*MAJOR RANT ALLERT*
bohomaze
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I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
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And your problem is.....................?0
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And your problem is.....................?
My obsesity is my problem, haha0 -
And your problem is.....................?
My obsesity is my problem, haha
We all have that problem my dear. But what is your rant about, I find it difficult to understand why anyone would rant about their own preference to stay fat and not do anything about what they say they want to do. It's illogical Captain.
Frankly, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your fat *kitten* and DO SOMETHING!! The solution lies with you, no-one on this forum, not even me, can motivate you. Sure we can help, but the basic motivation has to come from you. If you're not ready for that yet, I suggest you take a break and come back when you can face up to it.0 -
Motivation comes and goes. Make a commitment to yourself and stick to it.
When it's hard or you "don't feel like" - just do it. No one can make you care about yourself or to take care of yourself. Just get up and do it because throwing a self-pity party isn't going to change anything about you. It'll just keep you as you are now.0 -
If you want it bad enough, you'll do whatever it takes to get it.
Don't make excuses. Just do it.0 -
And your problem is.....................?
My obsesity is my problem, haha
We all have that problem my dear. But what is your rant about, I find it difficult to understand why anyone would rant about their own preference to stay fat and not do anything about what they say they want to do. It's illogical Captain.
Frankly, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your fat *kitten* and DO SOMETHING!! The solution lies with you, no-one on this forum, not even me, can motivate you. Sure we can help, but the basic motivation has to come from you. If you're not ready for that yet, I suggest you take a break and come back when you can face up to it.
Thank you, thats all I needed to hear.0 -
I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
I know exactly how you're feeling. I lost over 65lbs for my wedding in 2011 and gained almost every single pound back over a 15 month period. I know how it feels to spiral out of control especially when binging is the issue. The only one who can turn it around right now is you. TRUST me you can do it. Even if you're not feeling it, go through the motions. Count your calories and log your food. Don't try and do a total 180 overnight, just start small and go from there. When you slip up (you will, we all do), just get back up and keep going. I found the best way to ensure I didn't binge was to spread my calories out over the entire course of the day. If I ever let myself get too hungry, that's when the urge to binge starts (yes even still). You can do it.0 -
I know how you feel. I spent most of my life starving or dieting, yet I am overweight. I am to the point where I am done with dieting and avoiding certain foods. I've always deprived myself and binged. My body just couldn't keep up with the drastiic changes all of the time. I am really working on having a normal relationship with food and allow myself to eat everything in moderation.0
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And your problem is.....................?
My obsesity is my problem, haha
We all have that problem my dear. But what is your rant about, I find it difficult to understand why anyone would rant about their own preference to stay fat and not do anything about what they say they want to do. It's illogical Captain.
Frankly, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your fat *kitten* and DO SOMETHING!! The solution lies with you, no-one on this forum, not even me, can motivate you. Sure we can help, but the basic motivation has to come from you. If you're not ready for that yet, I suggest you take a break and come back when you can face up to it.
Harsh but oh so true . Glad u appreciated these words. Now go kick *kitten*0 -
And your problem is.....................?
My obsesity is my problem, haha
We all have that problem my dear. But what is your rant about, I find it difficult to understand why anyone would rant about their own preference to stay fat and not do anything about what they say they want to do. It's illogical Captain.
Frankly, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your fat *kitten* and DO SOMETHING!! The solution lies with you, no-one on this forum, not even me, can motivate you. Sure we can help, but the basic motivation has to come from you. If you're not ready for that yet, I suggest you take a break and come back when you can face up to it.
Thank you, thats all I needed to hear.
Sorry, it's harsh but true. Do you really want to be a failure? Do you want to remain fat? I don't know about you, I may have my blips and moments of failure, but I know what I want to achieve, and nothing and nobody is going to stop me however difficult it is. It sounds like you haven't made up your mind what you want yet.0 -
I totally understand how you feel. It's exhausting, isn't it, the never-ending battle?
What I've discovered recently - a big part of what makes me feel exhausted is the inner dialogue going on in my head. I'm trying hard not to overthink it and 'just do it'. Seems to be helping.0 -
stop eating so much0
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I'm so sorry. It sounds like you're in a lot of pain. Have you considered talking to your doctor or a therapist?0
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I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
I was like this too. I could eat a block of chocolate, a pack of biscuits and a bag of lollies in one sitting. I'd normally do it every day. I felt I couldn't stop and couldn't control myself.
