people crapping all over my plans

nomorepizza2

It never stops! I've lost 109 pounds in just over 10 months (didn't discover this website until half-way through) and I still get people at work advising me on my diet!

MsPudding

It's funny isn't it.....I wonder if people have the guts to tell a Muslim to their face that they're going to be putting themselves into starvation mode/messing up their metabolism/starving their brain/causing their muscles to eat themselves when they fast during daylight hours for Ramadan. Somehow I'm thinking....NOT :ohwell:

FrancineM62

If other people's comments bother me, it's usually because there's a grain of truth in what they're saying or I'm insecure about the particular issue. If I am confident in what I'm doing, then others' comments don't bother me.

tarap003

I know exactly how you feel, my new rule is "what goes on in MFP stays in MFP!"

It's hard enough trying to work out what actually works for you without other people telling you you're doing it wrong. I'm experimenting too with intermittent fasting and zig zagging the daily calorie intake and it seems to be working for me.

If you do have these conversations just remember to tell them this

1) if your daily intake is about right and you are eating well then it doesn't matter what meal you skip and when you skip it
2) intermittent fasting has been shown to help some peoples metabolism and improve results in weight loss without causing any damage. Blimey some cultures even have it ingrained into their daily lives so its not a bad thing!
3) Ask them to analyse how many calories they're taking in a day and the quality of their own diets and I bet they'd be surprised at how much damage they're doing to themselves, compared to you eating well and missing a few meals in order to get healthy!

Don't let the meanies get you down!

elisa123gal

we all make the mistake of "announcing" our fitness and weightloss efforts. ..and on cue...most everyone you tell will do something to keep you from achieving your goals.

we all need to keep our mouths shut...just not when it comes to food..but announcing the world our weightloss plans. people just can't help but to trip you up.. human nature.

bob_day

What to do with these people? Do I need to invest in a rubber mallet or what? :yawn:

I've never tried intermittent fasting, but I've read from what I consider
very reliable sources that it has all sorts of benefits besides just weight loss.

Just ignore the criticisms, or for overweight people who criticize you, you
might look them eye, then look up and down at their body, raise an eyebrow,
smile, and walk away.

JanieJack

Just prove them wrong with your results.

Exactly.

That said, you have to pay attention to your body and make sure IF really works for you. If it does, ignore them and do what works FOR YOU

iquiltoo

I think one of my friends here said it well - she tells people "my body, my rules"!

Cold_Steel

Personally I kind of enjoy conflict so I am of no advice here...

"So how did you lose all the weight? Surgery... Lap band ?"

No just diet exercise and I use the spike method

"Oh is spike some sort of drug?"

Yes, you see I go find a really fast runner and I spike them with my soccer cleat and then run as fast as I can... Its worked wonders...

kellyskitties

Nope, I'm staying in the diet closet. I did come out the closet to a coworker who I trust and thought he was also "in the closet." Hey, didn't I see you in the closet? LOL Anyway, I'm naturally an introvert so I really hate people up in my business anyway. We both agreed not to be in each other's koolaid about it and I know I have at least one supporter at work.

I've been nearly outed a couple times - but just brushed off the glances with a reason that satisfied them. The fact I recently adjusted my calories up quite a lot to give myself a break has also eliminated it. It was a decision for myself though, not them - I was at a breaking point with things and it was my best decision. I didn't share that either with them. I'm sure there would have been a lot of "you have to want it enough" or "push through you can do it" fluff. I needed a tangible change - I found it.

I also have done this while watching many coworkers doing Plexus (while I didn't even though there was some mild peer pressure) and another (thank goodness - draws focus of others to herself) is celebrating a rather large weight loss. She can have the attention and all the tips she can get from the others.

I hate to be scrutinized about what I choose to eat. If they know, they think they have a right or a DUTY to comment or give advice. No thanks. I'll seek advice here when I need it. And that's worked out very well thank you very much. My life is not their business.

Hexahedra

If other people's comments bother me, it's usually because there's a grain of truth in what they're saying or I'm insecure about the particular issue. If I am confident in what I'm doing, then others' comments don't bother me.

This.

Fullsterkur_woman

I have disagreements with people about their particular dietary choices, but I know that what works for other people doesn't necessarily work for me, so what I do won't necessarily work for them. They have to live with their results, so they get to choose their methods, right?

Ang108

Same thing happened to me yesterday. I told some co-workers that I'm going to be skipping breakfast for my intermittent fasting.

The most common comments are things like, "You're going to go into starvation mode.", "Breakfast kick starts your metabolism.", "Skipping dinner is better because your body doesn't burn calories in your sleep." etc etc.

