wide variety of people that go to this gym. I'm in there one day changing and this old man walks in and he sort of looks like Popeye. Old but he looks bad *kitten*.
Anyway, I normally try to avoid looking in peoples direction when they are changing but Popeye is completely naked and bends over. Dude had a tramp stamp on his back. I busted out laughing. I couldn't help it.
omfg that is priceless0 -
LOL... that was a cute post! Made me laugh, I mean just the way you expressed it. My answer is, confidence definitely comes from your state of mind and self image. It makes absolutely no difference if you're fit, fat or 60, as you've seen. I've seen drop dead gorgeous women in locker rooms very timid and hiding in far corners to dress and undress away from everyone else. So, don't wait for a particular stage you get to with regards to weight/fitness. Be proud of your beautiful self! (and I can see from the pic you really are!).
(I am brand new here, so nice to meet you all!)
my face when a stranger on the internet says im pretty0 -
I enjoy making people feel awkward in the locker room. You can spot the awkward feeling people a mile away. They over cover themselves, always avoid eye contact. I like to throw my towel over my shoulder instead of wrap it. This way my penis is exposed completely.
Then I like to plant myself in their way, and pretend I am doing something and don't notice them trying to figure out how to get by me.
I also like to stand there in all my nakedness and start an in-depth conversation with them about deep things which you can't end easily. I always ask open ended questions so they can't just give a yes or no and dash away. It's fun to watch them squirm.
I will stand there with one leg on the bench, and let my dangle angle in their direction as i get things out of my locker and they are trapped in the cubby there needing me to move to get out.
I can't wait until I am an old man, and my *kitten* hangs to my knees! That will make for added pleasure.
This is what I will strive for.0 -
For me it was awkward because I just don't want to see other women's parts, and when I joined my gym and started using the locker room it was culture shock for me. I still don't want to see other women's parts, even if they are in shape. I do undress now at my locker instead of making a b-line to a stall because I just don't have time for that all the time. It still gets awkward when I remember that even though we're all women in the locker room, not all of us are heterosexual. So I could be entertaining eyes that I don't want to entertain.
I bet its awkward for you to go a lot of places.... Since we are EVERYWHERE...
I mean I don't know about anyone else but I only go to the YMCA for their open locker rooms.
There are gay people everywhere? *faints* I am so hot women cannot resist throwing themselves at me, or straight men either, it gets so hard to leave the house sometimes *sarcasm font*
You are only "entertaining" their eyes if you are doing a little dance as you dry off, otherwise get over yourself.0 -
Not sure if anyone else has had to go through this, but I work out in the early mornings at my universities gym.
So before class, I shower.
And that means these open, military style, showers with skinny little fit girls trotting around like it ain't no thing to be naked. But then again, there are 60+ ladies flopping around their lady parts too like it aint no thing. Which I mean, you may think that's gross or whatever but I have mad respect for that level of self-confidence.
Soooooo???
I guess my question is
At what point did you get over your locker room awkwardness??
At what point in weight loss/getting fit journey do you say "IDGAF I will be naked in front of all these people and it will be great"????0 -
I have seen too many rusty bullet holes during my time at the gym to feel awkward now, what has been seen cannot be unseen0
-
I workout during lunch in the gym at work, and I don't mind people being naked and changing but it is awkward to have to look them in the face and work with them after!0
-
There is a older lady at my gym who is a "naked, one leg on the bench, moisturing" kinda lady. I don't go that far but being naked/changing doesn't bother me too much, as long as my pants are nice..........0
-
My discomfort with being nude in front of people is more about modesty than what my body looks like. I actually think I look OK naked, but I don't like the whole world seeing me like that.0
-
In this, and many other circumstances (eg if you feel awkward doing presentations at work) I remember the 'spotlight' principle. Most people go through life believing that there is a spotlight right over their head and everyone is aware of their every move/thought/action etc. However if you remember that everyone else feels like that too, and is far too worried about what -they- are thinking/doing it is easier to switch off your own spotlight.
also, I don't care what other people think of me or my body. My validation doesn't come from them!
I hope my girls (aged 4 and 6) grow up to feel the same way - the fact they both sleep naked, and wander round the house like that happily, is a good start 0 -
I enjoy making people feel awkward in the locker room. You can spot the awkward feeling people a mile away. They over cover themselves, always avoid eye contact. I like to throw my towel over my shoulder instead of wrap it. This way my penis is exposed completely.