The first thing you need to work out is what food trigger you to binge. Most people can eat most things in moderation, but may have a few things they end up binging on if they eat. Find out what they are and either cut them out or only buy a limited amount so you can't binge on them. Find other good foods that YOU enjoy to snack on eg nuts, dried fruit, smoothes or what suits you.
That way I stopped binging (and it will be different for everyone) is
1- I determined that sugary foods makes me binge eat.
2- I stopped buying chocolate and biscuits etc but brought lots of nuts, crackers, fruit etc, even chips and other more unhealthy savoury snacks - things that had no sugar in them
3- I allowed myself to snack on them when I was hungry. At the start I ate a fair bit, but now, a while into things I eat a few crackers etc and then stop because I am not that interested. Binging on fruit or nuts etc is probably still not that great, but it is better than binging on blocks of chocolate. And in the end my body knows and tells me when I've had enough.
4- Ive been doing this for a couple of months now. Nowadays for a treat I have some almonds or dried peach halves (delicious!). I can actually have a casual snack without over doing it. If I went back to buying blocks of chocolate, however, I'd go back to failing, because I honestly will probably never be able to eat it in moderation if i brought a whole big block. Eventually I am planning on buying myself a small chocolate bar once in a while as a treat, and try and learn how to eat small amounts of sugar.
Find things that trigger you and choose snacks that you CAN eat in moderation, rather than those you can't. Set yourself up for success rather than failure! I know this method may only work for me - but experiment and find what works for you.0 -
I totally get what you mean. I've been up & down since March of this year & even though I am no where near my goal weight, I am staying motivated. Hang in there! As the saying goes, "No pain, no gain."0
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Find a motivator, my current motivator is my 10 year high school reunion that is in 2 months.0
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I understand...I was doing great until my lying, cheating husband left me a month ago. I am trying to get back on the wagon. So far though all I do is eat, eat, eat. Like gaining 12lbs in the last month eat. Here's hoping I can pull it back together for September!0
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If you're convinced you're fighting a battle you can't win, find some other battle to fight.0
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I was doing great until my lying, cheating husband left me a month ago.
Yeah, I have a hard time moderating portions when I'm celebrating a win in my life, too. And when a lying cheater walks out of my life, I always count that as a win! :drinker:
Anyway, OP, you get up determined and then later in the day you say you binge? Try getting up and fixing a huge protein meal, something like eggs. Eat that. Cook something else high in protein like a burger patty or steak or chicken. Set it aside. When you start craving crap later and want to binge, eat the protein meal instead. Should help with the cravings.0 -
I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
If you're anything like me, the "get off your *kitten*, fatty!!" way of motivating someone (as some have done above) doesn't work and it only drags me deeper into my unhappiness. I grew up in that environment and that contributed to where I am today, trying to lose way over 100 lbs (but on track for it!). So let me offer you a gentler approach...
You said something important: "I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt." What does that mean? That means the determination and motivation is still there!! That's the great part!!
I say, if you wake up with those things, then strike while the iron is hot in the morning. Get up first thing and make yourself a healthy breakfast or pack a healthy lunch. Or go walk around the block a couple times, even if it's in your pj's! I'm a strength-based kinda gal. If you can do just one change each day, that's a big step, even if the rest of your day is just the way it's always been!
I've fallen off and on and off and on the wagon so many times, I should log that as aerobic exercise in MFP!!! My first step was starting to pack my lunch for the week at work (salad fixin's, a box of cereal, a carton of low-fat milk). After about a month, I noticed my *kitten* wasn't getting stuck in the chair of my supervisor's office when I got up out of it after supervision! That helped me feel like it was working and helped motivate me to continue.
I've only been doing this for about a month or so, so I can't say I'm a seasoned veteran, but these are just my thoughts. Good luck girl! I'm rooting for you!!!0 -
Check online for a local chapter of Overeaters Anonymous and see if a support group might help. Other than that all I can think of is get rid of the all or nothing mentality. Make small changes and don't psych yourself up for a super healthy complete turnaround type thing. Eat foods you like and make changes from there and don't decide that since you had cookies or fries or whatever it is that you've completely blown it. Make your choices and stand by them, just work toward something you can maintain.0
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I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
Solution to your problem: sign up for the 4000 calories a week group - no more excuses0 -
Everyday you are given multiple opportunities to make choices in regards to your health -- you have a choice every time you put something in your mouth or make a decision to sit about instead of getting some exercise in. You have to make choices which reflect what you want -- IF you really want to lose the weight you will make the choices which are consistent with that desire. If you don't want to get your weight under control and you want to feel immediate gratification of your food choices then that is what you will choose.
