I respect people that eat
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The amount of time I spend reading other people's food diaries is zero.
If someone asks me for their advice - then that is different. I'll check out their diary and give them some friendly advice - and I try to keep it as objective as possible. At the end of the day, I respect the food choices of my friends. The vast majority of people on my friend list don't share my nutrition outlook. I support them and encourage them regardless of what they do exercise wise or what they eat (or don't eat).
kind regards,
Ben
That's cool.
OP doesn't have to do that nor is she a bad person for not doing so.
No one is obligated to be your damn friend on this website. They don't have to support you, respect your choices, or allow you to be their friend. I'm not sure where all this guilt tripping comes in (Did all of you get deleted and now you're mad at the very prospect?) but if people don't want to deal with you they don't have to. And they aren't wrong/mean/judgmental/rude for doing so.
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Most people on starting on MFP obviously don't have a good grasp on nutrition. If they eat junk to fill their caloric goals, that's at least an improvment. People will change up the way they eat as they learn. There's really no reason to get upset over people who don't eat the way you'd prefer.
I think this is really important to remember... Before I started counting calories I was probably around 3000 calories per day. Now, I still eat things that I love (I had sweet and sour pork with chicken soba noodles last night mmmmmmm) but I made it fit into my calories. People like us are still trying! I eat over 1000 calories/day less than I used to...
Having said that, I never got down to 1200 calories/day, but at my lowest (around 1350?) I was cranky and it didn't work. I'm glad I saw the light of eating more! I'm still losing weight--it's slower, but it's still coming off AND I sleep better/need less of it and I don't feel like a freakin grump all the time
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The amount of time I spend reading other people's food diaries is zero.
If someone asks me for their advice - then that is different. I'll check out their diary and give them some friendly advice - and I try to keep it as objective as possible. At the end of the day, I respect the food choices of my friends. The vast majority of people on my friend list don't share my nutrition outlook. I support them and encourage them regardless of what they do exercise wise or what they eat (or don't eat).
kind regards,
Ben
That's cool.
OP doesn't have to do that nor is she a bad person for not doing so.
No one is obligated to be your damn friend on this website. They don't have to support you, respect your choices, or allow you to be their friend. I'm not sure where all this guilt tripping comes in (Did all of you get deleted and now you're mad at the very prospect?) but if people don't want to deal with you they don't have to. And they aren't wrong/mean/judgmental/rude for doing so.
My apologies - no guilt trip intended.
I was merely explaining what I do. As a perspective, the OP is welcome to accept or reject any part of it or all of it.
And I pass no judgement on her for doing so.
kind regards,
Ben0 -
The amount of time I spend reading other people's food diaries is zero.
If someone asks me for their advice - then that is different. I'll check out their diary and give them some friendly advice - and I try to keep it as objective as possible. At the end of the day, I respect the food choices of my friends. The vast majority of people on my friend list don't share my nutrition outlook. I support them and encourage them regardless of what they do exercise wise or what they eat (or don't eat).
kind regards,
Ben
That's cool.
OP doesn't have to do that nor is she a bad person for not doing so.
No one is obligated to be your damn friend on this website. They don't have to support you, respect your choices, or allow you to be their friend. I'm not sure where all this guilt tripping comes in (Did all of you get deleted and now you're mad at the very prospect?) but if people don't want to deal with you they don't have to. And they aren't wrong/mean/judgmental/rude for doing so.
I have to agree, I am not qualified, nor should I be expected to be anyone's doctor or therapist. If there is someone on my FL who is just too much of a hot mess, then see-ya, internet stranger! I'm sure people have de-friended me for not being talkative, or swearing too much, or for eating ice cream too often. Its just not that big of a deal.0 -
I simply say on my profile:
I accept requests only from those following a vegetarian or vegan high nutrient approach to healthy weight.
And, if someone attempts to friend me who doesn't follow that approach, I just decline.
I'm not here to convert or enlighten anyone.0 -
The amount of time I spend reading other people's food diaries is zero.
If someone asks me for their advice - then that is different. I'll check out their diary and give them some friendly advice - and I try to keep it as objective as possible. At the end of the day, I respect the food choices of my friends. The vast majority of people on my friend list don't share my nutrition outlook. I support them and encourage them regardless of what they do exercise wise or what they eat (or don't eat).
kind regards,
Ben
That's cool.
OP doesn't have to do that nor is she a bad person for not doing so.
No one is obligated to be your damn friend on this website. They don't have to support you, respect your choices, or allow you to be their friend. I'm not sure where all this guilt tripping comes in (Did all of you get deleted and now you're mad at the very prospect?) but if people don't want to deal with you they don't have to. And they aren't wrong/mean/judgmental/rude for doing so.
I have to agree, I am not qualified, nor should I be expected to be anyone's doctor or therapist. If there is someone on my FL who is just too much of a hot mess, then see-ya, internet stranger! I'm sure people have de-friended me for not being talkative, or swearing too much, or for eating ice cream too often. Its just not that big of a deal.
