LESS Alcohol ~ DECEMBER 2024 ~ One Day at A Time

MissMay
MissMay Posts: 3,773 Member
in Motivation and Support
Do you want to drink LESS? Completely stop or just cut back?

Cutting back can mean ONE less drink a day, week or month. Or deciding to drink on only weekends or at special occasions.

On the flip side, maybe you could use this nudge to finally get to that completely sober point and be all in-alcohol free.

Join us in drinking LESS (whatever that means for you) as we continue to support and learn from each other.
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  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,773 Member
    ■ LESS ALCOHOL RESOURCE & GENERAL INFORMATION LIST ■

    USING THIS THREAD:
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    •Join us at any time.
    •Set your own goal - this thread is about drinking less and you decide what that means to you.
    •There are no scheduled check-ins - post as often or as little as you want or need.
    •AF is an acronym for Alcohol Free. For others commonly used on this site see - https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1069278/acronyms-and-terms-for-new-mfp-members-v-6/p1
    •To follow this thread easily, bookmark it by clicking on the star at the top right of this thread.
    •Remember that we are here for you and care about you. Check in with us when you have time and let us know what you need!

    TIPS & OBSERVATIONS FROM OUR USERS:
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    •Getting Started or Starting Over.
    •Some people find it easier to set small attainable goals at the beginning to help boost confidence.
    •If you have been drinking daily the first days will be some of the hardest and drinking again will feel like a cure but it delays the relief that only time can provide.
    •There will always be a reason to delay the start/restart of your journey.
    •For those ready to commit to being alcohol-free permanently, the videos on YouTube by Craig Beck will help. He also has a program you can join.
    •You may experience mood swings and anxiety during your first two weeks. It is suggested you try and focus on the benefits of your goal.
    •Cravings are said to last only 6 minutes, so find something to distract you like arming yourself with alternatives: tea, mock-tails, activities, etc.
    •You may find that filling the time you drink with other activities like exercise or hobbies can be a helpful distraction.
    •If you find them tempting try and avoid events/outings that will have drinking for a time.
    •Don't let pride or shame keep you from asking for the help you need.
    •Sometimes talking it out or posting your thoughts/feelings/struggles may help you work things out for yourself.
    •It is okay that you don't always have all the answers.
    •Some days will be easier than others.
    •You may have initial/increased sugar cravings.
    •You should never take a day that you have lived up to your goals for granted.
    •Celebrate the smaller victories too. Less alcohol is still less alcohol even if your goal was zero at that moment.
    •Once you begin sticking to your goals for one day to many days you should believe you are capable of the same and more because you are.
    •Failure is not giving in and drinking. Failure is to stop trying to accomplish your goals.
    •Annie Grace (This Naked Mind author) has a free program on her website (https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/) called the 30 day experiment which can be joined anonymously.

    Life with Less Alcohol:
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    •It can be helpful to educate yourself with books and web research (Some suggested books and links listed below).
    •There is no benefit to comparing yourself to others because this is a personal journey.
    •You may often feel conflicted. You will know that there are numerous real benefits to sticking to your goal while at the same time think that alcohol is an important part of stress relief, relaxation, celebration, etc.
    •You may feel punished by not drinking or drinking less but that feeling usually fades with time.
    •Sometimes drinking less or quitting will strain friendships that centered around alcohol.
    •Having a list of reasons to stick to your goals handy for yourself can be helpful. Some lists have included remembering how bad it feels to have a hangover, excess/unwanted calories, having a racing heart during the night, sleeplessness, anxiety, and depression.
    •It is a good idea to have a plan for how you might deal with various tempting scenarios before engaging in a social situation.
    •Self-Reflection is an important part of the journey. Once we figure out why we drink we can hopefully use that information to form new habits and make better and more mindful decisions.
    •Sometimes doing something nice for yourself like a little reward for a success makes the journey easier.
    •You will see many helpful suggestions and ideas that work for some people. However, finding what tactics work for you may involve some trial and error.
    •It is not uncommon for certain activities that were once combined with alcohol to trigger temptation. Many have said that outdoor activities in warmer weather made alcohol very tempting.
    •Many that have spent time with no alcohol after drinking again realized that it doesn't enhance experiences like they once believed it did. Some have said they no longer like the taste.
    •Don't forget how sticking to your goal has made your life better and remember it to motivate you again if you fall off your path.
    •If you begin drinking daily again whether planned like a vacation or unplanned you may once again face a struggle to get it under control.
    •For some people it is easier to not drink than it is to moderate drinking. Others have found moderating impossible.

