I am beggin, help me lose weight.

JoRocka

If you are going to face your pre-diabetic situation on your own, I hope you are getting educated about what to do.

To stablize your blood sugar and lower your glucose spikes which leads to having a better A1C, you have to stop carb loading. Your pancreas needs a rest. Watch your macros carefully and lower your carb ratio until you get your blood sugar under control.

If you have to eat more of something because you're feeling very hungry, you need to choose a non-carb.

Don't drink juice (unless you are hypo). <-- unless you are on medication, this will not happen, so forget the juice, you don't need it.

Eat fruit instead, but not too much fruit. Fruits are carbs.

Eat more vegetables and proteins. <-- not carbs, these are your friends

Potatos = carbs, peas = carbs, corn = carbs, even beans have lots of carbs, so be careful.

When you choose carbs, choose high fiber carbs, this can help lower blood sugar spikes when you eat carbs. Try to get at least 25 grams of fiber per day, more when you can, and drink a lot of water.

I still think you're a whiner, but I don't wish ill on you and you have to learn how to manage your disease. I was kinda disgusted when you said even being pre-diabetic wasn't enough to scare you into losing weight. wtf will it take? I dunno.

Maybe when you have to start injecting insulin? How are you going to keep that a secret? Do you not check your blood sugar? How do you hide the test strips, sharps container, and lancets? Or do you just tell yourself that if you don't monitor your blood sugar it must be okay?

I also think you're a coward for not telling your parents.

If you were living on your own, I'd say your fate was in your own hands. But, you're their dependant still, and it's wrong of you not to tell them because what they do is directly affecting your health because you have so much trouble controlling yourself.

Ya know, at first it seemed like you were saying your parents were making you fat and keeping you that way. But as your story progresses, it seems like you have probably been encouraged to eat less on several occassions, but you cannot resist certain food triggers.

You NEED them to help you. You just don't want your yummy food taken away.

I think you don't like it when you're told to 'not eat like a man' and you like your habit. And I think you know that if you tell them that you are having a health issue that requires new eating habits, while you depend on them for housing and food, that your food will get policed because they'll want to help you, and you don't want your food to be monitored by your parents.

Not telling your parents that you need dietary restructuring is allowing them to poison you and then you continue to blame them for buying yummy things that you like and making your life hard. You can't have it both ways.

Edited for: TL;DR - Tell your parents about your disease, get educated about your disease, monitor your blood sugar, and don't carb load.

Source: Diabetes runs in my family Type I & II. I have PCOS which includes insulin resistance. And I helped my mom with her blood sugar testing and hypo-events since I was a child.

excellent post.

DatMurse

This is no problem, but the food...it's just impossible. I'm one of those people that doesn't do what preaches. I KNOW how to...I just need some sort of kick or some advise...I don't know,.

Then you will stay fat to be honest.

If you dont know how to control how much you eat that is your problem. We cannot help you when this is the biggest factor of weight loss.

The moment you start caring more about the mirror and your health than whats on your plate. Get back to us, otherwise you are wasting people's time.

idontwanttobefatforever

Only you can do it. We can help with positive comments, but only you can do it. Your first step needs to be to log E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. Every. Drop.

workout_ninja

the fact is, you will either do it or you wont. We cant do it for you. If you dont, you obviously dont want it enough

neandermagnon

Hey everyone. I am 20 year old female, 5'5 , 260 lbs. I've tried and failed for 4 years. I can't control myself. I live with parents so I do not really get to chose food since my dad loves to eat like a man , and I can't handle the smell or presence of yummy food. My problem isn't really that I eat fastfood or junk food, it's more about HOW MUCH. I am sick of being the way I am, I am also prediabetic, but even that doesn't scare me into losing weight. I want to, sooo bad. But I lack self control, please, I am begging you, I am sure there are people just like me who battled through it and lost weight. Please help me.
Thank you.

what do you mean by 'eat like a man'?

That phrase makes me think its encouraged to eat huge amounts of food in your family. I have family members with unhealthy attitudes towards food too. Its all about educating yourself and recognising why you're eating so much//making bad choices//whatever the problem is.

