Freak of nature and other backhanded compliments..,

getitamb
getitamb Posts: 2,019 Member
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So today I was called, by my dad, a freak of nature. He told me it was good bc that meant I worked out and was be owning healthy. I just said of that means no diabetes, heart problems, high blood pressure, and lower risk of cancer, I guess that's me. What backhanded compliments have you received on your journey?
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  • griffith5150
    griffith5150 Posts: 123
    Awww its good you are taking of yourself so you won't lose your boyfriend to another woman. From my evil cousin after I lost my first 100 lbs..
  • kyleekay10
    kyleekay10 Posts: 1,812 Member
    "You look great! You were definitely getting chubby before."

    Duh, I know. Couldn't have stopped after "you look great"? :grumble:
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    "Wow, you look amazing. Did you get a new husband or something?"

    WTF does that even mean?
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    I was called a freak of nature by my dad once... but that was cuz I got my lip pierced at age 12....
  • LaserOctopus
    LaserOctopus Posts: 121 Member
    "You look thinner. Have you been sick?" From a co-worker.

    Gee, thanks.
  • ladyark
    ladyark Posts: 1,101 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    "You look thinner. Have you been sick?" From a co-worker.

    Gee, thanks.

    YES! This has happened to me on several occasions - even at times when I hadn't lost any weight. :laugh:
  • jdm_taco
    jdm_taco Posts: 999 Member
    From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"

    Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."
  • chubaway
    chubaway Posts: 1,645 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?
  • mattschwartz01
    mattschwartz01 Posts: 566 Member
    I was told, "You don't want to be al skin and bone. You should stop losing weight now." SMH! Oh well
  • LaserOctopus
    LaserOctopus Posts: 121 Member
    From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"

    Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."


    <eyeroll> Silly people. This is why I am already making up completely preposterous and vaguely dirty reasons for my losses, and I'm only 14 pounds down so far...
  • LaserOctopus
    LaserOctopus Posts: 121 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?

    I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    That is not ignorant. That is fact, depending on how much weight you need to lose.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"

    Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."

    Gastric bypass isn't the easy way. They have to work just as hard.
  • chubaway
    chubaway Posts: 1,645 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?

    I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.

    I don't think one of those items you mentioned had anything to do with losing weight or becoming healthier.
  • SrJoben
    SrJoben Posts: 484 Member
    From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"

    Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."

    Gastric bypass isn't the easy way. They have to work just as hard.

    So it's pointless then?
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"

    Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."

    Gastric bypass isn't the easy way. They have to work just as hard.

    So it's pointless then?

    It helps to curb some of your appetite and I believe limits calorie absorption to a degree. But that is rarely the reason that people fall off the wagon and are still subject to emotional eating and calorie counting.
  • heatherloveslifting
    heatherloveslifting Posts: 1,428 Member
    "You were way hotter before you lost weight." :huh:

    "You're actually quite thin except for the top of your legs." :laugh:
  • LaserOctopus
    LaserOctopus Posts: 121 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?

    I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.

    I don't think one of those items you mentioned had anything to do with losing weight or becoming healthier.

    True. But they all have that "You would be pretty if," as if that thing, regardless of what it is, is your only chance to have some redeeming value. Certainly most people look better as they get healthier, but the implication (purposely or not) in that particular type of back-handed compliment is that right now you're hideous, and you should do X thing to make yourself acceptable to the person doing the complimenting.

    I, personally, would probably enjoy life a lot more if all men were 6'5, well-defined, half-naked, and gorgeous. But I'm not going to go up to the ones who aren't and tell them they'd be attractive "if"...
  • _firecracker_
    _firecracker_ Posts: 185 Member
    "Your figure looks amazing! It must be because you're so tall." Of course. It has absolutely nothing to do with running and lifting 6 days a week.
  • Mcmilligen
    Mcmilligen Posts: 332 Member
    "You look great! You were definitely getting chubby before."

