LESS Alcohol ~ AUGUST 2023 ~ One Day at A Time

MissMay
MissMay Posts: 3,737 Member
in Motivation and Support
Do you want to drink LESS?

Then join us in drinking LESS (whatever that means for you) as we continue to support and learn from each other.

■ LESS ALCOHOL RESOURCE & GENERAL INFORMATION LIST ■

USING THIS THREAD:
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•Join us at any time.
•Set your own goal - this thread is about drinking less and you decide what that means to you.
•There are no scheduled check-ins - post as often or as little as you want or need.
•AF is an acronym for Alcohol Free. For others commonly used on this site see - https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1069278/acronyms-and-terms-for-new-mfp-members-v-6/p1
•To follow this thread easily, bookmark it by clicking on the star at the top right of this thread.
•Remember that we are here for you and care about you. Check in with us when you have time and let us know what you need!

TIPS & OBSERVATIONS FROM OUR USERS:
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•Getting Started or Starting Over.
•Some people find it easier to set small attainable goals at the beginning to help boost confidence.
•If you have been drinking daily the first days will be some of the hardest and drinking again will feel like a cure but it delays the relief that only time can provide.
•There will always be a reason to delay the start/restart of your journey.
•For those ready to commit to being alcohol-free permanently, the videos on YouTube by Craig Beck will help. He also has a program you can join.
•You may experience mood swings and anxiety during your first two weeks. It is suggested you try and focus on the benefits of your goal.
•Cravings are said to last only 6 minutes, so find something to distract you like arming yourself with alternatives: tea, mock-tails, activities, etc.
•You may find that filling the time you drink with other activities like exercise or hobbies can be a helpful distraction.
•If you find them tempting try and avoid events/outings that will have drinking for a time.
•Don't let pride or shame keep you from asking for the help you need.
•Sometimes talking it out or posting your thoughts/feelings/struggles may help you work things out for yourself.
•It is okay that you don't always have all the answers.
•Some days will be easier than others.
•You may have initial/increased sugar cravings.
•You should never take a day that you have lived up to your goals for granted.
•Celebrate the smaller victories too. Less alcohol is still less alcohol even if your goal was zero at that moment.
•Once you begin sticking to your goals for one day to many days you should believe you are capable of the same and more because you are.
•Failure is not giving in and drinking. Failure is to stop trying to accomplish your goals.
•Annie Grace (This Naked Mind author) has a free program on her website (https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/) called the 30 day experiment which can be joined anonymously.

Life with Less Alcohol:
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•It can be helpful to educate yourself with books and web research (Some suggested books and links listed below).
•There is no benefit to comparing yourself to others because this is a personal journey.
•You may often feel conflicted. You will know that there are numerous real benefits to sticking to your goal while at the same time think that alcohol is an important part of stress relief, relaxation, celebration, etc.
•You may feel punished by not drinking or drinking less but that feeling usually fades with time.
•Sometimes drinking less or quitting will strain friendships that centered around alcohol.
•Having a list of reasons to stick to your goals handy for yourself can be helpful. Some lists have included remembering how bad it feels to have a hangover, excess/unwanted calories, having a racing heart during the night, sleeplessness, anxiety, and depression.
•It is a good idea to have a plan for how you might deal with various tempting scenarios before engaging in a social situation.
•Self-Reflection is an important part of the journey. Once we figure out why we drink we can hopefully use that information to form new habits and make better and more mindful decisions.
•Sometimes doing something nice for yourself like a little reward for a success makes the journey easier.
•You will see many helpful suggestions and ideas that work for some people. However, finding what tactics work for you may involve some trial and error.
•It is not uncommon for certain activities that were once combined with alcohol to trigger temptation. Many have said that outdoor activities in warmer weather made alcohol very tempting.
•Many that have spent time with no alcohol after drinking again realized that it doesn't enhance experiences like they once believed it did. Some have said they no longer like the taste.
•Don't forget how sticking to your goal has made your life better and remember it to motivate you again if you fall off your path.
•If you begin drinking daily again whether planned like a vacation or unplanned you may once again face a struggle to get it under control.
•For some people it is easier to not drink than it is to moderate drinking. Others have found moderating impossible.