A friend posted something today that said :If you really want something you find a way, if you don't you find excuses.
You have to figure it out -- but the "rant" doesn't do anything to help. Make the commitment -- then make the choices.0 -
Yup, I've been doing that for about 10 years.
It's exhausting.
It's okay to have a groan about it because it shows you what you want and how much you want it.
Set a goal and keep your mind on it. Put quotes or pictures everywhere to help you stay strong during the day. For example, wanting to be thin for an event. It has to be something concrete and worth fighting for. Think about how you'll feel or how the event will go if you're thin vs how you are now. You'd much rather be the thinner you, right? That's what I'm doing.
Only have fresh, healthy, nutritious food in your house. If it's not there, you can't eat it. Many times Ive wanted to eat packets of chips, but there's none for me to eat so I have to cook a healthy meal because that's all there is.
However, allow a day where you can eat (small portions) of those 'unhealthy' foods you love. A day a week or once every 2 weeks. But don't go crazy! Moderation!
Make exercise fun so you don't dread it and it's harder to find excuses because it's something you want to do. I love to go walking just so I can get outta the house or avoid studying (oops :P)
But nothing will change unless you do something.0 -
I think we can all relate to this...erm....ALERT. ;-) Something no one has mentioned here is asking you what your "diet" plan/lifestyle is? Maybe it's too strict and that is why you keep "failing". Are you trying to adhere to 1200 calories a day? Are you trying to workout 6 days a week? That isn't necessary for weight loss. What are your goals? What is your routine?0
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stop eating so much
Well aren't you empathetic and helpful? The person said she is having trouble controlling her binging,and you tell her to stop eating so much. How cruel!0 -
I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
Could you be depressed? Depression kills the motivation to do all sorts of things, even take care of yourself. Not to say that it's an excuse to ride on the rest of your life, but sometimes you have to get to the root and take care of your head first. Getting yourself in the right frame of mind is the first step to taking on getting healthy, I think so anyway. Once you have your mind on track and start getting your body in gear, you will feel better mentally and so on. It will turn into a positive cycle, rather than a vicious downward one... anyway, hope this helps and good luck
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I feel like a failure.
I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.
I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.
find out what is the food that is fueling your addiction. Then dont eat those foods. If you eat enough nutritious food that meets your body's needs, that will help. These would be fruits and vegetables and grains.
find out what that food is doing - is it making you feel loved? are you feeling stressed and then you eat? find out what that comfort food is doing to you and then find another way to meet that.
dont use food as anything but nutrition..
Now, you should have an enjoyable way of eating every day for life. Find foods that are healthy that are good for you and taste good. it might actually be fun to learn to cook some really good recipes that are intersting and when you do that, you will want to find more.. for example, look at the website Yummly who has delicious pictures of healthy food that are good for you and wont freak you out.
If your current way of eating makes you feel deprived, like your in jail coz you cant eat fattening food, then your diet is the problem. for you to be able to stay on it for life, it has to be doable. the worst things is to restrict and deny yourself (yes on a healthy way of eating you wont choose to eat everything you want, but its how you think about it that makes a difference.
yesterday is gone, today is a new day, just start up again, dust yourself off, dont surround yourself with food that screws you up, and begin again.0 -
Obviously, you need to make better choices. But nobody needs to tell you that. What you need help with is understanding why you are making the wrong choices even though you know that they are wrong. The first problem that many people have is that being overweight and out of shape contributes to a general sense of lethargy and exhaustion. If you don't get enough sleep or enough liquids, you may be sleep and/or dehydrated. People who aren't well-rested tend to be crankier and tend to eat more. Start tonight with a clean slate. Eat a healthy dinner, stay away from caffeine and go to bed early. That will make it easier for you to make the right choices tomorrow. You also need to plan your meals ahead of time and make sure that your fridge and pantry don't contain any foods that you shouldn't be eating. Stock up on healthy foods. When you go to the grocery store, try to stick to outer edge, which is where you'll find the fresh produce, fresh meat and dairy products.0
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So many douche bags on this site trolling around message
Boards looking for the opportunity to make sarcastic, a**hole remarks that in NO
Way are motivating or beneficial to anyone ...just to look like a douche. Smh.....0
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