Just prove them wrong with your results. That's the only way they'll even consider what you have to say. But I know the feeling. It's this helpless feeling, knowing that whatever you say right now means nothing.

Don't let any of it get to you though.

I think you are really fortunate. In your environment people know the right answers, at least as far as terminology is concerned. In mine the words " starvation mode ", " kick starting one's metabolism " , or " burning calories in your sleep " are absolutely unknown and people in general are uninformed on the subject. That's why I don't tell anyone what I am doing. They would not even know what I am talking about.

blah2989

That is ridiculous. The same thing has happened to me when I tell people ( just in conversation) that I usually dont eat breakfast. They say " Its really bad skipping breakfast, you putvon more weight that way" Which makes me want to slap them. I just say " well for me it just adds extra calories if Im not planning on exercising." I dont purposely skip it, Im just noy hungry. Why eat if Im not hungry? I want to enjoy my food, not force myself. Plus you are doing what works for YOU. I have actually been told not to run in the evening, only the morning. I run in the evenings. Esp in summer / early fall. I wake up.t 630-7 and its usually getting hot

lcfairbairn74

Personally I kind of enjoy conflict so I am of no advice here...

"So how did you lose all the weight? Surgery... Lap band ?"

No just diet exercise and I use the spike method

"Oh is spike some sort of drug?"

Yes, you see I go find a really fast runner and I spike them with my soccer cleat and then run as fast as I can... Its worked wonders...

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

foleyshirley

Right now I'm experimenting with intermittent fasting and having good results.

I made the mistake of starting to tell people about my experiences.

There seem to be so many people ready to jump all over it with their negativity about all the reasons why it's bad, why it won't work blah blah blah.

It's so predictable, it's almost comical.

What to do with these people? Do I need to invest in a rubber mallet or what? :yawn:

What form of IF are you doing? I am trying to decide between 5:2 and 16:8.

Ely82010

The first rule of any diet and exercise program is that you don't discuss your diet and exercise program with people from whom you do not want advice.
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Winner!!

2aycocks

Right now I'm experimenting with intermittent fasting and having good results.

I made the mistake of starting to tell people about my experiences.

There seem to be so many people ready to jump all over it with their negativity about all the reasons why it's bad, why it won't work blah blah blah.

It's so predictable, it's almost comical.

What to do with these people? Do I need to invest in a rubber mallet or what? :yawn:

Just stop telling people all your business. that should take care of the nay sayers.

Athena53

I've had great success with 5:2 and it's easier when you can point to your own results with an attitude of "it's working, so don't give me any crap". It's just a little harder when you're still on your way to your goal.

I'm really lucky- my husband is supportive and my co-workers include a young woman with inherited high cholesterol who's careful about fat, one who's gluten-free for health reasons, a vegetarian, and my boss the long-distance runner whom I've never seen drink anything stronger than ginger ale. Two new mothers are trying to lose their post-baby weight. If my lunch in a fancy restaurant is a green salad with dressing on the side and grilled asparagus, no one says a word.

And I love the "my body, my rules" response!

kellyskitties

This made me have a new thought:

The first rule of diet club is nobody talks about diet club. LOL

purple_tux1

What form of IF are you doing? I am trying to decide between 5:2 and 16:8.

I typically do an 18 hour stretch with no food, just water and gum. I find if I eat any food, it just stimulates my appetite. If I don't eat, I have very little hunger during the day. I fast about twice/week. If you're starting off, I would just start by skipping breakfast and see how you feel. You can gradually increase the length of your fast as your body gets used to it.

The last fast was going so well I broke the fast with 500 calories around 9pm, then didn't feel like eating more so I just went to bed and didn't eat anything until the next afternoon for a total of 36 hours with only 500 calories. It was totally awesome. I felt unusually joyful and now my appetite (when I'm not fasting) has been reduced considerably. I have always struggled to keep under my calorie goals. Fasting seems to have the benefit of 'resetting' my appetite.

Leather_N_Lace

I have been doing a 5:2 plan for a little over 100 days now. The results I have had are amazing. I eat 1 apple, 2 stalks of celery, 12 almonds, 12 nutrition wafers and drink a mineral/herbal tea on my 2 fast days. I tell you this because when I share this outside MFP, I get all kinds of grief about my "poor" eating choices. Stop telling people. I've learned to just say no thank you when offered something. P.S. Since doing the 5:2, I've lost 19 pounds and 48 cumulative inches off of my frame and I have a TON more energy! Keep up the good work!