Cooking for a boyfriend on a bulk.
lessthan60
Posts: 19
My boyfriend and I live together and I cook for him fairly often, the problem is that he's only used to his mom's cooking (Italian, quite bland and boring for the most part since she doesn't have a grand repertoire of recipes) AND he's a vegetarian.
He is underweight and has tried many things to try to bulk up, however he has not tried taking any of my advice food wise and I have been endlessly researching the topic for him. I can cook very well and am more than confident that any high-calorie recipe will not be a problem for me. Of course, the problem still remains that he is for the most part unwilling to try foods that are not what his mom would make.
How do I make him more open to trying new foods without breaking his vegetarian diet?
Also, if you would by chance anyone knows of any sort of vegan/vegetarian protein supplement, that would be really helpful!
He is underweight and has tried many things to try to bulk up, however he has not tried taking any of my advice food wise and I have been endlessly researching the topic for him. I can cook very well and am more than confident that any high-calorie recipe will not be a problem for me. Of course, the problem still remains that he is for the most part unwilling to try foods that are not what his mom would make.
How do I make him more open to trying new foods without breaking his vegetarian diet?
Also, if you would by chance anyone knows of any sort of vegan/vegetarian protein supplement, that would be really helpful!
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He must cook for himself then! What guy doesn't like a nice home cooked meal !
Seriously make him eat Ramen noodles while you enjoy a hearty meal .
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Beans are a good source of protein. Also, lots of ice cream.
Normally I would recommend bacon. Tell him he's missing out of food that makes his soul smile by being vegetarian.0 -
I couldn't do that! Plus he won't eat food from the Asian supermarket.0
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He's a grown *kitten* man- make him take care of himself.
That being said milk and ice cream are great gainers.Normally I would recommend bacon. Tell him he's missing out of food that makes his soul smile by being vegetarian.
agreed.
Bacon and beer are proof that someone somewhere wants us to be happy. NOM NOM NOM. All my veggies are sauteed in bacon renderings. DELICIOUS. Even my picky *kitten* boyfriend eats my zucchini.0 -
why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?0
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Beans are a good source of protein. Also, lots of ice cream.
Normally I would recommend bacon. Tell him he's missing out of food that makes his soul smile by being vegetarian.
He doesn't eat meat unless he hunts for it himself. Kind of pointless considering he doesn't have his hunting license.0 -
He's a vegetarian and a momma's boy. I would say get rid of him.0
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He's a vegetarian and a momma's boy. I would say get rid of him.
All Italians are momma's boys.0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.0 -
I wouldn't worry about it and I'd quit cooking for him. He's a big boy.
Or you could try some type of incentive.0 -
Let him!
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
He doesn't sound fun to cook for.0 -
Take him to a hog farm and hunt for pigs. Problem solved.Beans are a good source of protein. Also, lots of ice cream.
Normally I would recommend bacon. Tell him he's missing out of food that makes his soul smile by being vegetarian.
He doesn't eat meat unless he hunts for it himself. Kind of pointless considering he doesn't have his hunting license.0 -
Crap like this is why I will never, ever live with a boyfriend. My honest advice is move out and give him some room to learn how to take care of himself. Normally on these threads, I would say "He's a grown man. Stop trying to make him eat things he doesn't like." But your boyfriend doesn't sound like a grown man to me. And he's not going to become one if you keep doing ridiculous things like researching what to feed him.0
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Can't fight the genes you were born with. Some will be thin no matter what they do. Case in point my dad. 6 ft and 140 pounds, soaking wet. All his life.
Cook what you like and if he wants to eat it he is welcome. Other wise he can fend for himself.0 -
I don't quite agree with this, my brother was a bean pole his entire childhood. My mom had to force feed him milkshakes to keep weight on him. He is now well over 200lbs of nothing but solid muscle. Kind of looks like Thor actually. He has done this by eating at a calorie surplus and lifting heavy. Genes scmenes,Can't fight the genes you were born with. Some will be thin no matter what they do. Case in point my dad. 6 ft and 140 pounds, soaking wet. All his life.0 -
why does he have to try new foods? bulking up is about eating more food, not some wide variety of new shish. and for skinny guys that have a hard time bulking, the way to get them to eat more is for them to eat the foods they like more. no one is going to stuff their face with foods they don't like. he just has to find a way to get 3 snacks in along with larger portions of his regular meals.
and if you want this relationship to go anywhere at all, you should stop bringing his mom into every situation, *especially* if you have negative shish to say about her. There is no reason in the world i needed to hear not one, but TWO criticisms of his momma's cooking in order to give advice on this subject.0 -
Can you all please stop telling me not to cook for him? not everyone enjoys the thought of not taking care of the man you live with. Also how dare some of you say he's not a man, being a picky eater has nothing to do with manliness, nor does asking your woman to help you with gaining weight have to do with being a man or not. I am just more informed on weight loss and exercise topics than he is, it's only normal for the more experienced person to help them out.
