Really struggling to get going. All or nothing mindset holding me back

DanielleMorgan1076
DanielleMorgan1076 Posts: 1 Member
edited October 30 in Motivation and Support

Im 37, F.

Im Pretty short at 157cm (5"2) and 160lbs.

I joined a David Lloyd, got a PT once a week. Thats beyond what I can afford. And im STILL not getting my butt to the gym!

Ive made 0 progress in 2 months. And basically thrown money away.

The ony reason I show up is to be accountable to my PT.

I think maybe I need some accountability.

Any help? Tips?

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  • anxietyfairy
    anxietyfairy Posts: 221 Member

    Can you get the PT to make a program for days you're not with him? it would also probably be good to make a few friends that use the same gym to go with.

  • adialeigh
    adialeigh Posts: 6 Member

    I am having the exact same issue. I have PT sessions 3x a week and its the only time I get my butt to the gym. She's more of a lifting coach and my sessions are only 30 m. I'm starting perimenopause and my eating is out of control. I am gaining weight like crazy and its not muscle… Totally all or nothing and a defeatist so if I m not doing everything 100%, I just give up. Need more accountability.

  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 38,243 Community Helper

    Probably not what a person wants to hear, but I think accountability means accountability to ourselves. It's not something someone else can give us.

    When I was obese, I knew what would be involved in weight loss, and I didn't do those things. That was a decision. Making a different decision was 100% in my control. If I said I wanted to lose weight, but I didn't do those essential things, I was lying to myself (and to the world).

    Nothing was going to happen until I got serious and committed to the necessary process. No one else was going to change what I put in my mouth, chewed and swallowed, or make me move more if I felt like sitting. It was me.

    Honestly, I don't know what flipped the switch in my head to "I'm doing this". If I did know, I'd bottle it, sell it, and make millions. But it was THE thing that needed to happen. Once it did, the process was honestly simpler than I'd expected, though not psychologically easy every single second, of course. (Change never is.)

    IMO, it doesn't need to be an instant revolution, changing every life habit in big ways all at once. It can be small positive changes that build on each other gradually, which may be more manageable.

    Too many people show up here with a plan to cut calories to the bone, impose all kinds of restrictive eating rules (maybe a trendy named diet), often even stack a punitively intense daily workout plan on top of that. That doesn't usually end well, but it typically ends quickly. It's just too hard.

    The right solution will look different for everyone: We're each unique individuals with different preferences, strengths, limitations, challenges, and lifestyles. Personalization of the plan - if you ask me - is key.

    If your experience is like mine, the quality of life improvement will be more than worth the effort it takes to accomplish.

    Wishing you success!

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