Yeah but those people are judgmental heathens.0 -
The only ones who can function normally eating like a rabbit are rabbits. I have seen diaries where people's meals consist of crackers, yogurt, fruit, maybe half a bagel, etc... no substantial food.
I ate 3 portion controlled meals a day that I prepared for myself consisting of 4 oz meat/chicken/fish, 2 oz greens, half cup of starches, etc...my only snacks were fruit or 100 calorie popcorn. I just cut out the junk snacking while I was on 1200, as well as the added oils and other food add-ons I could live without while losing weight. At the 1430-1590 calorie level I am still eating the same meal sizes I just added sweets/salty snacks in addition to all the fruit I was eating before. I get to eat my burgers, steak, potatoes, chinese food ( just weigh it first), pizza, etc... I get to eat my donuts and ice cream ( also weighed in appropriate portions).
I guess I just don't understand. How is yogurt, fruit, or bagels so unhealthy? I'm a vegetarian and so I don't eat meat and don't have burgers, steak, etc. I eat tons of veggies, legumes, and yea a lot of yogurt. I don't see how that's somehow less nutritious. Plus, chinese food, donuts, and ice cream are not very nutritious, but that's okay while yogurt and bagels isn't? I feel like I'm missing something.
If OP is not talking about eating a small amount of food (per the 1,200 calorie comment) but instead talking about WHAT a person chooses to eat in their calorie allotment, then I really don't understand criticizing "rabbit food" (uh... vegetables that are extremely nutritious) and endorsing chinese food.
Please someone explain. I'm not trying to criticize the OP, the post just really makes no sense at all to me.0 -
I don't really comment on food diaries or exercise0
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The amount of time I spend reading other people's food diaries is zero.
If someone asks me for their advice - then that is different. I'll check out their diary and give them some friendly advice - and I try to keep it as objective as possible. At the end of the day, I respect the food choices of my friends. The vast majority of people on my friend list don't share my nutrition outlook. I support them and encourage them regardless of what they do exercise wise or what they eat (or don't eat).
kind regards,
Ben
That's cool.
OP doesn't have to do that nor is she a bad person for not doing so.
No one is obligated to be your damn friend on this website. They don't have to support you, respect your choices, or allow you to be their friend. I'm not sure where all this guilt tripping comes in (Did all of you get deleted and now you're mad at the very prospect?) but if people don't want to deal with you they don't have to. And they aren't wrong/mean/judgmental/rude for doing so.
I have to agree, I am not qualified, nor should I be expected to be anyone's doctor or therapist. If there is someone on my FL who is just too much of a hot mess, then see-ya, internet stranger! I'm sure people have de-friended me for not being talkative, or swearing too much, or for eating ice cream too often. Its just not that big of a deal.
^ This. I tried being Mr. Nice Guy and helping and what not. I figured with my very screwed up background that I had a pretty good viewpoint form which to help. Then, I relearned what I've known all along from my own experience. People either do it themselves or they fail. People need to grow the eff up.0 -
The only ones who can function normally eating like a rabbit are rabbits. I have seen diaries where people's meals consist of crackers, yogurt, fruit, maybe half a bagel, etc... no substantial food.
I ate 3 portion controlled meals a day that I prepared for myself consisting of 4 oz meat/chicken/fish, 2 oz greens, half cup of starches, etc...my only snacks were fruit or 100 calorie popcorn. I just cut out the junk snacking while I was on 1200, as well as the added oils and other food add-ons I could live without while losing weight. At the 1430-1590 calorie level I am still eating the same meal sizes I just added sweets/salty snacks in addition to all the fruit I was eating before. I get to eat my burgers, steak, potatoes, chinese food ( just weigh it first), pizza, etc... I get to eat my donuts and ice cream ( also weighed in appropriate portions).
I guess I just don't understand. How is yogurt, fruit, or bagels so unhealthy? I'm a vegetarian and so I don't eat meat and don't have burgers, steak, etc. I eat tons of veggies, legumes, and yea a lot of yogurt. I don't see how that's somehow less nutritious. Plus, chinese food, donuts, and ice cream are not very nutritious, but that's okay while yogurt and bagels isn't? I feel like I'm missing something.
If OP is not talking about eating a small amount of food (per the 1,200 calorie comment) but instead talking about WHAT a person chooses to eat in their calorie allotment, then I really don't understand criticizing "rabbit food" (uh... vegetables that are extremely nutritious) and endorsing chinese food.
Please someone explain. I'm not trying to criticize the OP, the post just really makes no sense at all to me.
Maybe i misunderstood, I can see how it can be read in different ways, but when i read "meals consist of crackers, yogurt, fruit, maybe half a bagel, etc... no substantial food". I took it to mean a number of meals consisting of just crackers, just yogurt, just a piece of fruit, ie, not very little food, regardless of how healthy, and not just one meal.0 -
The only ones who can function normally eating like a rabbit are rabbits. I have seen diaries where people's meals consist of crackers, yogurt, fruit, maybe half a bagel, etc... no substantial food.
