Have to make changes

vedra_b

I am the heaviest I have ever been gaining 20 pounds in the last year. My adult son had been in and out of the hospital (in critical care more times than I can count) since Christmas of last year. I was either sitting at his bedside or sitting at my desk at work. My body hurts all the time I am tired. we also had a flood in our home and had to move out for remodel 2 years ago and are just getting back into the house. It has been hell for 2 years. things are settling down but I just do not know how to get motivated. When do you get to a point when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.... Today I did walk/job to the end of the block and back.. What keeps you motivated?

MacLowCarbing

Hi; sorry about your son, and the flood. That kind of upheaval/disruption can drive you crazy, I know how it can lead to putting things like taking care of yourself on the back burner. When you get a rest, you don't want to exercise. When you gotta eat, you want the fastest/easiest thing you can grab that is satisfying. And then by not taking care of yourself it makes it even harder to get through-- such a vicious cycle.

Unfortunately for me when I was going through the meat grinder, I was not motivated and didn't take care of myself.

I'm at an age now where it's either do or die (literally). Wanting to enjoy life again and feel good again keeps me motivated.

loulee997

vedra_b wrote: »

I am the heaviest I have ever been gaining 20 pounds in the last year. My adult son had been in and out of the hospital (in critical care more times than I can count) since Christmas of last year. I was either sitting at his bedside or sitting at my desk at work. My body hurts all the time I am tired. we also had a flood in our home and had to move out for remodel 2 years ago and are just getting back into the house. It has been hell for 2 years. things are settling down but I just do not know how to get motivated. When do you get to a point when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.... Today I did walk/job to the end of the block and back.. What keeps you motivated?

I just came out of a dark couple of years.

Before you do anything, be kind to yourself. You've had a lot of stress in a short period of time.

For motivation, start with rest. Catch up on your sleep. It's hard to do new things or hard things when you are exhausted.


Then, I'd start with lite exercise. You did a short walk today. That's a great start. But you can clean the house, or mow the lawn. It doesn't have to be anything big. You burn a lot of calories cleaning windows as well as the gym.

Is there something you really enjoy doing? Painting, hiking, swimming, book club, boxing--whatever it is that gives you joy? Give yourself something to look forward to. When you are coming out of a dark time in your life, it is sometimes hard to 'be excited' about something. I've recently booked a $50 round-trip flight on Frontier out to Dallas to see my brother. I'll fly out, see him for a few days, and just unplug. That is something I'm looking forward to. It can be something small. It makes the hard days easier.

The last thing that works for me--most of the time--I try to treat each day as day 1 (or do over). If I had a great day, I enjoy it. If I had a bad day, I try to see where it went sideways. Either way, the next day it's a brand new day. Good or bad, I have a brand new start. I try not to let my bad days become bad weeks or bad months.


For most people, being open that you are making changes to your friends. It's easier if you have people you can talk to. Support from friends helps me. Although sometimes you have to get new friends.

Take care of yourself with little things---enjoy a nice cup of coffee or tea, buy a nice lotion, and massage your skin, or give your hair a quick trim. Sometimes you can make the outside look better and it helps the inside feel better.

I hope everything is going well. Be kind to yourself.

Weight loss is important, but it's okay to clean your mental house first. Rest, relax, recharge. Go forward.

deejoan

vedra_b wrote: »

I am the heaviest I have ever been gaining 20 pounds in the last year. My adult son had been in and out of the hospital (in critical care more times than I can count) since Christmas of last year. I was either sitting at his bedside or sitting at my desk at work. My body hurts all the time I am tired. we also had a flood in our home and had to move out for remodel 2 years ago and are just getting back into the house. It has been hell for 2 years. things are settling down but I just do not know how to get motivated. When do you get to a point when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.... Today I did walk/job to the end of the block and back.. What keeps you motivated?

I have found in the last six months that strictly tracking my food keeps me motivated. I have made it a challenge to myself to stick to my 1250 calorie allotment per day. I track everything and try to look at what I am going to eat in a day earlier in the day so I can adjust portions at breakfast, lunch, etc., if I am making a bigger dinner meal. I just keep playing with the portions (calories) so I don't go over my daily allotment. If I make it a game (or challenge) with myself, it has helped somewhat. I lost 20 pounds in five months, which is slow but that's okay. I find doing it slow really helps me not put the weight back on. Good Luck!

Clarissia_Nicole

I am right there with you! I have been trying - I bought a walking pad because it’s so easy to just jump on it while scrolling or watching TV. There’s really no excuses and they’re pretty affordable. I am also trying some supplements like Metamucil.

vedra_b

Thank you all for your comments. We are not out of the woods with my son, I am preparing myself for the worst and praying for the best. I have kept up my short walks all week, I ate like crap yesterday but less like crap then I would have. Instead of the bowl of candy I would have chowed down, I ate some sliders. Instead of the soda/punch I drank water. I am trying to praise the small things and not place myself where I give up because well I am over anyway. Today I said well that I could have done better but I could have done a lot worse. I got up anyway took my walk and am eating my overnight oats. TODAY is another day! Thank you for your support.

evileyefirefly

Well for me my catalyst was the sudden passing of my Grandmother who raised me. Definitely made me question a lot of things in my life and what was worth continuing. While anything can happen it changed my outlook and priorities in life a little bit. I set goals based on some other events in life that are coming up (Kids graduations from HS next couple years.) It definitely helps me keep motivated to just change things to be healthier overall.

vedra_b

MacLowCarbing wrote: »

Hi; sorry about your son, and the flood. That kind of upheaval/disruption can drive you crazy, I know how it can lead to putting things like taking care of yourself on the back burner. When you get a rest, you don't want to exercise. When you gotta eat, you want the fastest/easiest thing you can grab that is satisfying. And then by not taking care of yourself it makes it even harder to get through-- such a vicious cycle.

Unfortunately for me when I was going through the meat grinder, I was not motivated and didn't take care of myself.

I'm at an age now where it's either do or die (literally). Wanting to enjoy life again and feel good again keeps me motivated.

Thank you for reminding I am not alone. I am exactly there with you this last month of feeling good has kept me so motivated. I feel good so I eat good and I want to get out and do things.