    Reported Benefits of Less or No Drinking: (Results may be incremental, and/or they may vary)
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    •Improved sleep after 2,4,7,10,& 60 days
    •Improved skin/complexion after 10 days
    •Improved ease in weight loss. Not only from the savings of alcohol calories but some report making poor food choices after drinking.
    •Increased energy after as few as 2 days
    •Increase in other fun activities. Some have found that daily drinking became their main recreational activity and their world was decreased in size.
    •Increased productivity
    •Reduction of high blood pressure
    •Lower resting heart rate
    •Less Acid Re-flux
    •Significant financial savings
    •More creativity
    •More productivity
    •Better relationships with family

    When Alcohol Is Used for Avoidance:
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    •We drink to ease the stress of the working day, to avoid it.
    •We drink to avoid anxiety in social situations.
    •We drink to avoid making decisions about not drinking.
    •The Takeaway on Avoidance, our problems don't go away if we avoid them. We need to learn to face them.
    •Having a clear head makes our problems seem much smaller.
    •Having a clear head makes problems easier to solve.

    How to Be Kind to "Tomorrow You":
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    •Instead of lumbering with guilt, headaches, and poor nutrition hangovers in the morning, Think of think how nice it would be not to feel that way tomorrow.
    •Worry about "me" and don't let "tomorrow Me" feel awful.
    •Instead of thinking alcohol is something nice to have *now*, think of *NOT drinking* as something nice we can do for the person we are when we awaken in the morning.
    •Do you bank calories for a festive occasion? (Handy tactic) We can bank a good mood for when we wake up.
    •We need to have sympathy for "Tomorrow You" and be kind to her/him.
    •Don't look at a day without alcohol as a punishment for being bad or having no willpower.
    •Not drinking is a lovely, sympathetic gesture towards the person we are now, and whom we will wake up as.
    •You’d be kind to a stranger. Be kind to "Tomorrow You".

    Credit and thanks to the MFP Less Alcohol One Day at a Time participants
    For their willingness to share their insights and resourcefulness in finding this information
    ~Established 2017~
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,790 Member
    I’m in! Happy December! Thanks for keeping us going @MissMay!
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 407 Member
    @NonnieDoiron You've been going through so much...I will pray for you! Please take care ❤️
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,773 Member
    GOOD MORNING !!!!

    @chicbuc wondered where you lifted off to. Welcome back. You will have to let us know where your trip mid-month is taking you.

    @itladyee great to see you posting back again as well. YES YES YES on joining the gym. Any motivation is good to keep you positive throughout the day. I recently joined our local rec center and the outdoor (I live in NW Florida) walking trail is amazing. Fresh air away from the street traffic.

    @xbowhunter you are checking all the boxes. We will be here all month in case someone tries to sway you from your ZERO alcohol goals.

    @womona hang tight at your holiday gathering tonight. I know you can keep within your goals, You are a STRONG woman. Have a fun LESS alcohol time.

    @globalhiker you are 7 days from your 100th day AF. How exciting. You have set the bar and are jumping over it.

    @SparkSpringtime69 you really had a stressful November. Let December be a good healing month for you to round out the year.

    @SurferGirl1982 OK here we are December. Your month to shine and to tell that drink devil to hit the road.

    @Michieb125 I used to be the same way. I would try to make everything perfect for the holidays. And be drinking like a fish at the same time. I like your realistic goals you set.

    @NonnieDoiron lots of good vibes your way as you navigate so much stuff recently.

    @tmbg1 AF until Christmas Eve sounds like a great streak.



  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 407 Member
    @NonnieDoiron Congrats on getting the raise. And, your December stats are perfect 👍

    And, I certainly wish the best for your MIL. You must all be sitting on pins and needles! Hugs to all of you!
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 407 Member
    Today has been a quite emotional day for me. My issues are nothing like some others in this group are facing.

    But, there's a gal on MFP (not this group) that I've had a problem with. I can't tell you her name or the threads she's created because I will get in trouble with MFP. I purposely had MFP delete most of my posts from her threads (they were all polite and caring). My last post was also deleted by MFP (along with two other members posts before mine). I could quote something that she posted about herself. But, that's probably against the rules too. Some people just want to be right.

    I thought about no longer posting at all. I haven't been in this group that long. And even though we have never met I consider you my friends and family. I don't like not being able to tell my friends what's going on. But, that's the way it is.

    Anyways, I'm going to still hang in. I imagine someone will report that person someday.
  • SparkSpringtime69
    SparkSpringtime69 Posts: 1,230 Member
    @missmay as always a huge hug and thank you for continuing this thread month after month. It really is encouraging to read about others' struggles and successes. Lets us know we're not alone.
    @xbowhunter 78 days is awesome!! You're so right about being better off in the long run.
    @globalhiker 93 days is phenomenal! And the money saved by going AF really adds up pretty quickly.
    @chicbuc so glad to see you back for December. I didn't have quite the AF November I was planning either, so this month I plan to push myself to get through the cravings somehow.

    Be back later for more, I'm starving and need some breakfast :)

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