I ate 3 portion controlled meals a day that I prepared for myself consisting of 4 oz meat/chicken/fish, 2 oz greens, half cup of starches, etc...my only snacks were fruit or 100 calorie popcorn. I just cut out the junk snacking while I was on 1200, as well as the added oils and other food add-ons I could live without while losing weight. At the 1430-1590 calorie level I am still eating the same meal sizes I just added sweets/salty snacks in addition to all the fruit I was eating before. I get to eat my burgers, steak, potatoes, chinese food ( just weigh it first), pizza, etc... I get to eat my donuts and ice cream ( also weighed in appropriate portions).
I guess I just don't understand. How is yogurt, fruit, or bagels so unhealthy? I'm a vegetarian and so I don't eat meat and don't have burgers, steak, etc. I eat tons of veggies, legumes, and yea a lot of yogurt. I don't see how that's somehow less nutritious. Plus, chinese food, donuts, and ice cream are not very nutritious, but that's okay while yogurt and bagels isn't? I feel like I'm missing something.
If OP is not talking about eating a small amount of food (per the 1,200 calorie comment) but instead talking about WHAT a person chooses to eat in their calorie allotment, then I really don't understand criticizing "rabbit food" (uh... vegetables that are extremely nutritious) and endorsing chinese food.
Please someone explain. I'm not trying to criticize the OP, the post just really makes no sense at all to me.
Maybe i misunderstood, I can see how it can be read in different ways, but when i read "meals consist of crackers, yogurt, fruit, maybe half a bagel, etc... no substantial food". I took it to mean a number of meals consisting of just crackers, just yogurt, just a piece of fruit, ie, not very little food, regardless of how healthy, and not just one meal.
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I'm glad you have figured out what you have to do for yourself. I suggest you stop spending time worrying about what other people do, you can only control yourself. I find it stupid of you to say that people that lose weight in a manner different than what you have done will gain it all back, anyone can gain weight back even you OP, it's all about continued decision making.
People have lots of different thoughts on what is "healthy eating," do your own research and come to your own conclusions, but always be accepting of new information whether you take it or not is your own prerogative.0 -
OP: tailor your friends list however you want. I like keeping a small and manageable list, which means I'm really fussy about who is on it. There is nothing wrong with cutting someone because their eating habits are concerning you, it's your list.0
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+1I'm a little surprised at the backlash OP has received on this. This is what I took from her post:
-She respects people that eat well *regardless of their calorie goal*. She even specifically said she is NOT talking about the people who aim for 1200 calories.
-She wishes that people who scrape by on next to nothing (because they're not eating nutritious food) would realize that they can eat "real" food and still be within their goal.
-She's proud of her progress (40 something pounds? Go you!)
-She is trying to make a personal choice on how to handle the people who don't eat well. (Why do any of you care how she handles her friends list, btw?)
Anyway... +1 OP. I personally wouldn't un-friend someone who didn't eat "well" but I do like having people on my list that do. Helps give me ideas for my dinners and snacks. Whatever you decide, best of luck on the rest of your weight loss journey.0 -
I think the OP is talking about posters that I don't really see that much, but then again I don't friend many skinny people and they don't want to friend me. (I'm on a bigger weight loss journey than they are, so I tend to think our goals would be different.)
I know there are some people with Eating Disorders here. I can tell from the weird questions and obsessive calculation over calories and eating. Sometimes, rarely, I will read someone's food diary and thing, "Wow, that's not a lot of food," and debate if I should say something. Perhaps it was just a day where he or she felt sick or forgot to update. Or that person has a problem. I don't know which.
Most of the food diaries I read tend to lack fruits and vegetables, regardless of caloric content. And man, a lot of you love nondairy flavored creamers!0 -
OP: tailor your friends list however you want. I like keeping a small and manageable list, which means I'm really fussy about who is on it. There is nothing wrong with cutting someone because their eating habits are concerning you, it's your list.
This!0 -
TBH when I first saw the title " I respect people that eat" I thought you were talking about people who eat for a specific goal, like those guys who eat massive amounts of protein and carbs each day for bodybuilding. But the thing is, whether we eat to maintain or lose weight with 1200 calories per day, 1400 or 2000, we are all eating with some kind of goal in mind. And it's up to the MFP community to be supportive and positive towards everyone.0
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+1 to OP 0
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The amount of time I spend reading other people's food diaries is zero.
If someone asks me for their advice - then that is different. I'll check out their diary and give them some friendly advice - and I try to keep it as objective as possible. At the end of the day, I respect the food choices of my friends. The vast majority of people on my friend list don't share my nutrition outlook. I support them and encourage them regardless of what they do exercise wise or what they eat (or don't eat).
kind regards,
Ben
I like the way you think, sir.0
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