Its all on you though. Nobody can make you lose weight. Maybe a goal to work towards would help motivate you? Like starting C25K, or a fun-run, or something?

Meaning he needs to eat real food like meat, potatoes, salad with mayo, etc. No healthy"rabbit food" or boiled chicken breast.

you can eat foods like that. Not in the same size portions as your dad but you can still eat those foods, and they are healthy. (okay mayo isn't all that nutritious but you don't have to have a huge pile of it, but you can have some)

what you need to do is find the largest number of calories you can eat while still losing weight slowly and steadily. Set MFP to lose 1lb a week and eat back exercise calories (calculate your calorie burns carefully though, if you think they're overestimates then only eat back 80% of your exercise calories). You need to be able to eat enough to enjoy your food and not feel deprived, to eat all the foods you want to eat (though some of them you'll be eating smaller portion sizes). The idea is to not feel deprived at all. When you don't feel deprived, self control is much, much easier.

this way of losing weight takes longer. But the benefits of it are 1) it's a lot more sustainable, which is essential, because you have to stick with your new eating habits for life or you will gain the weight back again. 2. it's actually more healthy. Losing weight too quickly, by eating too little, can cause quite a few problems, such as loss of lean muscle mass and bone density, and also slowing of the metabolism which goes along with lacking energy and feeling generally run down and depressed (this is because your body's saving energy, so less energy is being used for non-essential things). All these things set you up for rebound fat gain. However, taking a slow, long term approach means you're more likely to be losing pure fat, and more likely that you'll be able to keep that fat off for the rest of your life.

Exercise is important for health, i.e. strong muscles and bones, this protects you from all kinds of health problems, plus it gives you more calories to eat (i.e. eating back exercise calories) - again, look at long term sustainability and choose a form of exercise you really enjoy and will be able to stick to for life. Also, for health, focus on foods you should eat for nutrition, i.e. getting enough protein, healthy fat, carbs, vitamins, minerals, protein, fibre and water... if all those things are in your diet you can eat whatever you want with your remaining calories, provided you eat your goal number of calories. Going over your goal once in a while won't hurt... going over most days will kill your deficit (i.e. you won't lose so much weight).

Hope that helps! Keep it simple, easy and sustainable. Don't eat more than your calorie goal, but make your calorie goal your "ideal" number of calories where you're seeing slow and steady weight loss but also have enough calories to be able to enjoy all the foods you like (albeit in smaller portion sizes)

you need to focus on long term maintenance and sustainability, it's not about how fast you can lose the weight.

fbmandy55

At first, I was interested in this post but as it has progressed, OP:

-Doesn't like advice given.

-Every excuse in the book as to why things can't be done.

-Has a hot marine boyfriend she doesn't see often.

-Doesn't want to burden family by talking to them about being 'pre-diabetic'.

Yep, I am calling troll.

ThisTimeWorks

I made this post asking for help, because by myself I GIVE UP! When I have support I do NOT!

I understand and appreciate all HELPFUL posts and PEOPLE who spent their time . I received A LOT of support on here and through personal messages. I went grocery shopping for myself and all that. So as far as excuses go, there's NONE!

From this site I receive positivity and small kicks to keep going, if you have nothing POSITIVE to say, keep it to yourself, if no you can get my attention ONLY once, then I click ignore and keep going with a support of POSITIVE people.

ThisTimeWorks

At first, I was interested in this post but as it has progressed, OP:

-Doesn't like advice given.

-Every excuse in the book as to why things can't be done.

-Has a hot marine boyfriend she doesn't see often.

-Doesn't want to burden family by talking to them about being 'pre-diabetic'.

Yep, I am calling troll.

Also what does a FUTURE marine boyfriend has to do with any of this???