    Duh, I know. Couldn't have stopped after "you look great"? :grumble:

    GAH I have gotten this! It's so rude. Especially coming from a 'close' friend who could afford to lose more than a few lbs himself. Yeesh.

    For me, the line was "You're looking good. You were REALLY starting to look fat before." :frown:
  • heatherloveslifting
    heatherloveslifting Posts: 1,428 Member
    .

    :laugh: craziness!
  • chubaway
    chubaway Posts: 1,645 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?



    I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.

    I don't think one of those items you mentioned had anything to do with losing weight or becoming healthier.

    True. But they all have that "You would be pretty if," as if that thing, regardless of what it is, is your only chance to have some redeeming value. Certainly most people look better as they get healthier, but the implication (purposely or not) in that particular type of back-handed compliment is that right now you're hideous, and you should do X thing to make yourself acceptable to the person doing the complimenting.

    I, personally, would probably enjoy life a lot more if all men were 6'5, well-defined, half-naked, and gorgeous. But I'm not going to go up to the ones who aren't and tell them they'd attractive "if"...

    You wrote, " . . . right now you're hideous . . ." . . . WRONG. Maybe they are thinking "You are so pretty, but you'd be prettier if . . .".

    Your lawn looks so do good, but it might look better if you fertilized it. See how that works? It all boils down to your attitude.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    My wife calls me her "Beast."

    I'm okay with that.
  • jboccio90
    jboccio90 Posts: 644 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    this

    I've gotten "you have such a pretty face, you just need to lose weight"
  • Karabobarra
    Karabobarra Posts: 782 Member
    I get the "hey, I want to lose some weight... what diet pill do you recommend?"

    I usually respond with "the all natural one, have you heard of it? I think it's called Watch what you eat and get your booty to the gym"

    then I go on to inform them of MFP and how much it helped me keep track of stuff and the great support I've gotten here.

    (disregard 5lb loss on ticker... I lost over 80lbs before resetting it)
  • LaserOctopus
    LaserOctopus Posts: 121 Member
    I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck

    I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?



    I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.

    I don't think one of those items you mentioned had anything to do with losing weight or becoming healthier.

    True. But they all have that "You would be pretty if," as if that thing, regardless of what it is, is your only chance to have some redeeming value. Certainly most people look better as they get healthier, but the implication (purposely or not) in that particular type of back-handed compliment is that right now you're hideous, and you should do X thing to make yourself acceptable to the person doing the complimenting.

    I, personally, would probably enjoy life a lot more if all men were 6'5, well-defined, half-naked, and gorgeous. But I'm not going to go up to the ones who aren't and tell them they'd attractive "if"...

    You wrote, " . . . right now you're hideous . . ." . . . WRONG. Maybe they are thinking "You are so pretty, but you'd be prettier if . . .".

    Your lawn looks so do good, but it might look better if you fertilized it. See how that works? It all boils down to your attitude.

    Maybe that *is* what they are thinking, but I also used words like "intended" and "purposely" - implication and connotation are as much a part of communication as actual words. And that particular comment rarely comes as "your lawn looks good, but might look better if" so much as "your lawn would look good if." So let's just agree to disagree. Unless, of course, you are one of those rare people who delights in a bit of verbal sparring?
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    "You look skinny"
  • kirk_clawson
    kirk_clawson Posts: 36 Member
    "You're shrinking!"

    With a mildly dismayed look upon their face as if I had some sort of wasting disease. :-|
  • chubaway
    chubaway Posts: 1,645 Member
    Maybe that *is* what they are thinking, but I also used words like "intended" and "purposely" - implication and connotation are as much a part of communication as actual words. And that particular comment rarely comes as "your lawn looks good, but might look better if" so much as "your lawn would look good if." So let's just agree to disagree. Unless, of course, you are one of those rare people who delights in a bit of verbal sparring?

    I enjoy a little sparring from time to time, but in this instance I feel outclassed. I would like to suggest one thing before we close. I've never met you, but it's clear you are an intelligent person. Maybe you over think persons' intentions. Maybe you need to decock, and unload your fu pistol.

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