Reported Benefits of Less or No Drinking: (Results may be incremental, and/or they may vary)
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•Improved sleep after 2,4,7,10,& 60 days
•Improved skin/complexion after 10 days
•Improved ease in weight loss. Not only from the savings of alcohol calories but some report making poor food choices after drinking.
•Increased energy after as few as 2 days
•Increase in other fun activities. Some have found that daily drinking became their main recreational activity and their world was decreased in size.
•Increased productivity
•Reduction of high blood pressure
•Lower resting heart rate
•Less Acid Re-flux
•Significant financial savings
•More creativity
•More productivity
•Better relationships with family

When Alcohol Is Used for Avoidance:
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•We drink to ease the stress of the working day, to avoid it.
•We drink to avoid anxiety in social situations.
•We drink to avoid making decisions about not drinking.
•The Takeaway on Avoidance, our problems don't go away if we avoid them. We need to learn to face them.
•Having a clear head makes our problems seem much smaller.
•Having a clear head makes problems easier to solve.

How to Be Kind to "Tomorrow You":
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•Instead of lumbering with guilt, headaches, and poor nutrition hangovers in the morning, Think of think how nice it would be not to feel that way tomorrow.
•Worry about "me" and don't let "tomorrow Me" feel awful.
•Instead of thinking alcohol is something nice to have *now*, think of *NOT drinking* as something nice we can do for the person we are when we awaken in the morning.
•Do you bank calories for a festive occasion? (Handy tactic) We can bank a good mood for when we wake up.
•We need to have sympathy for "Tomorrow You" and be kind to her/him.
•Don't look at a day without alcohol as a punishment for being bad or having no willpower.
•Not drinking is a lovely, sympathetic gesture towards the person we are now, and whom we will wake up as.
•You’d be kind to a stranger. Be kind to "Tomorrow You".

LINKS:
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•General Information/Blog Sites:
https://thesoberschool.com/
https://joinclubsoda.co.uk/
https://thisnakedmind.com/blog/
https://alcoholmastery.com/blog/

•Sobriety Blog:
http://mummywasasecretdrinker.blogspot.com/

•The Thirty Day Experiment:
https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/

•Ten Things That Helped Me Quit Booze:
https://unpickledblog.com/2017/01/04/replacement-behaviours-ten-things-that-helped-me-kick-booze/?wref=tp

•The Neuroscience Behind How We Make Decisions:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201505/the-neuroscience-making-decision

•Summary of Book on Addiction:
https://drgabormate.com/book/in-the-realm-of-hungry-ghosts/

•Article on the Difference Between Being an Alcoholic and Really Liking to Drink:
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink

•To the Mom questioning her drinking habits:
http://www.scarymommy.com/questioning-drinking-habits/

•Guided Meditations:
http://marc.ucla.edu/mindful-meditations

ALTERNATIVE DRINKS:
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•Overnight Cold Brew Iced Tea:
https://www.splendidtable.org/story/you-can-cold-brew-iced-tea-while-you-sleep

•Mocktail Recipes:
https://www.allrecipes.com/recipes/1822/drinks/mocktails/
https://www.foodandwine.com/cocktails-spirits/mocktails
https://www.townandcountrymag.com/leisure/drinks/how-to/g785/best-mocktail-recipes/

APPS:
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•Daybreak iOS link. A Deakin University study of hundreds of health apps found that Daybreak is one of only four that have proven effective and provide quality assistance.
•Dry Days by AlcoChange iOS is for those who want to cut down or cut out the booze throughout the year, while seeing the impact it has on your health and wallet.
•nomo - Sobriety Clocks iOS - In addition to an alcohol clock and monetary savings this app lets you check in and do a sobriety exercise if you're tempted and connect with accountability partners.
•Sobriety Counter - Stop Drinking (Sobriety Counter - EasyQuit pro version) Android- Provides health stats, money saved, games to distract you, motivational tips, and several other features