Then I like to plant myself in their way, and pretend I am doing something and don't notice them trying to figure out how to get by me.
I also like to stand there in all my nakedness and start an in-depth conversation with them about deep things which you can't end easily. I always ask open ended questions so they can't just give a yes or no and dash away. It's fun to watch them squirm.
I will stand there with one leg on the bench, and let my dangle angle in their direction as i get things out of my locker and they are trapped in the cubby there needing me to move to get out.
I can't wait until I am an old man, and my *kitten* hangs to my knees! That will make for added pleasure.
This had me in fits of laughter, too funny0 -
I don't mind other people being naked- I don't care for the ones that blow dry their hair nakked and walk around flapping bits everywhere- I mean I get it- you don't care- but towels were invented for a reason. But it's their prerogative- it's a locker room.
I work at my gym- so I try not to make a big scene about anything- and be as discrete as possible. I don't want to be standing there in all my nekkidness having a long conversation about a work out- it could be awkward at best or a law suit at worst.
I hate when complete strangers want to talk to me when they are fully nekkid- like- you know- I'm going to be at the front desk or walking about handling work in like 2 minutes- you couldn't handle it then!
mostly I roll in underwear and call it a day. You do whatever you want. I don't care.0 -
I never shower at the gym.....Its gross.0
-
...
And that means these open, military style, showers with skinny little fit girls trotting around like it ain't no thing to be naked. But then again, there are 60+ ladies flopping around their lady parts too like it aint no thing.
...
How do you know it ain't no thang for them? Don't make assumptions. 0 -
a necessairy evil sometimes.
I do it about once every 2 or 3 months and make sure I have appropriate flip flops- I can't stomach the idea of showering in there in bare feet- I don't understand how people can do it.
<vomit>
this includes you people who work out/swim/shower then walk through the gym in bare feet- it's weird.0 -
Wow, the prudery, not to mention the homophobia! Do the homophobic people *really* suppose that people who are attracted to the same gender 1. Are obsessed with sex all the time in every context, 2. Have no partner preferences and automatically find everyone of the same gender attractive? Do those things apply to you with regard to your gender of choice?
I've never felt that my body was a shameful thing, and changing clothes in a locker room is not sexual. It's absolutely no big deal.0 -
This reminds me of the movie hall pass when Owen Wilson passes out in the mens locker room hot tub. BAHAHAHA0
-
No-one is looking at you naked. No-one cares.
Once you come to that realization, self-consciousness fades.
This0 -
OH good gravy, don't get me started! My locker room is FULL of modesty minded areas to change & shower. I should NEVER have to see a naked person in my locker room. Yet, there are these 2 women. Well, 3, actually. They are not in good physical shape. . .one is a walking advertisement for squats, lunges, and any other strength training you can imagine. They walk around buck naked. Have conversations buck naked. Seem to think that we all enjoy looking at their lady parts. . . all of their lady parts. Like, bend over to blow dry my hair whilst naked lady parts. Ugh!
I know there will be the occassional butt shot or a boob shot here and there. And frankly I couldn't care less about that. But full on naked is just not my thing. If I wanted to look at naked ladies, I have plenty of options out there to choose from.0 -
I remember when I joined the gym at my heaviest of 325 pounds. I did water aerobics and used a few of weight machines, bikes and treadmill. Especially after water aerobics there would be a herd of ladies in the locker room trying to get showered and changed. At first I would always wait for a bathroom stall to change until I just decided who cares. It wasn't like everyone was standing looking at me. Everyone was pretty much standing facing their lockers and was busy drying off and changing themselves. They weren't looking at me and even if they were oh well.
Now 140+ pounds lighter with loose and saggy skin, I still don't care. It's just no big deal anymore. I just had to get over myself and then it was all good.0 -
...
And that means these open, military style, showers with skinny little fit girls trotting around like it ain't no thing to be naked. But then again, there are 60+ ladies flopping around their lady parts too like it aint no thing.
...
How do you know it ain't no thang for them? Don't make assumptions.
Because when I was skittering away from the mass showering hole one of the girls said "it ain't no thang you see my no-wang"
As for the older ladies, yes I am just assuming they give little effs to being naked (with the casual, slow walks like they are in a park around the lockers while in the nude.)
lol.
But that is true, I'm sure more people feeling just as weirded out as I am but are just going for it???0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.3K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.2K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 424 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.7K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions