*MAJOR RANT ALLERT*

JavaDream

There are no mistakes. Give permission to eat everything and anything you want. Then start over again from there. Listen to the talk inside your head. Speak kindly to yourself. Then start again from there.

Dieting is not about food, it's about the inner dialog within our heads. Are you speaking to a beloved soul? Are you as kind to yourself as you are to a complete stranger?

There are no mistakes. Begin again by listening to the conversation you are having inside your head. Speak kindly. Then start again from there.

spiritgurl

Start from the beginning again...you did it before so you can do it again! Make small changes for the first week and gradually increase your changes/activities each week. You're not going to change this overnight so accept that and don't let the guilt take control of you. Move on from the binges and focus on the positives.

Think ahead to the changes you want for yourself and set some goals. This will keep you on track and you will see change and progress. Once the progress starts it will fuel you to keep going. I know you have it in you...reach deep, focus on your goal and do this for you!! You got this!!

redheaddee

You are not a failure.

That being said, set smaller goals and stick to them. It took years to get into bad shape, it takes a while to get into good shape.

Make small changes. Get up 30 minutes earlier in the morning and go for a walk. Pack your lunch the night before so you don't eat out at work. Small goals = more successes, and those successes become self-reinforcing, positive behaviors. Soon, you will want to workout more, eat better, because you will be seeing successes. It takes time. If you allow yourself to wallow, than you will continue to fail.

cindyb1984

I was doing great until my lying, cheating husband left me a month ago.

Yeah, I have a hard time moderating portions when I'm celebrating a win in my life, too. And when a lying cheater walks out of my life, I always count that as a win! :drinker:

Anyway, OP, you get up determined and then later in the day you say you binge? Try getting up and fixing a huge protein meal, something like eggs. Eat that. Cook something else high in protein like a burger patty or steak or chicken. Set it aside. When you start craving crap later and want to binge, eat the protein meal instead. Should help with the cravings.

Thank you. I know I am better off now. That doesn't mean it doesn't bother me that my 7 year relationship just ended because my husband left me for another woman. Excuse me for not breaking out in a celebration dance.

Benefitss

I have done the same thing. I lost almost 70 pounds and managed to pack back on 50. Now I am getting married in December and really need to get back to where I was. Once you fall off the wagon, it is hard. You must start logging your intake and stay on this site for support to keep you motivated! After a couple of food logs and browsing the site you should become more motivated.

Soulpaint

So many douche bags on this site trolling around message
Boards looking for the opportunity to make sarcastic, a**hole remarks that in NO
Way are motivating or beneficial to anyone ...just to look like a douche. Smh.....

QFT!!

OP you CAN do this. Make the first step to change...not tomorrow, not at your next meal....NOW. And then take the next one and the next. Pretty soon you'll develop new healthy habits and this period in your life will be a distant (sad) memory. It CAN be overcome. Do a little research....make a plan....take the first step of that plan. You WILL be successful.

bob_day

I feel like a failure.

I fell off the wagon a few months ago, and I simply cant get up from that time. All I do is binge. Day by day. I just cant stop.
I wake up with determination and motivation to kick some butt, then its like fading away during the day.
I never was that person, who quit. I never was that one who thought that something in its life could control me more than I do. Sadly, now I think I am one of those people.
I dont know what to do anymore, I think I need help.

I am sorry for the negativity of this post, I just dont know what to do anymore.

I think you may need to look way beyond your diet for the
source of your problems. Figure out what's causing you to be
depressed or stressed out. If your job is too stressful or is
totally unfulfilling and boring, find a different kind of job, or
embark on a completely new kind of career. If your environment
is too hectic or too depressing, move to a more peaceful or
nicer place. Perhaps find a therapist who can make practical
suggestions on how to change your life (definitely *not* a
therapist who just messes with your mind or only wants you
to take drugs).

When you have figured out what to do to change your life,
then come back here and ask again, and I'll give you my
diet recommendations.

prairiewalker

"Pity parties" are so easy to have... without any planning whatsoever..they just pop up... so give yourself a new mantra.. "I want this!" ...because until you convince yourself that you really want this..it'll never happen...you've got to really want this.. and "this" is different for everybody so specifically clarify what it is you want so you can set your actions appropriately :flowerforyou:

salladeve

I had an off day last week were I just didn't log and ate what was available (buffet at family gathering), and I'm still paying for it. After almost 4 months of steady losing and staying within my calorie goals every single day, I blew it one day. It is depressing and it does get you down, but I realize that this is my fault. Was that one day worth the way I have felt (emotionally) all week because I didn't lose, and was actually up this week? NO it wasn't worth it! But I was tired, and emotionally drained and just didn't want to think about it for one day.

So no matter how I'm feeling, I'm back on track and making sure that my calories are within my limits. Mentally I'm fed up with counting calories, but I'm doing it anyway. My emotional feelings are, why bother, but I'm doing it anyway.

My point is just do it, whether you want to or not, no matter how you "feel", emotionally or mentally, just do it. It really is all about how bad you want it, and whether or not you are willing to do what it takes. If you're not, then take a break and come back to it when you are able to stick to your commitment.

MinimizingMichelle

And your problem is.....................?

My obsesity is my problem, haha

We all have that problem my dear. But what is your rant about, I find it difficult to understand why anyone would rant about their own preference to stay fat and not do anything about what they say they want to do. It's illogical Captain.

Frankly, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your fat *kitten* and DO SOMETHING!! The solution lies with you, no-one on this forum, not even me, can motivate you. Sure we can help, but the basic motivation has to come from you. If you're not ready for that yet, I suggest you take a break and come back when you can face up to it.

Wow. Good thing there is tremendously helpful people like you here.