BOOKS:
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•Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol
by Holly Whitaker
•The Naked Mind by Annie Grace
•Alcohol Lied to Me by Craig Beck
•Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpey
•The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray
•The Liars Club, Cherry, and Lit by Mary Karr (3 different publications)
•Kick the Drink...Easily by Jason Vale
•Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp
•Being Sober: A Step-by-Step Guide to Getting To, Getting Through, and Living in Recovery by Harry Haroutunian
•The Easy, Illustrated Way to Quit Drinking by Alan Carr
•Alcohol Explained by William Porter


Credit and thanks to the MFP Less Alcohol One Day at a Time participants
For their willingness to share their insights and resourcefulness in finding this information
~Established 2017~
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Replies

  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,755 Member
    Thanks for setting up August @MissMay !!!!!

    Less. Just…. Less.
  • Michieb125
    Michieb125 Posts: 765 Member
    Thanks @MissMay for the new thread!

    Less is more they say…..I’m ready (I think)!

    I have a big vacation coming mid-month so in order to set myself up for success I will be relaxing my total goal ever so slightly.

    August goals: 19-21 AF days
  • tmbg1
    tmbg1 Posts: 1,433 Member
    1- AF
  • Michieb125
    Michieb125 Posts: 765 Member
    @RockinRobyn672 so sorry for your loss of
    a very special mother in law. I know this group is here to support you.

    It was great to read the last posts of July and new initial posts here - such a variety of goals listed for August. Here we go!

    I joined this thread in Feb 2023 and try to check in several times a week for my own accountability and to learn from everyone else. I do LA for so many reasons but a healthier lifestyle (sleep, energy) with good habits is #1 and of course weight loss.

    AF - 1
    A - 0
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,755 Member
    edited August 2023
    DH and I got to sail yesterday, and it was the PERFECT sailing day! Nice brisk wind, it was awesome.

    Had a glass of wine with dinner last night at the marina- dining out on the restaurant deck, overlooking the River. Sounds delightful, right? Ugh, they served it in a plastic drink cup! Like what you’d serve soda in. Had I known I would have ordered something else. The glass really does matter! Every dockside marina serves their food in those plastic to go clamshells and plastic cups. Must be a town ordinance or something against glass. Give me a real dish, people!!

    I got to speak with DS1 last night. He comes home Saturday from his 8 week-long Army officer training. I cannot wait to see him! Then he moves out a week later. *snif*. I’m happy for him but it isn’t the same without him around.
  • sarah7591
    sarah7591 Posts: 415 Member
    Womona wrote: »
    DH and I got to sail yesterday, and it was the PERFECT sailing day! Nice brisk wind, it was awesome.

    Had a glass of wine with dinner last night at the marina- dining out on the restaurant deck, overlooking the River. Sounds delightful, right? Ugh, they served it in a plastic drink cup! Like what you’d serve soda in. Had I known I would have ordered something else. The glass really does matter! Every dockside marina serves their food in those plastic to go clamshells and plastic cups. Must be a town ordinance or something against glass. Give me a real dish, people!!

    I got to speak with DS1 last night. He comes home Saturday from his 8 week-long Army officer training. I cannot wait to see him! Then he moves out a week later. *snif*. I’m happy for him but it isn’t the same without him around.

    Oh I am so with you on the plastic cup!!! I hate, hate, hate drinking wine from a plastic cup! I think it does have something to do with outdoor dining. I won't drink wine out of plastic. So bad for the environment as well.
  • RockinRobyn672
    RockinRobyn672 Posts: 907 Member
    forestdweller1 wrote: »
    @MissMay 👏 😻
    This is the month that I climb out of my rut, leaving behind the bad habits. Now where did I leave that ladder ??
    @forestdweller1 Me too!
  • Michieb125
    Michieb125 Posts: 765 Member
    Welcome newcomers! This long established thread is full of caring and supportive people, glad you are here.