My original question, in case you're all misunderstood, is how to make a picky eater try new foods that will help him bulk up. Of course on the realm of the internet everyone has to jump to conclusions.0 -
Add an extra tablespoon of olive oil to whatever you make. For protein use hemp seeds. You can throw them into anything - tomato sauce, salads, cookies. Here's some decent recipes for them -
http://www.hippiebutter.com/hemp-seed-video-recipes/0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
and the problem with that would be......?0 -
and if you want this relationship to go anywhere at all, you should stop bringing his mom into every situation, *especially* if you have negative shish to say about her. There is no reason in the world i needed to hear not one, but TWO criticisms of his momma's cooking in order to give advice on this subject.
I never ever criticized his mom's cooking to him personally, it's not something you say to your man.0 -
Add an extra tablespoon of olive oil to whatever you make. For protein use hemp seeds. You can throw them into anything - tomato sauce, salads, cookies. Here's some decent recipes for them -
http://www.hippiebutter.com/hemp-seed-video-recipes/
Living in Italy, we already use a TON of olive oil! the hemp seeds is a fantastic idea though, thank you!0 -
My original question, in case you're all misunderstood, is how to make a picky eater try new foods that will help him bulk up.
You can't. If he doesn't want to try it, you can't make him. If he really wants your help. he'll try what you offer. If he's not willing to try it, he doesn't really want your help, does he?
You can make a child try new foods. You can't make a grown man do anything he doesn't want to do. So which is it?0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
I don't see the problem with that. Pasta can be pretty calorie dense and it has some protein - both what you want for bulking.
I guess I don't understand why he needs to try new foods to bulk.0 -
Nuts?
So now you're going to mother him instead...smh.0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
I don't see the problem with that. Pasta can be pretty calorie dense and it has some protein - both what you want for bulking.
I guess I don't understand why he needs to try new foods to bulk.
Because it's really tiring to cook the same food all the time when in my home country I love to try new things in the kitchen.0 -
Add lots of vegetables to pasta ...a little extra olive oil as someone suggested......how about more of cheese? Since he loves pasta you can try more of cheesy pastas....you can make different kinds of pizzas....Italians love pizza (everyone does
hmm) ...
Beans, spinach, pulses, cheese, full fat greek yogurts, nuts, avocados for abundant protein....you can make some yummy salads with some protein dense foods....and some groundnuts thrown in...:flowerforyou:0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
I don't see the problem with that. Pasta can be pretty calorie dense and it has some protein - both what you want for bulking.
I guess I don't understand why he needs to try new foods to bulk.
Because it's really tiring to cook the same food all the time when in my home country I love to try new things in the kitchen.
So try new things. If he doesn't want to try it or eat it he can fix his own.
Or, if you really want to, make some of what you want and some of what you know he will eat. Or add a little something new to his usual dish, don't change it all at once.0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
I don't see the problem with that. Pasta can be pretty calorie dense and it has some protein - both what you want for bulking.
I guess I don't understand why he needs to try new foods to bulk.
Because it's really tiring to cook the same food all the time when in my home country I love to try new things in the kitchen.
So essentially, it's about you, not him.0 -
^^This^^ My boyfriend didn't know how to cook when we first got together because his Mother didn't *trust* him in the kitchen. Once I gave him free reign to play and experiment, I'm sitting back and seriously enjoying the concoctions he comes up with now!why are you trying so hard to "make" him do something he truly doesnt want to do? he knows where the kitchen is, doesnt he?
I don't have the right mind-set to consider that to be okay. If it were up to him he would eat pasta for lunch and dinner every day.
I don't see the problem with that. Pasta can be pretty calorie dense and it has some protein - both what you want for bulking.
I guess I don't understand why he needs to try new foods to bulk.
Because it's really tiring to cook the same food all the time when in my home country I love to try new things in the kitchen.
So try new things. If he doesn't wan to try it or eat it he can fix his own.
Or, if you really want to, make some of what you want and some of what you know he will eat. Or add a little something new to his usual dish, don't change it all at once.
That's a pretty fool-proof idea actually. Him and I can't eat the same foods since I'm on a different diet than him, but adding to his usual dish might work very well!
Also I think he doesn't like trying new things because as a kid he ate only the same foods all the time. I'd like him to try new yummy foods that I know will be fattening because I enjoy cooking them and maybe he'll end up loving them and he won't have to eat vegetable pie, frittata, and pasta every day.0
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