ThisTimeWorks

Hey everyone. I am 20 year old female, 5'5 , 260 lbs. I've tried and failed for 4 years. I can't control myself. I live with parents so I do not really get to chose food since my dad loves to eat like a man , and I can't handle the smell or presence of yummy food. My problem isn't really that I eat fastfood or junk food, it's more about HOW MUCH. I am sick of being the way I am, I am also prediabetic, but even that doesn't scare me into losing weight. I want to, sooo bad. But I lack self control, please, I am begging you, I am sure there are people just like me who battled through it and lost weight. Please help me.
Thank you.

what do you mean by 'eat like a man'?

That phrase makes me think its encouraged to eat huge amounts of food in your family. I have family members with unhealthy attitudes towards food too. Its all about educating yourself and recognising why you're eating so much//making bad choices//whatever the problem is.

Its all on you though. Nobody can make you lose weight. Maybe a goal to work towards would help motivate you? Like starting C25K, or a fun-run, or something?

Meaning he needs to eat real food like meat, potatoes, salad with mayo, etc. No healthy"rabbit food" or boiled chicken breast.

you can eat foods like that. Not in the same size portions as your dad but you can still eat those foods, and they are healthy. (okay mayo isn't all that nutritious but you don't have to have a huge pile of it, but you can have some)

what you need to do is find the largest number of calories you can eat while still losing weight slowly and steadily. Set MFP to lose 1lb a week and eat back exercise calories (calculate your calorie burns carefully though, if you think they're overestimates then only eat back 80% of your exercise calories). You need to be able to eat enough to enjoy your food and not feel deprived, to eat all the foods you want to eat (though some of them you'll be eating smaller portion sizes). The idea is to not feel deprived at all. When you don't feel deprived, self control is much, much easier.

this way of losing weight takes longer. But the benefits of it are 1) it's a lot more sustainable, which is essential, because you have to stick with your new eating habits for life or you will gain the weight back again. 2. it's actually more healthy. Losing weight too quickly, by eating too little, can cause quite a few problems, such as loss of lean muscle mass and bone density, and also slowing of the metabolism which goes along with lacking energy and feeling generally run down and depressed (this is because your body's saving energy, so less energy is being used for non-essential things). All these things set you up for rebound fat gain. However, taking a slow, long term approach means you're more likely to be losing pure fat, and more likely that you'll be able to keep that fat off for the rest of your life.

Exercise is important for health, i.e. strong muscles and bones, this protects you from all kinds of health problems, plus it gives you more calories to eat (i.e. eating back exercise calories) - again, look at long term sustainability and choose a form of exercise you really enjoy and will be able to stick to for life. Also, for health, focus on foods you should eat for nutrition, i.e. getting enough protein, healthy fat, carbs, vitamins, minerals, protein, fibre and water... if all those things are in your diet you can eat whatever you want with your remaining calories, provided you eat your goal number of calories. Going over your goal once in a while won't hurt... going over most days will kill your deficit (i.e. you won't lose so much weight).

Hope that helps! Keep it simple, easy and sustainable. Don't eat more than your calorie goal, but make your calorie goal your "ideal" number of calories where you're seeing slow and steady weight loss but also have enough calories to be able to enjoy all the foods you like (albeit in smaller portion sizes)

you need to focus on long term maintenance and sustainability, it's not about how fast you can lose the weight.

Thank you

nomorepizza2

I used to eat "like a man", look where it got me! I wish I knew when I started how easy it can be to prepare healthy filling, delicious meals. My current go to is chicken wraps. You know those bags of loose salad they sell at grocery stores? Empty that into a couple of wraps (warmed up in the pan) , throw in some microwaved chicken breast and some low cal dressing and you've got a healthy delicious dinner that takes minutes to make.

ThisTimeWorks

I used to eat "like a man", look where it got me! I wish I knew when I started how easy it can be to prepare healthy filling, delicious meals. My current go to is chicken wraps. You know those bags of loose salad they sell at grocery stores? Empty that into a couple of wraps (warmed up in the pan) , throw in some microwaved chicken breast and some low cal dressing and you've got a healthy delicious dinner that takes minutes to make.

Sounds good, thank you!
And nice weightloss! WOW!