My friends want me to drink?!

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  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    My advice. DON'T mask your drink to make it look like an alcoholic beverage. What is this 3rd grade where Jenny, Sally and Katie all have pink hair bows so now you have to have one too?

    You don't drink, period! They'll just have to accept it. I agree with others, you not drinking makes them question their own drinking and they don't like that (maybe they drink TOO MUCH?)

    Sorry, end rant. So sick of the "just a little" type mentality or "fake it" so people get off your back. No. If you don't want to do something, don't do it!
  • onwarddownward
    onwarddownward Posts: 1,683 Member
    I just don't drink. If someone wants me to drink, I tell them no. If that doesn't work, I start thinking, why the heck am I hanging around this loser?

    How would you deal with someone trying to get you to do drugs or engage in sexual behavior that you were not interested in? Same deal.
  • Senneth12
    Senneth12 Posts: 72
    I don't drink. It's more accurate to say that I can't drink.

    I get questions sometimes, but not as often as before.

    My friends like always having a sober driver :)
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    You are experiencing peer pressure. It's completely fair to hold a glass of water and pretend that you're working on a tumbler of vodka, to get people to shut up.
  • Famoux
    Famoux Posts: 5
    Few things are harder than staying away from alcohol. Even after you have succeeded in self discipline, your friends are there and ready to make you fail. I know first hand cause i've tried to stay away from alcohol, my friends did enough to make me become a bad influence on myself.
  • garber6th
    garber6th Posts: 1,890 Member
    A LONG time ago I decided not to drink much, if at all, because I didn't want to be the obnoxious drunk chick everyone talks about the day after the party, because, um, I ended up being that on more than one occasion. Sometimes I do tell people that's why I don't drink, but people don't really push the issue about me drinking with them, maybe because I am older.
  • NonnyMary
    NonnyMary Posts: 982 Member
    My advice. DON'T mask your drink to make it look like an alcoholic beverage. What is this 3rd grade where Jenny, Sally and Katie all have pink hair bows so now you have to have one too?

    You don't drink, period! They'll just have to accept it. I agree with others, you not drinking makes them question their own drinking and they don't like that (maybe they drink TOO MUCH?)

    Sorry, end rant. So sick of the "just a little" type mentality or "fake it" so people get off your back. No. If you don't want to do something, don't do it!

    That may be true, however, sometimes you just dont want to be bothered with all the drama and so its easier for a person to do that.
  • NonnyMary
    NonnyMary Posts: 982 Member
    if someone offers you wine, you could say "oh no thankx, but i will take a Pepsi"
  • jerryvo
    jerryvo Posts: 66 Member
    Since you can't control the people around you (beyond finding new people) I think you should reevaluate your answer to the question. By saying "I don't want to" you are opening up way to many questions for people: Is she a party pooper, a recovering alcoholic, etc... I would give a reason (though you shouldn't have to). Too many calories is a great one. It will address their inquiry directly and limit the scope of any follow up questions so you can come up with more stock answered when needed.

    I also think it is a good idea to fit in. If everybody around you is in party town don't stand there with your can of diet coke. Pour it into a keg cup and garnish it with a lime. This will defuse most questions before they are asked. I'm not saying to get crazy and put lemonade in a beer bottle but try and blend in a bit.

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