That you're not one of us feeling

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  • NRSPAM
    NRSPAM Posts: 961 Member
    We're just all a bunch of misfits! Lol. I think a lot of the times, people just get used to their own click or group, and are not very welcoming to outsiders. Personally, I don't care. people can take me or leave me. I'm not going to change. Add me if you like. :)
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    My guess is if you're trying to hard to fit in it backfires. If you stay quiet, chances are they'll start talking to you of sheer curiosity. I learned that in gradeschool. Also, if people are having private convos and you try to join in, they will be like wtf, lol.

    I do know what you mean, OP. Just try and shrug it off. Some peeps only roll in cliques and they'll never let you in.
  • balguy
    balguy Posts: 19 Member
    If it happens in one place it could be just them , but otherwise:
    I believe is all about liking your self enough, and feeling strong self worth. Too much is also not good.

    People want to talk about themselves not about you, so if you want to be liked start by been truly interested in the person, ask about their interests, how they got involved with the event, etc... you be surprise,many times people talk to me for a long time, I dont say anything about myself, just let them go on and on and afterwards without having said anything about me they are offering me business referals etc..

    And lastly people do judge books by their covers, smile, dress in a respectful matter, shower, deodorant, make sure your teeth does not scare people, ask your close friends for feedback. Dont interrupt conversations ever!!:smile:
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
    Well, I transferred (tried) to another department but got rejected, even though the fire chief clearer me, because my references were bad ( they never talked to any of my personal references and I know my employer said good about me considering that I've been asked back on duty every season and I'm on good terms with them) and due to my interactions w/ the other departments officers and the one I was trying to join ( I was playing bus boy ( I'm female) on duty and I barely said anything to officers) ( plus the membership recruiter is also with the cliquey department and buddy buddy with the other organization's membership officer. I don't think she liked my reason for leaving the cliquey department)

    I officially feel like crap and Aunt Flo ain't helpin' either.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    One of us
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    oops, sorry couldnt help it
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
    One of us
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    oops, sorry couldnt help it

    It's cool. Lol, you made my day.
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
    One of us
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    oops, sorry couldnt help it

    It's cool. Lol, you made my day.

    Hey, I'm back again and I was wondering if it's possible a potential employer could lie about what a reference said? I asked my reference (including job references) They all said they never got a call...and I don't think my former employer would say anything bad about me because I left for the Army on good terms...
  • clarkeje1
    clarkeje1 Posts: 1,641 Member
    I hate when people act like that. I was at a party at my boyfriend's friends house. Tried to join in their conversation but was ignored by everyone and they gave me dirty looks. They even brought a drink out for my boyfriend and didn't even offer me one or say hi. I ended up just going outside and calling my friend to talk and waited till my boyfriend was done hanging out. Needless to say we haven't been over their house again.
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
    I hate when people act like that. I was at a party at my boyfriend's friends house. Tried to join in their conversation but was ignored by everyone and they gave me dirty looks. They even brought a drink out for my boyfriend and didn't even offer me one or say hi. I ended up just going outside and calling my friend to talk and waited till my boyfriend was done hanging out. Needless to say we haven't been over their house again.

    Can't join em', have fun by yourself! Their unwillingness to get to know someone is their issue, not mine...
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
    In need of answers, not getting any...

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