Any suggestions?

Mafutalabda

I have been at this for 5-7 months and now weight more than when I began. I eat well, move nearly everyday and drink tons of water. I am told I don’t eat during the day and too much after 7pm, so I have altered that as much as I am able, but I get so depressed and lonely at night it’s hard not to have a snack. Every single day I log absolutely everything I eat and MFP tells me in 5 weeks I will be down at least 10 pounds, but it never happens. I am so ready to give up. I’m all alone in this and need some input. I will take any and all suggestions.

sollyn23l2

Unfortunately, for many of us, weight loss is an endeaver we must undertake on our own, as it is our body and only we can make those choices and motivate ourselves. I hope you can come to understand that food cannot and will not truly help with your loneliness or depression, as we don't have relationships with food, we have relationships with people. Food is a coping mechanism, not a relationship or cure. I strongly recommend you find some more beneficial coping mechanisms such as breathing, reading, finding a new hobby or rediscovering an old one. I know it's easier said than done. But remember, this is a lifelong endeavor, not just a "until I lose x amount" endeavor. So time is on your side.

kshama2001

Mafutalabda wrote: »

I have been at this for 5-7 months and now weight more than when I began. I eat well, move nearly everyday and drink tons of water. I am told I don’t eat during the day and too much after 7pm, so I have altered that as much as I am able, but I get so depressed and lonely at night it’s hard not to have a snack. Every single day I log absolutely everything I eat and MFP tells me in 5 weeks I will be down at least 10 pounds, but it never happens. I am so ready to give up. I’m all alone in this and need some input. I will take any and all suggestions.

How about you schedule something to do at night?

• Go to the gym
• Join a book club
• Volunteer at a hospital
• Practice yoga
• Learn Tai Chi
• Learn new recipes you cook from scratch and clean up by hand rather than using a dishwasher
• Learn to knit, crochet, paint by numbers, adult coloring books
• Check out this self-care thread: https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10888629/what-wellness-type-things-do-you-do/p1

If you schedule for a few nights a week you may start looking forward to your off nights

Also, as someone with clinical depression, I am completely aware that with depression self care can be very difficult. I take an anti-depressant and am in therapy. I rely on creating habits rather than motivation.

I get that depression and loneliness is a factor, but it might also help things if you eat more during the day. Especially make sure you are on track to hit your protein and fiber goals.

You can't both be eating "too much" after 7 PM and getting a notice that you will weigh 10 pounds less in 5 weeks. That "10 pounds less" message means you've created a calorie deficit equal to two pounds a week, yet you've gained weight, indicating, something is very off in your logging.

There are mistakes that people commonly make that cause them to not lose weight that we might be able to spot if you change your Diary Sharing settings to Public. In the app, go to Settings > Diary Setting > Diary Sharing > and check Public. Desktop: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/account/diary_settings