NO ONE is looking at you
1PatientBear
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They just aren't. Go to the gym. Go run. 99.9 percent of people at the gym or running aren't going to look at you or, if they do, it's a head nod or a quick hi. That is it. And honestly, when I see someone who is really out of shape exercising, I think to myself "good for them" because I DO understand how tough it is for them. I know most of my fitness-focused friends think along those same lines. Don't automatically think people are having negative thoughts about you. It may be exactly the opposite and you are an inspiration, whether you realize it or not.
But let's pretend for a minute that someone DOES look at you. So what?? Some jerk may think mean things or someone might even SAY mean things. Most people won't but let's pretend they do. Instead of letting them get in your head and get you upset, USE that as motivation. Write it down and stick it on your mirror at home or something. Then, a month from now or six months from now or a year from now or whatever, you can look at it again and smile because you KNOW you have made more progress than the *kitten* who made that mean comment.
Don't give others the power to affect your life. Other people can be jerks but only YOU can choose how you react to it. Everyone starts somewhere.....but you have to suck it up and start if you ever want to be able to reach your goal.
But let's pretend for a minute that someone DOES look at you. So what?? Some jerk may think mean things or someone might even SAY mean things. Most people won't but let's pretend they do. Instead of letting them get in your head and get you upset, USE that as motivation. Write it down and stick it on your mirror at home or something. Then, a month from now or six months from now or a year from now or whatever, you can look at it again and smile because you KNOW you have made more progress than the *kitten* who made that mean comment.
Don't give others the power to affect your life. Other people can be jerks but only YOU can choose how you react to it. Everyone starts somewhere.....but you have to suck it up and start if you ever want to be able to reach your goal.
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They just aren't. Go to the gym. Go run. 99.9 percent of people at the gym or running aren't going to look at you or, if they do, it's a head nod or a quick hi. That is it. And honestly, when I see someone who is really out of shape exercising, I think to myself "good for them" because I DO understand how tough it is for them. I know most of my fitness-focused friends think along those same lines. Don't automatically think people are having negative thoughts about you. It may be exactly the opposite and you are an inspiration, whether you realize it or not.
But let's pretend for a minute that someone DOES look at you. So what?? Some jerk may think mean things or someone might even SAY mean things. Most people won't but let's pretend they do. Instead of letting them get in your head and get you upset, USE that as motivation. Write it down and stick it on your mirror at home or something. Then, a month from now or six months from now or a year from now or whatever, you can look at it again and smile because you KNOW you have made more progress than the *kitten* who made that mean comment.
Don't give others the power to affect your life. Other people can be jerks but only YOU can choose how you react to it. Everyone starts somewhere.....but you have to suck it up and start if you ever want to be able to reach your goal.
I love you. That is all.
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Sooooo you weren't checkin me out?0
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Sooooo you weren't checkin me out?
Thats where the original poster is wrong!
LOL, I think they were talking about out of shape people, not you!0 -
i was gonna say, i hope someone's giving me the once over and a "heyyyyyyyyyy, how you doin?"....0
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Sooooo you weren't checkin me out?
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Oh, who are you kidding...EVERYONE is looking at me!
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I stare.0
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If this were a facebook status I would like it!0
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Sooooo you weren't checkin me out?
Thats where the original poster is wrong!
LOL, I think they were talking about out of shape people, not you!
OP knows what I mean lol0 -
Oh, who are you kidding...EVERYONE is looking at me!
I'm watching you!!0 -
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The girl at the next treadmill looked at me and I know she was thinking what a fat cow I was, how unstylish my work-out clothes were, and how I wasn't wearing make-up and smelled like butt. I could see it in her eyes and I'm 99.9% certain she was judging me. Yay, now I have an excuse not to go back!0
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I want everyone to look at me. I wear a light up shirt that say "CHECK ME OUT"
or this
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I'm watching you run.0
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:flowerforyou: Exactly!!0
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If anyone says anything to you, chances are they are going to lose their membership. Gyms WANT everyone to be comfortable and be there and get healthy.
As for the girl on the treadmill next to you, PP, chances are she was thinking "good for her... damn when will this timer run out so I can go have a latte"0 -
Lies! I was doing squats and caught a guy looking at my rear. He even admitted it. I didn't mind one bit :blushing:0
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Actually, I'm creeping on your yoga pants....sorry, I just am.0
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I agree! Get your sweat on and don't give a crap about those around you!0
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this is exactly what i need at the exact time. thank you for this. i may have the balls to go sign up today just because of this post. god works in mysterious ways. thanks again. ive been wanting to go. but of course, too scared of being the fat girl there.0
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You should never let that stupid awkward feeling keep you from being who you wanna be, like the OP said it's mainly all in your head. I have great respect for the over weight people in the gym because I know alot worry about that kind of thing and push though those sh!tty feelings, and that takes courage....a whole lot more than giving into embarrassment or shame if you can't correct those feelings than you'll never be able to correct the body that accompanies them....be brave and be yourself screw everybody else, just blair your ipod and get in the zone....music is the only thing I need to distract me from those kinds of feelings even if there is a 250 lb bodybuilder on the bench next to me.
Remember one thing: Nobody starts from the top....nobody0 -
Sometimes it feels like, somebody's watching me.0
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Everyone stares at/judges eachother. In the gym though it's usually not negative.. it's more like "Man, I wish I could run that fast" or something similar, but paranoid people automatically assume people are all discussing how they sound like a bull stampede running across the treadmill.
When I run outdoors some people literally stick their head out the window and drive by slow to blatantly stare. Nosey, nosey people. Either way, let them judge if they want.0 -
Sometimes it feels like, somebody's watching me.
I'm sorry, I'll try to hide better.0 -
oh, but they are.
EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT YOU,ALL THE TIME0 -
Everyone stares at/judges eachother. In the gym though it's usually not negative.. it's more like "Man, I wish I could run that fast" or something similar, but paranoid people automatically assume people are all discussing how they sound like a bull stampede running across the treadmill.
When I run outdoors some people literally stick their head out the window and drive by slow to blatantly stare. Nosey, nosey people. Either way, let them judge if they want.
Ya that's pretty much normal with us guys checking girls out...who cares? That's normal girls check out guys too just not in such an obvious in your face kind of way....You got someone checking you that hard it's because you're turning them on0 -
Nah, girls check out girls just as much in a completely non-sexual way. Many girls dress up FOR other girls because of the incessant judging lolEveryone stares at/judges eachother. In the gym though it's usually not negative.. it's more like "Man, I wish I could run that fast" or something similar, but paranoid people automatically assume people are all discussing how they sound like a bull stampede running across the treadmill.
When I run outdoors some people literally stick their head out the window and drive by slow to blatantly stare. Nosey, nosey people. Either way, let them judge if they want.
Ya that's pretty much normal with us guys checking girls out...who cares? That's normal girls check out guys too just not in such an obvious in your face kind of way....You got someone checking you that hard it's because you're turning them on0 -
I look. I don't judge. Other than to judge and say. Nice work. Beating the rest of the population who are not here.0
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I don't mind if people are looking at me... unless it's when i'm falling on the treadmill or something
I stare allllll the time 0 -
STOP LOOKING AT ME!0
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