    August goals=continue summer exercise plan, go on vacation and maintain weight, or lose a pound by Labor Day. Just no gain!

    August LESS alcohol goals=wine 2 x a week has been working for me for awhile. So, keep it up and choose lower A content (7-11%) occasionally and keep to 2 glass limit.

    Totals:
    AF Days - 1 out of 1
    A - 0
  • tmbg1
    tmbg1 Posts: 1,433 Member
    2- AF so far
  • RockinRobyn672
    RockinRobyn672 Posts: 907 Member
    edited August 2023
    Hi All! Robyn here in VA Beach. I am drinking less for overall health and weight loss. I usually post the next morning. My LA goals for August are no more than 4 drinks (5 max) in a week, no more than 2 in a day and at least 16 AF Days.

    Tue 8/1: AF
    Wed 8/2: Drinks (2) - Perfect weather so we rode bikes to the boardwalk after dinner, listened to a great band (where I broke from my plan an ordered an Orange Crush), then hung out on the pier until 11 p.m. watching folks catch fish. It was a late but very fun night out. I had a beer once we were back at home. I stuck to my no-more-than-2-drinks goal but AF was the original plan for the day. Then later, I fell into old habits - stayed up until 1:30 watching TV and late-night snacking. ... Thu 8/3: It was hard to get out of bed his morning! :tongue: Goals for today are 1 drink, since I had a beer on Monday (7/31), and no late night snacking.

    Rolling Total: 1 AF Day out of 2
  • forestdweller1
    forestdweller1 Posts: 412 Member
    @sarah7591 @Womona ....Just a comment on plastic cups for wine on the dockside...I figured that was because patrons in that arena were a bit more relaxed and exuberant, and *kitten* happens when you're cracking crabs. I would smuggle in a well wrapped wine glass and immediately pour my beverage into MY glass. The servers never seemed to notice.
    Broken plastic injures fewer patrons than broken glass, so I see the restaurant's POV.
  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 3,053 Member
    edited August 2023
    @RockinRobyn672 Mancation :D Good on ya for keeping it to 2 with multiple destinations on a date night. I'd put that in the "W" column.
    @womona YAAAS on the plastic cups. I've gotten snobby in my old age or something, but I enjoy is so much less in plastic, it's almost not worth the calories to me. So happy you got the perfect sail day. August is the one month my club stops sailing. No wind and HOT. We do race all the way through winter, though, and it can be blustery but it can also be nice.
    @xbowhunter Happy anniversary and congrats on 34 years!
    @MissMay Lol at the all inclusive dinner. At least it isn't the whole 2.5 weeks! I couldn't tell if your dismay was DH or self oriented (I suspect DH). I have long since resigned myself to the fact that all-you-can-eats/drinks are never "a good deal" for me. Ever. So why try to "get my money's worth"? It won't happen so I let it go and enjoy being the size I am.

    AF M-Th so far this week. After toying with the idea of adding Sunday's to weeknight abstinence, but never actually deciding to do it, I have decided to give it a go in August since I won't be shaking up margaritas for DH while we have the smoker going. [ETA DH is doing AF August, which is my impetus]

    Aug goal:
    Su-Th AF
    F&Sa half strength drinks (spritz's, frescas, and LA wine) [not tempting to DH]
  • forestdweller1
    forestdweller1 Posts: 412 Member
    @itladyee ...am currently stuck near top of ladder, but you are welcome to my climbing gear .... 🧗‍♂️

    Oven roasted veggies [zuchinni-onion-tomato-mini sweet peppers] and fish with AF beer.

    @MissMay ...went on a memorable cruise with all 3 daughters and now-ex drunk SIL...wine, beer, mixed drinks all included. Four of us kept to one drink a night, and one of us kept to drink all night. He's a happy drunk, hanging off the balcony, singing to the fishes at midnight.
    Hoping only the luau is "all-inclusive"

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