Dewey Decimals & Diets: A Librarian's Guide to Weight Loss in Marriage

craftysloth85

Alright. Secret's out. I don't actually have a guide to weight loss in marriage. I was hoping you might be able to provide that part in exchange for a good book recommendation.

In all seriousness, I'm back to MFP after a long absence. I had a really horrific vacation with a family member who felt the need to make passive comments on my weight, food, or lifestyle at every opportunity and I returned home feeling really low about myself. I know I shouldn't take this person's behavior to heart given how toxic it was..

However, I feel like the most empowering thing that I can do for myself is turn it into something positive. I want to start making more positive, mindful, and confident choices in my meals and shed the pounds that have been causing me so much grief. My immediate goal is to lose around 40 lbs to get down to 200 lbs, but I'm not in a rush to do it.

I want to enjoy making new, healthy recipes and celebrate this as a positive journey - and one that might just be born out of a little bit of spite.

Add me as a friend if you a.) love books and revenge diets or b.) just want someone to encourage you on your own journey.

Open to all walks of life.

miata08

Hi! First off, trying to lose weight in a marriage when the spouse is either not on board with you or isn't very supportive is difficult, but it can be done! For me, I had to find a motivation BIG enough to get there! Mine was planning an 8 day cruise, which was 11 months away when I started, which I want to not only have more energy but look and feel better about myself! I am in my 50's so it has been way harder now to lose inches than when I was younger! I have to be so much more careful not to hurt something on my body when working out! LOL But really is true. I've been lucky my husband is supportive and has also finally gotten on board with trying to lose inches as well! But before he did, I would just do for me what I needed to! Just figured out the exercise times and food I needed.
So for the family member being mean... They have the problem I have seen in my own family, judging others how they look. They are showing their true selves and it's not pretty!! We can lose weight/inches, but they just stay ugly on the inside and judgemental of others! Shame on them! I just see it as they have to put others down to make themselves feel better.
As far as books, I do like to read and I did a lot of it years ago, but now with my older eyes it's kind of challenging for me.
There is so much more I could say but I think each one of us have to find our way and mine is just motivation to feel and yes look better but motivation is my key! I had to find something that really motivated me, a reason to shoot for my goals and then maintain it. I have tried in the past with MFP to lose weight and I was successful but I usually gave up because I don't think I had the right motivation reason! I make smaller attainable goals for myself as 1 lb a week is the way I do it with maybe a 2-month goal at a time. I do have a final goal I want to reach but if you set shorter goals and you reach them it just helps, at least in my opinion it helps me. Because I feel like a failure if I try and watch my weight every day because our weight fluctuates there's nothing that we can do about it, I've done research on the best way to accomplish my goal. We are all different so just do research and figure it out for you and sometimes you have to try different things, so make little changes at a time so you can see what works for you. Hang in there you can do this!!